Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

Said my dad has cancer because he's an atheist

My mum died on 10th December a few years back. She’d had a water infection that made her a bit doolally and ended up taking all her meds. Verdict- accidental death.
Hosted ILs for Christmas dinner, MIL said “Eee don’t you think your mum was selfish committing suicide just before Christmas! I mean, it’s selfish anyway, but at Christmas?!!…. Well!”
I had to leave the table

You really are overthinking this one!

She blamed me for not giving them a grandchild when it was her son that had issues

My Mil came to live with us whilst her newly bought bungalow had renovations, I'm quite a big girl and she announced two weeks later one night at the dinner table, I’ve been watching you eat, I’m suprised your as big as your are! Her first insult was arriving at the hospital after giving birth to my first DS, she already had two GS from Bil to announce as she peered into the crib “oh another boy”

For those of you who have to look at ex's partner's photo in a frame when they visit their MIL - do as my MIL did to hers... when her MIL left the room, my MIL 'accidently' flicked the photo and it tipped down behind the piano - and she was back across the other side of the room when her MIL returned. She did used to wonder how long it took her MIL to notice..

Oh I could have a field day here! We are finally
no contact with mine after 20 years of her utter nonsense!
we went no contact earlier this year after her accusing me of blocking her so she couldn’t ring me… actually hadn’t, I just don’t answer the phone to her after 7pm as she’s usually very drunk and repetitive and I always rang her the next day to find out what she wanted for her to not even remember what she wanted. She decided her and Step father were done with us (phew finally!) and ignored mine and DH birthday but sent a gift card for our son! Promptly sent that back as they were all about money money money and I don’t ever want a penny from them!

Some of these make me laugh out loud ,but to be honest with sheer amazement at the things said!!! They are unbelievable, awful offensive and horrible🙈

When DD1 was nearly 12, she used her pocket money to buy herself an eyeshadow palette. We had only very recently returned to Aus from 9 years in Europe and MIL was visiting “So the kids can get to know me” called her a slut.
When my DT’s were born, we told her that girl DT looked like her to shut her up. (She actually looks like me, as does DD1, and DS is a clone of his father. Of course, DD2 was always her favourite and she loved to play them off against each other.) A month after calling DD a slut it was the DT’s 10th bday. DD2’s had a nauseating “To my lovely granddaughter” poem on the front and lots of favourite comments, and contained $50Aud. Also a giant box of makeup (irony of ironies.) DS’s card was one for a baby boy with “Don’t be naughty.” And $5Aud and his present was ziplock bag with a handful of dirty, used, random bits of fake Lego that had either been thrifted of handed down from her Stepgrandkids.
That was the final straw for her. I had tolerated her saying shit about me, but that was it. DH changed history to make the story more tolerable for himself, but the kids never forgave her either. Hugs DB came to visit not long ago and confirmed their beliefs by sharing stories of his own and his own kids treatment by her.

When pressuring us about having kids (both myself and DH have never wanted them) and I told her I have a hard enough time looking after myself let alone another human (as I have quite bad mental health conditions) and she said ‘well you manage to look after your dog so I’m sure you’d get by’ yes because a baby is as easy as looking after a dog.

My mother in law told me that my three year old was vile, and that he was an example of 'complete non-parenting'. That was fun! He'd had a pretty nuclear tantrum but he'd have 5 hours sleep and a 4 hour car journey and it was all too much for him. Also he was three! He definitely has appropriate boundaries and is generally a lovely child. I still feel the need to defend him when I repeat it!

She came at me too and said I've made no effort to integrate into their family despite the fact we only saw each other when I made the effort to plan it. Anyway now I do make absolutely no effort to integrate and never will again.

"If you have a girl, I'll never speak to you again, I don't like girls"

Said to the 19 year old pregnant girlfriend of her beloved grandson. Like she had a choice!

When she looked through our wedding photos the one single comment she made about me was that my dress wasn't laced tight enough (photo of my sister in the middle of lacing up the back of my dress)

Cow bag.

She got better once she realised DH meant it that he wouldn't visit again if she was horrible to me, and after a few years she was lovely.

My MIL is usually really lovely but she has made it pretty clear she doesn’t think I’m very attractive. When she sent me a family photo of us all I replied saying that’s lovely but terrible of me (I was mid talking) she replied “don’t be so hard yourself you have two beautiful daughters”. She also constantly refers to how handsome her son and his siblings are, along with how pretty my children are but has never once said I looked nice! And while I don’t disagree with her, it does make me feel like an ogre. The most recent message was “don’t forget to send me photos of you and my very very handsome son” 😂

My MIL does tactless stuff “ oh that dress shows that tummy you have “ I was under 8 stone at the time 🙄
or “ oh I do not like your hair curly at all it doesn’t suit you “ my natural hair is very wavy 🙄
and says stuff like “ oh I would have ironed that “ a clothing item that does not need ironing at all 🙄
“ oh you shouldn’t put that in the dishwasher “
” I wouldn’t have dishes waiting to be washed on the side like that ! “ because my dishwasher was almost finished and the dishes were waiting to go in the next load 🙄
otherwise fine 😏

Oh my god 🤪 mine once remarked loudly “ oh I don’t know how he sees like that his eyes are so slitty “
Chinese man in supermarket…I pretended she wasn’t with me and walked way ahead 😱

Well wouldn't Bernard Manning be proud of you? Mothers-in-law, older women, the last permitted target of misogyny, sexism, ageism. Don't tell me it's just 'banter' or a 'bit of fun'. That's been the feeble justification for all ingrained prejudice since time began. But to see it coming from a swathe of women instead of elderly male comedians - that's just depressing. I do hope none of you have sons, because in a few years time, whether you like it or not, you're going to hear the sound of chickens coming home to roost. And I do hope not a single one of you is accepting help, financial or in terms of childcare or gifts from your despised mothers-in-law because that would be rank hypocrisy, wouldn't it? Read Victoria Smith's excellent Hags. When she writes about 'misogyny directed if not at the self you already are, then the one you will one day be,' that's you. Don't pretend it won't happen to you. That you'll be different. Because one day you're going to find yourself cast in a role you didn't anticipate. And no - I'm not even a mother-in-law. But I had one. And I loved her.

My MIL (after few drinks) fondly recalled the best birthday party she ever had was one organised by an ex GF of my (now) husband.

But for me the worst was they they voted for Brexit without even asking what consequences it would have on their EU born DIL and grandchildren who have dual nationality. My husband (her son) also works for an EU bases company. Also not even asked about potential consequences

I see your point ScotsBluebell but in fact I see my MIL’s behaviour as an example of how not to behave one day when I’m MIL myself. And no, I don’t get any gifts or offer of help so my conscience is totally clear 😊

Upon showing my MIL my wedding dress she commented to anyone who would listen “I knew it wouldn’t be white, what with you living together before marriage”. For the record, the dress was off white (because it suited my skin tone more than white).

I just had to laugh it off (as a 34 year old career woman) knowing that her precious daughter was actually pregnant at her wedding. I later found out later that MIL had a child in the early 60s while a teen and was sent by her mother to a teen mum house for her pregnancy and adopted out her baby. She plays the most moralistic person I’ve ever met and is so judgemental.

Good heavens!

My MIL came into the room as I was bf my son and said “stop giving it that muck”. Then when I had my daughter she again said “your not giving her that muck are u, get her on the bottle”

Mine told me being a grandmother was like being a mother again. in front of both my children.

At her MIL's funeral, she asked for a family photo and then asked me and BIL (SIL's husband) to take the photos. all other in-laws were invited to be in it. She has done this at weddings too.

At both her mother and MIL's funerals, she had a massive strop because we said we wouldn't bring our then 4 and 1 year olds as it wasn't appropriate. She told everyone I was stopping her seeing her grandchildren.

I have many MANY more!!

@ScotsBluebell - then count yourself lucky. I do not consider my DH's mother my MIL, she is a cruel woman who is related to me through marriage. None of my comments were a joke. Take another look.

I think you are labelling some of the posters here who have suffered cruel treatment over the years. Bernard Manning? I certainly do not consider my abuser a sexist, nor misogynistic joke at all.

As an older woman, MIL and grandparent carer I fit into the category you seek to champion. But also someone who has learnt the hard way not to treat those I care about the way I was treated over many years. Some things stay with you and perhaps you yourself should not be so quick to judge.

‘You’ve got fat!’

A classic from my Mother when introducing her to my now husband “ ohh he is so hansom , he would be perfect for your sister”