How often does your partner make you cry?

[HarryBat]

Or put another way, how often do you cry as a result of an interaction with your partner?

Neither did I- it’s very eye opening!

When I get frustrated I don't cry, I get angry and sound off.

Once, as the result of a very precious gift he gave me.

With my ex I’d say it was at least 5 times a week. I didn’t realise that was wrong.

One hell of a rough patch! Over now, it’s calm and lovely.

Depends on your relationship. OH will avoid conflict so if I disagree he tends to let me have my way. I did realise fairly on that I was becoming a taker and he was the one giving so I do go out of my way to take his views on board. Fortunately we're pretty similar in outlook and interests.

Can you give us an example?

I think some women use crying as manipulation.

I've been with my DH for 22 years. I don't ever remember him upsetting me enough to make me cry. But I have cried tears of happiness when he's surprised me with something incredibly thoughtful or touching (maybe 4 times in 20 years! 🤣).

We have been together 10 years, and the only times I have cried because of him were a) when we said our wedding vows b) when we were in an ambulance andI thought he was going to die

I have never cried because we have argued or he has shouted at me/called me names/got aggressive in any way.

Maybe three times in 20 years? when we've had an argument on top of, or because of, me already being stressed about something. We have argued more than three times in 20 years obviously but no it's not a usual thing for him to make me cry - if he was regularly making me cry we wouldn't be together anymore!

Never. We don’t have a dramatic relationship.

Maybe once or twice a year in healthy relationships but I am a sensitive woman if I'm honest!

I consider we have a healthy relationship with some opposing views on politics in particular. We'd be known as a couple who have a healthy but vocal relationship. 40 odd years together.

Tears.. maybe once or twice a year.

I'm going to edit my reponse to say once or twice in the past few years. In the early days there were more rows and more tears. Crying due to emotion is normal in my book. That can be frustration, anger, loss, fear... all of the things that we experience when we fight with a lover.

Crying due to intentional meanness is something else

How 'normal' do people think arguments are?

Once in over a decade. I was in my first trimester though and anything could make me cry at that point so not sure how much blame he really deserves for it. 😅

Arguments are normal. Nastiness is not normal

We've been together 15 years, married for 12. He's never made me cry. In fact, I can probably count on one hand how many proper arguments we've had.

Difference of opinion - very common and normal.

Well not necessarily. Don't get me wrong DH and I argue occasionally but while we might get shitty with each other it never escalates into tears, because we'll hear each other out

Maybe three times in 18 years and those were tears of frustration/anger rather than distress.

In 30+ years, I think I have only cried in front of my partner a handful of times, e.g. at a funeral, or for something silly like stubbing my toe! We don't really do arguments.
On the odd occasion he has upset me (not deliberately), I would take myself out of the room so that I could deal with my emotions in private.

He made me cry when l came downstairs and he had sanded and varnished all my wooden flooring - it looked so amazing and l was just overwhelmed! At the time it was my house, he just used to come and stay.
Sad tears? Never.

No, it isn’t. And I am an emotional person. I cry over MANY things which most people don’t cry about. My husband has made me cry maybe three times in 19 years.

33 years together and Never. wtf. Either you cry too easily or he is a tosser. Take your pick

He has regularly held me whilst I cried but has never been the cause of the tears (except one silly bout of happy crying!) We’ve been going out nearly 12 months. If he made me cry I’d leave him.

Never. Well, we’ve been together nearly 30 years. Maybe a couple of times in the first 2 years when we were much younger.