Partner just put pets in danger

[TheFoundation]

How would you feel? We have a child-gate to separate our cat and dog. The dog is a terrier, and chases cats. We had a pet each when we met, and have used this solution for a long time with no issues. The cat is 21, and so, stays in mostly, but is taken for tours around the garden when the sun's out, and the dog is contained. We are all 4 usually very happy.

I just came back from walking the dog, fully expecting that the cat would be safely enclosed. My partner was expecting me at around that time. The dog went hurtling in through the door, as always... and the cat is wandering about, loose, in the hallway. I had to do a goalkeeper-like dive to stop the terrier getting at the cat, which would have been a very dangerous situation, given the fragility of the 21 year old cat. My partner said 'Oh, I left the gate open, I didn't realise the cat had even walked out', and did apologise, but...

I'm upset. The risk was enormous. My partner was so careless. An apology makes no difference, when my concern is the lack of awareness of risk.

@bratchlocks

To find out how other people would feel in the same situation. Exactly as I clearly stated in my OP. It's not the same as asking for advice about how I should feel, or what I should do, although apparently, many people do think that those things are the same, and that the person asking the question should follow their advice and accept their criticisms without question. And if not, be happy to be labelled 'angry', and to be told that their partner and pets should leave them.

Crazy thread. Nobody's telling me why they thought that 'How would you feel?' meant 'Tell me what to do' or 'Judge me', oddly :)

In the interests of accuracy, in your subsequent posts you did ask what you did wrong, and also asked specifically for advice on what you should do differently.

@5128gap I was asked why I posted originally, not for details of the subsequent discussion.

I asked people what they would advise when they were advising me to do what I'd already done, whilst still criticising me.

Op that is totally uncalled for.
These good people am have genuinely put very helpful suggestions to you and you're pooh poohed them all.
I'm beginning to wonder what you're really mad at your partner for ?
I love cats and would NEVER assumed the gate would be shut.
It would be the first thing I checked and THEN make sure good old Kitty was curled up on his favourite cushion.
We once had 2 cats and one dog.
They used ti chase each other round the house in a circle - drove my Dad mad.
My cats would have jumped over the gate anyway.
So whatever underlaying problems you have with DP this ain't it ....

Wow
@GreyCarpet
That was not unpleasant at all.
Op I'm sorry but, your poor dp.

THIS

@Ilovelurchers
FFS
I thought that was a very diplomatic post?
How old are you?
Is the Cat or Dog yours?

The lack of Self awareness is astounding

Wonderful
I wonder what op's dp is really thinking?
Just relieved it's over...for now.
How I can judge?
I used ti be just like op.
Well life knocked the rough edges off me - thank goodness.

Agreed
Reported

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Thanks for your comments, @TammyJones