How long had you known your DP/DH before having sex?

[strawberrysea]

Inspired by another thread where a commenter suggested refusing to have sex until marriage in order to filter men who were serious about marriage and relationships.

I'd known DP for about two hours 😳 hadn't conducted myself in that way previously, but we've been together for nearly six years now!

In the past I'd waited months before beginning a sexual relationship with a partner and still got binned in the coming days/weeks and so I'm of the mind that if a man wants a woman just for sex he's usually prepared to wait it out, which is obviously horrible behaviour.

Obligatory 'not a journalist' disclaimer.

Two weeks...married 38 😊

Second date - think we had been chatting on line for a couple of weeks. To be honest it would have happened on the first date but I had to get back to my daughter.......

I've always been first or second date - don't think I have waited any longer than that since I turned 18......

Erm a few hours, I was 22 so was he! Still together 21 years later!!

A month…he would have gone for it sooner 😂 but it had been a long time for both of us (both split from previous long term relationships and been single for a while) and I didn’t want to rush it. He assured me it was worth the wait!

How on earth did I guess this would be full of, 'slept together 3 minutes after I met him, he never left my house and still married 500 years later.' 🙄
My most recent partner I knew him several years beforehand as a friend, years later got back in touch out of the blue, we spoke online for 3 months as it was the start of the pandemic, decided to date and he came to stay with me for a week where it then happened.
Usually I tended to on the 4th or 5th date, I did once on the first date, it wasn't a particular rule I'm just really not comfortable being intimate with someone I've literally just met that day, in a t case in 99% of the scenarios they were 'suddenly' no longer interested afterwards so it must be something off-putting about me.

And I’ve slept with people on the first date and never heard from them again so works both ways!

@Ageingisaprivilegedeniedtomany And what’s wrong with that?

3rd date, so about 3 weeks... Together 21 years, he still lights my fire. 🔥

5 years lmao..
But I think you should have sex when you want to have sex. Genuinely believe if id had sex with DH hours after meeting him we would have still ended up married.. its just the course of events meant that did not happen and we were friends for 5 years, even dating other people..
I think any man who would behave differently towards you considering how quickly you slept with them, is not someone any woman would have a good time being married to anyway. I dont view sex as some kind of reward I view it as a mutually enjoyable activity that may or may not lead to a deeper emotional relationship.

2 years. Sex on our wedding night. Married for 44 years.

I didn't say anything is wrong with it, but it's very disheartening to see how it's all worked out perfectly for what feels like most people except you.

7 dates, not sure how long that was

I've known my DH since I was 6 years old 🤣 we waited till we were 18, so 12 years 🥰 but we'd been going out for about a year.

After six months (we were at uni). I would have sooner but he wanted to wait (he's from a catholic and formal family). It did my head in at the time because I fancied the pants off him and still do.
Years later he said on our first date, I had stroked his leg and accidentally touched his balls through his trousers/underpants. It took him about 20 years to tell me this. I didn't realise how forward much of a creep I was.
He took ages to ask me on a date too because he assumed I had a boyfriend.
He still says I don't know why I was hesitant to have sex. Like wtf. He was a virgin, so for me that made him even more attractive because he hadn't slept about.

Usually 4th date and the relationships that followed were anything between a few weeks and a few years.

Northside that is similar to how my she was but he was so nice I waited (though it still annoys me ) I feel like his parents had a say in how my relationship was in reality (maybe that doesn’t make sense)
anyway the annoying thing about the Catholic Church is how much was covered up and yet normal consensual sex is ‘wrong’

Together for a year. I made the poor man wait!

A few months but a week from when we had officially gotten together. Would have been sooner but didn't have the opportunity. My experience has that's been little correlation between length/seriousness of relationship and length of time waited to shag tbh.

4/5 hours but we’ve been married over 8 years now

One night stand. 30 years later...

Few hours. Met in a club and he came back to mine. Never left. It's been twenty years now.

First date! I often wonder if we hadn't had sex on the first date if we would still be together. I didn't see him until 2 months later because he was travelling, then had a serious car accident. I felt like the sex kind of added weight to the relarionship/binded us. Still together 13 years later

A few hours. Well, as long as it took to drink two Smirnoff ices and get back to mine!

Around about the second date (it was over 30 years ago) but then I wasn’t thinking about marriage etc, I was just interested in having a good time. I’d always sleep with a bloke quickly so I wasn’t wasting my time if he was weird in bed - sexual compatibility matters, I wouldn’t bother emotionally investing until I had checked I liked his bedroom moves.

One week