Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

Mine looked at me with a puzzled expression then said ‘you’re a half-breed.’

She said it with such sincerity that I had to laugh 🤷‍♀️

Luckily we don't live in the same country but I probably see my MIL a couple of times a year.

The first time she saw her my DS, who was about four months old at the time, she didn't say hello or acknowledge me in any way, but yanked him out of my arms and said: "It's OK, it's OK, I'll take care of you, now - who knows what she's been doing?' (in a different language thinking I couldn't understand).

She's a peach.

Mine told my DH that because we had not lived/ slept together before we married that I would probably turn out to be a man( for context I am 6'1 with size 11 feet ) He was delighted when I fell pregnant on honeymoon, somewhat disproving her theory!!

MIL said I took advantage of DH and used him to get pregnant (now been together for 18 years).
She attempted to evict us during Covid while I was heavily pregnant and then 3 weeks later demanded to be at the birth of our third child (which wasn't allowed but even if it was it would not have happened)
Constantly brings up people I have never met and has long conversations with DH about them.
Most recently I told her I was a bit upset because my mum had been diagnosed with Alzheumers and she said never mind, at least it's not cancer. I was so upset by this.
Other times she can be lovely but I am LC with her now.

My MIL went to see a solicitor to try to get custody of my bil’s baby. BIL and his wife are the loveliest people and amazing parents. After that, nothing she said to me seemed so bad!

My MIL in all seriousness said that our baby looked nothing like her dad and was adamant we got a dna test. Low and behold she is now his double

Thank you OP for this post. I am literally crying (with laughter) at some of these absolutely outrageous comments. Has made me feel much better about my MIL and who doesn’t have any great one liners but is just generally a manipulative pain in the arse.

Can I add a great one from my FIL - "I'll come over and hold the baby for a bit tomorrow to let you clean as I can see you're struggling to keep up with housework" .

10 days postpartum 🥴

"You've aged 10 years"
MIL's first comment to me as she visited us the day after I'd given birth to my first child after a 36 hour labour 🙄
I was 26 at the time 🤣

One Christmas my MIL gave me and SIL a gift and said to us "I haven't given you a selection box this year as I know you'll both want to lose weight in the New Year"

MIL was staying with us when SIL found out the sex of her 2nd baby. Her response (in front of her 13yo granddaughter) "Urgh another girl. I wanted a boy."

She's always been hypercritical of my housekeeping, parenting and cooking skills. (Apparently I peel potatoes wrong for example) The one time I challenged her with an honest conversation about all the criticism/unwanted advice she had given one weekend she was staying with us -- she rang DH and told him I needed to see a psychologist. At that point I decided I just needed to ignore her and rise above it as she would never see things from my point of view.

She has the subtlety of a brick through a window. It's so hard but I try and keep the peace for DH and DCs sake

Mine said oh everything happens for a reason

My MIL was always civil enough to me but absolutely savage about her own daughter in conversation, saying that her son in law was 'stuck with her'. When they had a moving house malfunction, she refused to put them up and they ended up spending the night in a car, with toddlers. When the daughter suffered an ectopic pregnancy and discharged herself from hospital because her chronically unhelpful mother wouldn't look after the kids, MIL tutted that 'if anything had happened to her, we wouldn't have got a claim.

I am so glad she is no longer part of my life, she was a most cold, peculiar woman.

What the hell!!!

😳😳😂

After a 48h labour and subsequent 5 day stay in hospital with a sick baby, they turned up 2h after I made it home for the first time in a week. They then announced they wouldn't leave until at least 9pm. I begged her to understand that I was tired and needed to go to bed before then as I had spent a number (!) of sleepless nights in hospital. She turned round and snarled 'I think you are just going to have to get used to sleepless nights, aren't you?'

Her and FIL had also made clear on the first couple of times of meeting me that they 'believed' that all babies should be genetically tested at birth to determine their paternity. It was only fair way, after all...

My MiL whispered in my ear just before we were due to go into the Registry Office to get married...

He'll always belong to me.

We now live 800 miles away from her 😂and it was DH's idea to move here😂

My ex MIL was a pain in the backside (annoying, tactless & needy) but my ex FIL was an absolute abusive sociopathic cunt. No empathy (he used to be a GP too incredibly)
When my son was diagnosed with autism and associated learning difficulties, he said he was ‘damaged goods’ and when we used to visit, he would refuse to come downstairs whilst we were there. He’s now in a nursing home with dementia and incontinent. He can go fuck himself. I’ll be cracking open the bubbly when he carks it.

Good lord!

When DS2 died shortly after being born at 27 weeks, and was my 4th pg to reach the 2nd trimester or beyond (we had DS1 at that point. "Such a shame you can't perform".

She is very very old now and increasingly infirm. I have never forgiven her and never shall. Butter wouldn't melt but she is a bitch.

So many of these are so nasty!

Shortly after my mum died, mine said 'can I be your mummy now as you haven't got one anymore' ....

Note this was NOT in a caring motherly way.... it was in a 'good, you can look after me now' way...

When I was a young mum my DH was going on a sailing trip with his dad for a week and I thought it would be a good idea to take 2 DD (5&3) to stay with rather snobby MIL so that we could build a closer relationship. She hardly engaged with the girls and was no help with bathing bedtime etc.
I was exhausted being on best behaviour and trying to get her to love the girls.
By night five I’d had enough and though I didn’t drink I got the girls to bed then came downstairs and bravely suggested we should sit down have a drink to relax.
She just looked at me and sneeringly said ‘help yourself - I have a drink myself while you’re doing bedtime’.
I was obviously a bit slow on the uptake but that was it for me - I kept my distance for the next 25 years and never again tried to get to know her and be anything other than her son’s wife.

Let’s get a photo of all the family (my ds and exdh) here Jay (hands me the camera, you take it. 😂

Sorry this made me laugh.
I would have painted her name on my bin and that talked about putting "Mavis" out for her fortnightly dump.!!!

A lot of people will never forgive their inlaws/parents for those kind of horrible comments, @RosaMoline. They always come when you are at your lowest point. You see the person in their true colours when a grandchild is diagnosed with developmental problems - they're either wonderfully loving and supportive or complete cunts, as in your experience.

That's horrific