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Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

459 replies

Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:50

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

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Blueberries7 · 28/10/2023 19:35

Realised mine is not too bad after these! Mainly thoughtless but still irritating.

After spending 5 days in hospital after a 36hr labour, we got ourselves a takeaway on the way home. Cue 'I hope youll be eating healthier after this.' Whilst looking me up and down.
Later the same day having a tantrum because they had offered to bring us shopping and I hadn't realised we needed eggs (having not been home for ages)

6 weeks after DC2...'what is your clothes size so I can buy you some for your birthday?' 🙄

Used to bring buckets of her own cleaning supplies and just get going without asking what had already been done. One time I told her that I didn't care if the glass was clean 'Oh but I do' and carried on.

Looking at my cooker 'do all those streaks not drive you mad'. When we had 2DC under 4.

Brought bleach and a bucket up on Christmas day.

She's banned from cleaning now 😅

Chickenwing2 · 28/10/2023 19:35

Mine is a nice person for the most part, but she does have a strange idea about weight, and considers me obese (size 14) and is always telling me to lose weight and that I'm not healthy or commenting on other overweight people on the TV or when out & about. It makes me hate her!!

Thursa · 28/10/2023 19:36

In Laws gave us a cheque for a wedding present. Two days later I was looking around the house for my husband and was told mil had taken him to the bank. They opened a joint account with the cheque. Her and him, not me and him…

Surgarblossom · 28/10/2023 19:37

Mine said to me just before we got married " A son can have many wives, but only one mother"

coffeetoffeechocolate · 28/10/2023 19:37

Not long after I announced I was pregnant with my first my MIL broached the subject of childcare. My DH and I hadn't decided what we were going to do when our son was born and she announced, "I couldn't possibly pay someone else to look after my child!" knowing that a) my mum had done that with me and I grew up very happy and b) that it was likely that we would use a childminder / send our child to daycare.

Now she's really unhappy because my husband and I decided that he would be a SAHD as his job was on a freelance basis, whereas mine is more secure and I am the breadwinner. I've now been told that I forced him into it 🙄(it was him who approached me about it and I said to him, are you 100% sure you want to do this and he said he did!) and that my son is going to grow up not knowing who his mummy is! Not only does my son know exactly who his mummy is, but he has an amazing bond with his dad!

I have been so close to snapping at her that I pay all the bills, ensure we have a roof over our heads and although not many luxuries, we are comfortable! But then again it's none of her business!

Cardsonthetable · 28/10/2023 19:37

‘My daughter was much more attractive than THAT’
referring to my daughter who was about four at the time. She looks like a model and is absolutely stunning as an adult.

BMrs · 28/10/2023 19:37

Anabella321 · 28/10/2023 17:46

My late MIL said some awful things to me over the years but one of the worst was completely ignoring my much longed for pregnancy. She didn't say congratulations, or mention that I was expecting or ask how I was or anything.

My DH went ballistic.

This happened to me as well both time. She also always created dramas to turn the attention onto her.

Sugargliderwombat · 28/10/2023 19:40

Meeting · 28/10/2023 19:13

Wow some of these are awful, I hope you're all NC. Mines not as bad in comparison.

"I'll be seeing the baby every day when it's born and you can't stop me."

This would chill me to the very core.

ClairDeLaLune · 28/10/2023 19:40

My late MIL was lovely and I loved her dearly but when DH and I were moving in together she said to him “Ah you won’t need to worry about doing your washing anymore, Clair will be doing it!”

Celerylover · 28/10/2023 19:41

MY MIL is odd because usually lovely, helpful,welcoming etc but there's been the odd occasion I've been truly stumped

Worst being - was having a second MC, telling her about the symptoms and worries and her response was to keep talking to me about my SS and how he was taking it all and how having a sibling would effect him, how were we preparing him ? etc. in the end I flipped out and told her what we HAD done to prepare him but currently my kind was on the fact I'm losing my baby so back off.
My DP thought my response was over the top so I messaged to apologise for over reacting and I never got a response back. She never bought it up again and didn't ask how I was doing after that

Since then me and DP have had a child I had a weird conversation with MIL and FIL with them implying they now take me more seriously because I have provided them with another grandchild.

Sugargliderwombat · 28/10/2023 19:42

ClairDeLaLune · 28/10/2023 19:40

My late MIL was lovely and I loved her dearly but when DH and I were moving in together she said to him “Ah you won’t need to worry about doing your washing anymore, Clair will be doing it!”

🤣🤣🤣 I'd love to know what your husband said / did.

JudyP · 28/10/2023 19:42

So many - about how breast feeding was disgusting and how our dishes would be clean now that we had a dishwasher ( old flat was too small) then recently that all our kids bad traits are from my side of the family as their side never had messy room/talked back etc!

Ibravedaflood · 28/10/2023 19:42

When our dc was born mil dumped us. Oddly she had made a big deal about wanting to be called dgm by my own dc but not her ds's ds... Saw ds 3 times in 4 months and called us shit for moving and taking ds out of her life.
We moved 45 mins away and she hadn't seen him for 4 months by her own choice.. We previously lived 6 mins away. Very strange woman.

ClareBlue · 28/10/2023 19:45

Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:50

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

How many have you had😂

WinterDeWinter · 28/10/2023 19:45

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 28/10/2023 17:13

Can I share this corker from my mum?
Me: isn't it nice when they snuggle like that? (D's and dd)
Her: yes... As long as it doesn't turn into incest.

Shock that is the most-gobsmacking but also bleakly funny thing I've ever read on MN and it's a crowded field.

Lovelyjubbbly · 28/10/2023 19:46

I had my first child and my partner and I were having a rough time as my baby was in baby care sepsis so I was of course not mentally there fast forward 7 weeks after birth of my first child I was pregnant again with my Daughter (I KNOW) 😂! Any way I couldn’t be bothered one bit with anyone around the house or visiting anyone as I just had a baby and pregnant again. I did invite them to see the baby but wouldn’t go out my way as they don’t bother with me and never have.

they said to my partner I’m very moody and I probably have the baby blue and should get on anti depressants!!

my own mum literally Flipped of course I’m not going be feeling great I DID NOT have baby blues I just gave birth and was pregnant again my body had no time to rest.

fyi - She’s still the same and doesn’t even bother with my 2 kids there now both 5 recently at a wedding she walked up to my kids and say Hi. And they both burst out crying says it all to me

thegreylady · 28/10/2023 19:47

Mine was a love and we got on well but once she came to visit when I had a newborn and a toddler. She walked in, glanced into the kitchen and said “I do like a really dirty house”…..

Blueberries7 · 28/10/2023 19:49

Ah I has forgotten about my MIL and the dishwasher...she kept on for months telling us that we needed to have a proper 'system' going and that we needed to empty it before guests arrived. She never shut up about the bloody thing.
PILs invited themselves on holiday with my parents and she started telling my mam about our dishwasher and that we needed a system, didn't she agree? My mam didn't know where to put herself and I was 28 weeks pregnant and cried

Mummykittykat · 28/10/2023 20:01

Undunne · 28/10/2023 17:22

Previous DPs mother had a small-holding and gave one of her new pigs the same name as me 🐷😂

😂😂😂Brilliant

Ykn · 28/10/2023 20:01

So many, and we have been NC with her for years now but the ones that immediately spring to mind are:

"You can't afford to put on any more weight"

"After having my boys I became as slim as Ykn used to be"

"Ykn is as fat as lard"

"If you and (DH name) have children I will report you to social services to take them away"

Coughed all the way through our wedding vows.

And so many others from overweight herself, weight obsessed, downright nasty MIL.

Moneypenny007 · 28/10/2023 20:02

Fil during an argument said that he hoped we all would rot.
Mil after hearing our new baby was a boy.. " oh not another boy" we already had one ds.
Told me how her hysterectomy was much worse than my emcs, which I was knocked out for and my dd almost died.... yes your planned surgery that u had everyone helping u recover from was much worse...
There are more but I'm trying not to get annoyed.

Itwasafterallallaboutme · 28/10/2023 20:09

dillydal · 28/10/2023 16:55

There's many. One that sticks out though is when she told me that it's inappropriate for me to consider double barrelling my child's name to include my surname. Proceeded to send child birthday cards addressed to our child with only the father's surname..

Not a comment, but also used to turn the armchair to the wall if I was breastfeeding in their house.

Hers or yours? But I hope you were able to just laugh either at her, or at least about her later!

As an aside, I breast fed all my children many years ago now, and I love seeing other babies being breastfed, but I don't think that even my lovely DiL would appreciate me staring at her and baby while she was feeding him, so I have to make myself not watch!!

Moveoverdarlin · 28/10/2023 20:13

Mine said to my DH ‘How is Jane’s HIV business coming on?’ She meant IVF, the nasty old bitch.

Needeyebrows · 28/10/2023 20:14

I never wanted him to marry you
I'm not going to congratulate you (second pregnancy)
I wouldn't say your a good mother, your a responsible mother
When you lose the weight
Watch your weight

Just the tip of the iceberg. We are now nc and its great.

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 28/10/2023 20:15

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 28/10/2023 17:13

Can I share this corker from my mum?
Me: isn't it nice when they snuggle like that? (D's and dd)
Her: yes... As long as it doesn't turn into incest.

😦

Quite disturbing that her mind even went there....

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