How often does your partner make you cry?

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Or put another way, how often do you cry as a result of an interaction with your partner?

Yikes, these messages are making me realise how bad my relationship with my ex-husband (a few months into separation) really was. I would cry after arguments at least once or twice a month 😞

Never

Don't any of you cry happy tears? My partner ( R.I.P Steve).. made me cry happy tears with gestures and sayings and sometimes l cried after making love with him because it was so connecting.
He never made me cry with being nasty to me or l wouldn't have been with him.. but he still makes me cry now because l miss him so much. Yes I've taken the question literally.

Urm so far like once maybe twice in 3years and I was pregnant for 9 months and I'm sure one was then when I was extremely hormonal

Once, when I was 9 months pregnant and he lost his patience with my bad driving directions and apologised immediately.

Only once in 30plus years.

I'm pretty sure the op isn't on about tears of joy.

Never

More days than not. Often more than once a day.

Not necessarily crying directly to anything he says or does. Just that he is an awful, awful person and torture to live with and its broken me.

I hate him. Everytime he leaves the house I hope he dies.

A partner who makes you cry is so hurtful, disappointing and stressful.

maybe twice in 10 years so far

Same- eventually got to the point where it was less often simply because I was so numb to it all…

Honestly all these responses have made me believe in true love- I’m so happy for you all as you seem to have found it 🥰

I’m so so sorry. I hope you can get away soon xxx

Why do you stay? So sorry you're going through this

Seldom if ever. Last time was a few years ago I was looking after my elderly parents and he hadn't been feeling well. I got a call from one of our daughters because he was in hospital. I went to see him and he told me he hadn't said znything because he didn't want to upset me, he was fine. I asked the sister and the consultant who told me he was very ill and had almost died. I was so angry and frustrated that he hadn't said anything.

@namechangedforthisofcourse can you get out? At least start planning?

Seldom if ever. Last time was a few years ago I was looking after my elderly parents and he hadn't been feeling well. I got a call from one of our daughters because he was in hospital. I went to see him and he told me he hadn't said znything because he didn't want to upset me, he was fine. I asked the sister and the consultant who told me he was very ill and had almost died. I was so angry and frustrated that he hadn't said anything.

Never.
He has never made me cry. He's never hurt me or ever said anything remotely hurtful. And I know he never will and neither will I, we respect one another so much. I couldn't think of anything worse than intentionally hurting him or calling him names etc.
I've had that with exes and so has he. We are very open and honest with one another and talk things out rather than get annoyed. Stuff is always nipped in the bud.

Its quite eye opening, you realise that this is exactly what real loving respectful relationships should be. There's no excuse for anger or pain directed from one to the other.

Hope that helps.

once or twice in 15 years. Once when we had a terrible fight over literally nothing, it escalated and he told me to fuck off to bed. Another time we had a terrible fight (again, over nothing) and I said we might as well divorce and he agreed. That's all that comes to mind. He has probably cried as a result of fighting with me once or twice as well.

My ex made me cry nearly every day. That's not normal

Not once in 30 years.

Wow. This is enlightening. I thought maybe some people were fortunate enough to rarely cry in their relationships. I didn't realise it was the majority. 😳

Relationships should make you happy OP. That's literally the point of them. Your partner should make life better for you. If that's not happening, you can opt out

But surely having an argument and there being tears involved is normal? Not blazing hysterical rows, just...emotion? Frustration?

How often do you cry because of him OP?

And what sort of relationship models did you see around you growing up?

Very rarely, to the point I couldn't even tell you when it last happened.

Maybe half a dozen times in 37 years.