Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

DH ex-w kicked off at me at MIL house (she was picking up the kids), and I had the temerity to tell her to pipe down.

(To confirm, kids were safely being strapped into the car by DH at this point, nowhere near any of this, she had come back into the house to bollock me after leaving - we'd all been sat having tea minutes before lol)

MIL decided I should be more 'accepting of ex-w funny ways and let her be' and that I am in fact the issue 🙄

Her funny ways landed her in prison for sexually and physically abusing her children, I'm quite happy to not be accepting of her, thanks you weird old twat.

When I had my first baby, MIL worked on the maternity ward. I briefly placed my baby on the bed before putting her in her cot. She came over and told me in front of the whole ward how dirty I was. She told me it was the same as if I had put her in with my sanitary towel. I can still remember how ashamed I felt.

When I was expecting and thought I had had a miscarriage, she said well, you didnt really want it any way. Correction, she didn't want me to have a baby.

Told me when our dd had pneumonia and had been in hospital for three days that it was my fault for not putting her in a vest in July. Again, in front of family. Her logic was it had something to do with absorbing sweat. Right. It was viral.

Gave me some toffee with nuts in to which I am allergic. I thanked her but said I couldn't eat them to which she responded Fgs, just spit them out then.

When I finally went no contact, she told family and friends that it was because I was no longer a "full shilling" since I had my second child and everyone knew it. I had PND.

When DH was out of work my parents wanted to help us out. I didnt want to take money from them without doing something in return so we said we would redecorate their lounge. My PILs told me how disgusting I was charging my own parents for decorating. I simply couldn't win. So I gave up.

@milkywinterdisorder ahhh mine would always arrange family meals for the day I worked every single time. In fact she would ring round make sure everyone else was available but never ask me.

One Christmas DH did not contact his mother until a couple of days later because both our DC and I had been really poorly over the holiday.

Firstly MIL made a big fuss about the lack of Christmas contact (for the record she is a member of another religion and does not mark Christmas in any way, and lives in a different country) and then she emailed him to say that she had noticed that I was 'ill' every time there was a celebration and did he think I did it to get attention.

Her basis for this (DH asked) was that some years previously I missed a family party due to DD1 getting chickenpox the day before.

I was actually delighted she sent this email as it meant my lovely DH could no longer ignore the evidence of how she'd behaved to me for years.

I forgot about the time when MIL had badgered me for months to cut ' neat fringes' in our three daughters long hair, I'd sued no because working FT 70 hour weeks there long hair brushed into heat ponies was the easiest to care for and suited them.. I came home from work to find asymmetrical skewhiff fringes hand cut in by MIL.

'Wellllll... they look MUCH tidier now'

I bought myself a sofa I really liked, the dad said I’m all coat no knickers... I’m sure that means I’m like fake fancy or something. Was not their business I have no idea why they said this.

I feel all your anger but I can still stand my MIL but can you imagine being told by your father in law “you and your MiL are competing as to who’s fatter”.. this after I miscarried at 11 weeks a couple of months back and have been trying to get over my grief. ..that’s the first thing he said when he saw us at the airport. Husband says..”let it go”

@Proudmum17 - Unbelievable. You must be a better person than me not to have exploded.

I exploded xx and was laughed at for 'causing a scene'

Actually like my MiL and in the main get on with her better than my own. She is ever so tactless. She did once say when I was pregnant with twins after 15 years of trying that she didn’t realise I was the maternal type. Obviously she didn’t know about the treatments etc we’d been through but it was astonishingly insensitive even by her standards.

My ex MIL the day after my wedding gave me a list of foods my hubby would eat, with pictures of how he liked roast potatoes etc to look Every time we visited she said he looked thinner and asked if I was following her list! I was very good and didn't tell her where to stick her list!

"oh, are you wearing make-up? Much better, you should wear it more often"

Mil told my mum she was lucky as when my dad died she got a widowed mother's pension. Dad was 47 and left mum ( 42 )with 4 children under the age of 12. Mum lost her home as well as it was tied to Dad's work. MILs husband died when my husband and his sibling were in their 20s.

What? She's nuts!! What did you say??

Long one…

My FIL’s wife (NOT mother-in-law) shouted at my DH at our wedding as she was seated away from FIL during ceremony and reception (a seat was saved in memory of DH’s late mother instead).

Nevermind that at their wedding 3 months prior I was seated as far away from DH (best man) as possible and left out of family pictures despite DH and I being engaged, together 5 years and owning a house together 😂 her DIL was included in all pics…

We are expecting our first baby now. Asked if we could go round (to share good news) and was told by FIL that she is still upset about the wedding and I’m not welcome in the house. I laughed and said if that’s the case, they’re not welcome in our lives. DH told his dad about the pregnancy by text. FIL now desperately trying to backtrack but I want an apology from her.

Baby due in March, watch this space…

On my wedding day, my future mother-in-law exclaimed loudly "it's a real surprise but you look nice". I laughed out loud but our friends & family were horrified!

My son died and MIL actually said " it's OK for you but I really loved him."

Nope still not over that comment.

You hounded him.
It’s all about money now.
Lovely Mum in law but when he was having an adulteress relationship with one of his students I quickly learnt where I stood. 🥲

When I told her her precious son had walked out on his family to be with someone else, after 23 years of marriage, (when I had stood by him over one affair and him running up 47K debt behind my back and then costing me our home ( we sold it to pay his debts which I had no knowledge of) and I stood by him through 7 years of IVA poverty to ensure he didnt have to declare himself bankrupt and so lose his job) and I wanted her to hear it first, from me, not gossip, she said " oh dear, does that mean he's not coming on holiday with me next week?" Last words She ever spoke to me.
To her last days she believed it was all my fault !

Looked me up and down. Shrugged, turned away saying, 'We don't like foreigners. We don't want them here.'
I'd know her ten years by then.
Accused me of stealing her lip salve (which I don't use) adding, 'But you can't trust foreigners, they're very clever at stealing.' All I ever took from her were her insults.

She was a charmer.

Not said to me but to one of my sister in laws I suppose because I had cancer it’s my fault your child’s got cancer; go on then blame me.
They left without saying a word; I think they were too shocked; I was fuming with her I went to see the old bat when I heard what she’d done & told a few home truths; selfish woman couldn’t help herself; still had to be centre stage even when her grandson was desperately unwell🤦‍♀️

One of the many reasons why I’m no contact:
My autistic 5 year old has a meltdown at her house, when I went into the kitchen later she told me she couldn’t cope with an autistic child, I said but you have to you can’t just get rid of a child because they have autism and she said well she wouldn’t deal with a child like that. This is her only granddaughter she was talking about!

Recently in the middle of a bitter divorce with her son who was trying to make us homeless she sent a scathing text saying shame on you at Christmas?
no idea what she was referring too as I’d had zero contact with her or her precious son in months. We actually had covid at the time and I stated that and also no idea what her issue was. Later I’m told it’s because my daughter hadn’t responded to a merry Xmas text. The same child who’s device was off as she was in bed suffering with covid as was I.

She is the most bitter rude woman I know. The upside of divorcing her son is I don’t have to tolerate her.

When pregnant with my first born, my ex MIL said 'if it's a boy, I'll drown it' , she wanted a grandaughter. It was a boy. I wouldn't leave her alone with him 😖

Is there a “how to manage the MIL” handbook?!! I need Tena lady after reading these posts. 😂

My MIL and SIL were witches from hell in sheep skin. They had a girls day out with other and excluded me. MIL told me- we didn’t invite you as we knew that you probably didn’t want to come with us as we aren’t your kind of people!

When I haemorrhaged after the birth of DS2 and DH was thinking he would have to raise two boys alone as things were looking a bit dicey for me....
Mil - "You mean to tell me that baby has been born 10 hours and you're only just ringing me to tell me now?"
DH - "Well we thought Lyrical might die. It was very touch and go at one point"
Mil - "I don't care! You could have rung me!"