Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

“Who says you can have babies with my baby”
(discussing me and dh starting a family)

That's fucking nasty. Size 12 is 2 sizes slimmer than my dream size!

oh so many awful comments. When I said I’d had a few I meant boyfriends mums etc when younger, some of those were lovely. My actual mother in law now dislikes me.

I told my (lovely but incredibly tactless) MIL that I'd discovered DH was having an affair when our kids were pre-schoolers. "Why, weren't you giving it to him?"

"I know why you don't like that dress, it's because it makes you look pregnant "
"You'll never keep him if you let him iron his own shirts"

Strangely, I miss her!

When I was told I'd miscarried, but then found out it was twins and one was still there. After ranting about work and not asking about the scan she knew we'd just been to have that morning, and after then being told one was left -
"Thank god because my day couldn't get much worse. And glad it's not twins."

When told the baby was a girl.
"Oh. Never mind"

There's so much more.

Mine announced to a dinner party that myself and my husband 'swanned' off on holiday short notice leaving her without help on her new house.

For the record I lost my dad then 8 month later lost my mum suddenly so my husband booked a break away straight after the funeral so give me time to grieve and be away from life for a bit

There’s been loads over the years, generally get on ok and try not to let them get to me but one of her corkers, told me that a daughter having DC are more special than a sons. She used to have SIL’s DC every weekend when younger, mine, older teens now, never had one sleepover. My own parents both died before I had DC. FIL also told me when DDog was PTS, it’s only a dog, not like a person has died, DDog helped me through 6 years of infertility.

I don’t miss my ex MIL. Poisonous old bat had an absolute obsession with her DILs’ (including me) weight (all three of us DILs were fairly bog standard size 12s).

Constant comments but the killer one was, sitting at the top table at my wedding to her son, nabbing my meal off me to swap with her husband’s because I’d been given a bigger portion. ‘You shouldn’t be eating all that!’

I’ve always wished I’d just tipped it over her!

She also said my friend was 'common' and 'not our kind of people' when it came to her possibly dating my brother in law
Very fur coat no knickers and negative to the hilt always. The rest of the family are very nice positive fun people. Opposite of her!

Mine told my dh’s best friend (also my friend) on our wedding day that she didn’t want him to marry me.

Middle of primark

shouts you look chubby today

I was 8 months pregnant! And yes i cried afterwards

was also a size 12/14 when pregnant as i lost 3 stone before going through ICSI treatment for our daughter.

Another on my birthday sending me messages saying my husband was cheating on me on such and such date, those dates he was with me as i just gave birth 😂.

Safe to say 7 years later she is not part of our lives and wished our daugther dead 😡

I absolutely loved my exMIL from my relationship in my early to mid 20’s and I will readily admit that exDP’s now wife is so lucky. Alas, I did not get lucky with my MIL. It’s been 10 years and I think it’s getting worse, although luckily DH laughs along with me. Classics include her bringing along a dignitas brochure the first time I met her, as what was the point now that he was with me? And when I got pregnant with her first DGC, telling me I had better ‘step up now and help poor DH as he can’t keep running round after me’. And I quote ‘had he considered training me like you would a dog?’. This was in response to DH saying he was flat out doing the cooking and cleaning as I was bed bound with pregnancy complications but was also working full time instead of handing in my GP sick note (due to a misguided loyalty to my company but that’s another story).

‘MIL told me and my soon to be husband that our wedding wasn't our day, it was our parents day.’

Mine said this as well 😂😂

not MIL (as not yet married).
she insists on using a nickname / abbreviation she chose. And tried to get my SO to use it as well.

backstory:

I have a somewhat unusual, flouncy and feminine name. My name can easily be abbreviated, the abbreviation happens to be the same as a fairly established, clearly masculine name.

let’s say something along the lines of Theodora nn Theo.

My SO, my family etc. all call me “Theo”.
MIL apparently hates it and insists on calling me “Dora”. And she has repeatedly tried to convince SO to call me “Dora” as well.

I have never introduced myself as “Dora” btw. I also sign Christmas cards, postcards etc. with “Theo”.

it’s not too bad in the grand scheme of things, I suppose. But her insistence on not using the name I clearly go by and - that’s what really grates - trying to convince her son to use the abbreviation she prefers… well, I’m really not too fond of it.

it seems very dominating / imposing.

Told me she wished she'd never got her son a British passport so he wouldn't have met me!

My one is amazing. I love her with all my heart, she is the backbone of our family and I'd be lost without her. The only 'bad' thing she ever said was when we told her what we named ds1. She paused and calmly said. 'Oh lord. Poor baby child. You better pick another one' So I did 🤣🤣🤣🤣

When we were dating, I was visiting their house where bf lived, and his car wouldn't start to take me home. He asked his dad if he could borrow their car and his dad said yes. His mum piped up "well it's half mine and I say no".

She wore a white dress to our wedding.

When we had fertility problems, kept bringing articles and books about female infertility, even though she knew it was her sons low sperm count.

I miscarried our first pregnancy (would have been her first GC). She popped in a few days later, on the way to a practice make up session for her DDs wedding, and was taken aback by how many cards and flowers I'd received. She'd come empty handed. On her return (DH was taking her to and from appointment) she'd bought a sad looking small bunch of flowers that had obviously come from the local garage forecourt.

Too many more to mention. She hated that I'd taken her precious boy away from her. She died fairly young from cancer and I wasn't sorry to see the back of her.

Oops, I've just realised that my comment about liking watching babies breastfeeding might sound a bit iffy!
I am not sure that I can explain what I mean without digging myself a bigger hole, but I will try:

What I love about it, is seeing a mum being able to give her dear baby all the nutrition it needs in the first few months of it's, and in such a simple but amazing way. Also, how content the baby looks whilst lying there suckling, and gazing into it's mums eyes, and that being just the right distance for a newborn to be able to focus on it's mum's eyes 🥰

When they work correctly, I think our bodies are nothing short of miraculous, and growing a tiny human being in our wombs, then giving birth to them, and then actually being able to feed them as well, just makes me feel - I can't actually think of the word I want, but it is somewhere along the lines of a mixture of astounded, wondrous/wonder full, bowled over, and Wow, but even more than all of those as well!

Maybe it is because with my first baby I struggled to produce enough milk to feed her, and I got useless and contradicting advice from the midwives. I was quite distraught about it, and couldn't help thinking things like 'if we were lost in the Sahara, my baby would die because I couldn't breastfeed her'! - looking back on that fear now, I think that we both might have died anyway seeings how in my imagination we were alone and lost in a desert! In the end my dear little one refused me completely, so I had to resort to bottle feeding her. I did a lot of research before my next baby was born, and I was able to exclusively breastfeed him until he was weaned, the relief I felt was immense 😁❤️

One of my mother in law's classic comments was when I told her I had just been diagnosed with breast cancer, and at that stage, I still didn't know how serious it was. Her reply was "never mind, at least your hair will grow back curly".

When we told MIL that I was pregnant with her first grandchild, we'd been married for 8 years but hadn't bothered before, her first words were 'How will you manage his meals when you're in hospital?'
For Number 2, 15 months later, ' Oh you're like bloody rabbits'.
Years later when we told her that I'd got a massive promotion at work 'Were there no married men needing that job? Women shouldn't take jobs off married men with families'.

She was quite proud that her husband wouldn't allow her to go out to work once they were married, 1930s. She referred to my job as 'her little job' when talking to friends, I waited until there were a few people there and enlightened them that my role was actually far more senior to his in a similar field and that I earned a lot more!

Not as bad as some on here but:

when we’d been struggling with years of secondary infertility (which she got out of us because she would NOT stop going on about having a second and DH just snapped at her), DH and I agreed we’d let his parents know when I finally did get pg - more because we wanted FIL to know but couldn’t exclude her. We knew at 6 weeks because of all the tests etc, waited until 8 weeks to tell them and said clearly, very loudly (because we know her) NOT to tell anyone and that we would announce when I was ready and felt secure in the pregnancy. Of course, she told everyone immediately but swore them to secrecy. BIL forgot the secrecy bit and congratulated us within 3 days. When confronted she said “well, I’m the matriarch of this family, I will decide who knows what”. Now she complains nobody ever tells her anything and has resorted to asking me for news about her other children 🙄

none of her grandchildren look like anyone other than her family. Not even FIL’s family, let alone the married-in spouse. They all look like her or her mum and she will argue it till she’s blue in the face. It’s quite funny really (especially as they all have a shared, really quite unattractive facial feature 😂)

she will machinate and manoeuvre to get all her family members together for a given day of her choosing (she’s the matriarch, remember), telling each one that the others would really appreciate if everyone could be together. Nobody other than her gives a shit, we all see each other plenty as and when. When busted she always says “but I didn’t TELL you to come”. No, you just preyed on everyone’s decency and fondness for each other (but clearly not you)

We out up with her for FIL. He puts up with her because he doesn’t have the energy to argue with her anymore.

Did you reply “Not as much as I hope you die soon (preferably slowly and painfully)?

She was telling me how fat her cleaner was: "Honestly, Nancy, she's twice the size of you!"

Not my mother in law but one of my kid’s MIL took me to one side at their wedding and said ‘he’ll never love her as much as me’. I think I just stared at her confused while her husband laughed nervously behind her.

You really have got to stop breastfeeding (dd was 3 months old)
Anything at all to do with dd after that was blamed on the fact I dared breastfeed her. It's not good for babies you know.