Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

after my husband (now ex) was arrested for non-recent rape of a child my now ex-mil physically attacked me and said I must have brain washed him to admit that he’d done it because I wanted my marriage to end. (He pleaded guilty).

Ex MIL said to me once about her abusive son after I left him and all was exposed:
’Some women are strong enough to handle it, you’re just not one of them’

she was abused by ex FIL from when she was 17, and apparently she was strong enough to handle it 🙄

She was nearly my MIL and thank Christ didn't end up being as she was so passive aggressive

She was the Uber Mum to her son, who was her "precious baby" and apparently when we married, I was merely "borrowing" him as she would be his number one girl for all time. Eugh.

The worst one was we split up. He was vile, abusive and violent. So I said enough.

She turns up, begs me to get in her car to talk. When I agreed she told me how I had broken all their hearts, he was sorry.

This was after he launched a microwave at me in her kitchen which I managed to duck from and it went through her kitchen window. This was in the 90s so it was a big heavy one. She told me off for winding him up

We pulled up in a street near their, admittedly impressive home.

She then says to my "im sorry but it's over" response "oh but we bought you a house!"

It was the house we were outside of. Ridiculously expensive, because "well you can't live in that tiny bedsit in that part of town with my son can you?" I was very poor from a terrible upbringing and left home at 16. I had no one and she manipulated me.

I agreed to speak to him because I felt so guilty about her buying the house!

I left him 6 months and very much violence afterwards.

She threatened to sue me!

Here’s a few:

we got married abroad, I couldn’t face being the centre of attention as the bride, we wanted a no fuss wedding, we got married in Kos, didn’t tell anyone
years later she said to my DH that she never liked it, she missed wearing a big hat to her sons wedding, she has 3 sons…
when I was trying my best to establish EBF our first baby, she would come round( not invited) and would say he’s being overfed, he has terrible wind, she would hang onto him, I had to say, give him to me, he needs feeding,
when my DM died suddenly, at her wake, she said to my DS’s - I’m not the favourite DG,
She smacked my second child DS, for being “cheeky “ think he was around 8
She would get cross with our DD, no patience, shes(DD) not see her since last Christmas, she never asks to see her and I certainly don’t say she has to see her, it’s her choice
when our Dc were little, we would go to visit and she just wanted to sit and gossip about the other family members, no playing with the children, she was quite happy for them to go out to the garden, no supervision, I would go out with them,
my DM would make dens, go and play football, take them to the park, build forts,
I am determined not to be a night mare MIL, I will let my DC live their lives how they want too, be welcoming to their partners, respect those boundaries.

Mine was a nightmare but no longer with us, apparently. She smoked constantly and we saw an obitary that she died in her 60s. When we married she told SIL I was only after DH's money. Laughable as I still have a a better income (over double his) plus inherited money. She took a dislike to my kind, open, friendly parents as I am from the south and this made her think weird thoughts... When DD was born 3 weeks early, really tiny and in SCBU, she actually started unwrapping her to see what she looked like naked - DD had just come out of an incubator and was on a heat pad! The first words she said to me when she met her GD was that she looked like her. No congrats, no enquiries, nothing. 3 weeks of SCUBU and we were back home - I was also in hosptial as had an infection from emergency C section. I said I needed to breastfeed as DD did not tolerate anything but breast milk so MIL turned up with some plastic bottles from a cut price shop. She used to turn up at the house whenever she wanted as DH had foolishly given her a spare key. When DH phoned her to ask if she could give us 5 mins headsup as I might be breastfeeding the conversation ended with DH telling her to F off and that was practically the last we saw of her. SIL had a DD a few months later and I went round to meet her baby. MIL was there and totally ignored me. Made a thing of making a drink for SIL and fussing in the kitchen. When I said my goodbyes to SIL that was literally the last time I saw MIL.
She had also told me terrible stories about FIL - she was married twic and had a few boyfriends and FIL was her first. By accident I ran into his lovely second wife at the Drs surgery. They had been working abroad and just come home. We made an instant connection, and all the tall tales unravelled to be the other way round. FIL was a really down to earth man and not prone to flights of fancy. He was really proud of his DS and we have had the most wonderful grandparents for our 2 DCs. FIL and step MIL also got on incredibly well with my parents. Many wonderful memories.

As soon as got married when are you getting pregnant even though had trouble once had one baby when the next Wanted me ti bottle feed so she could do it Father in law was the one women went to work for pin money apart from once I Earnt more than his son as a Midwife He was proud of never changing a nappy in his life I said that’s nothing to be proud off She never brought her son up ti do anything in the house clean a bath washing cooking get a meal so stupid really treated him as a spoilt little boy

Bloody hell! I don't know whether to laugh or cry at some of these.

When my DD was diagnosed ADHD "oh we all have it then, she's fine. It's not come from my side of the family anyway"

For the purpose of this let's say my ex partners name is Bob and my toddlers name is Leo

My ex MIL said to another family member, right in front of me, "it's a good thing Leo has got Bobs genes, because if he didn't then oh my days" and then proceeded to look me and up and down.

I left the relationship 2 months later, getting rid of her was a bonus too

Reading all these stories, I can't help but notice that a lot of the time it's the MILs that are spiteful. Very, very few FILs. Why are MILs so crazy-mean and unhinged? I realise not all MILs are like that, but it still seems to be so many. God in heaven....

Last June, when my very elderly mum was in hospital with serious health issues, my MIL visited and asked casually "What will you do if she dies when you're on holiday?"

Followed up with "But you're going to be rich aren't you?"

I was speechless. My mum died in July last year, followed by my father in December. I love and miss them immeasurably.

“What happened to other girl? I liked her.”

When hearing I was pregnant for fourth time ‘you’ll never have a life now’ then after I miscarried, she said nothing

Met my second MIL-to-be, her PFB and I had met through work and were both in very broken relationships. His prev GF had moved out, fast forward a bit, I moved in.

MIL had clearly despised the former GF and spent the entire evening listing her faults - then looked me up and down and said, “But at least she did always make an effort with some makeup, even if she still looked cheap”.

I don’t wear makeup.

Mine knew i was insecure about my recent weight gain (size 10 to a 14/16) .. on our way to a wedding with a car full she told me she loved my dress then proceeded to follow it with “i would borrow it but it would be massive on me” … i just wanted to go home then & there, it ruined the day for me.

One Christmas morning when everyone was opening their present, she told she did not get me anything as she was waiting for the January sales to buy me a present, still waiting for it 29 years later. This year, i got don't buy us anything as we won't be buying you somethinh.

When we found out I was pregnant, before we married, my then soon to be MIL waited until everyone else was out of earshot and muttered in a really snarky voice, "How do you even know it's my son's?" At this point in time I'd had just about enough of her trying to make me feel less than at every opportunity, so I kind of mislaid my filter and replied "Because I haven't f*ed anyone else lately! Anything further I can help you with?"

Not my proudest moment, but rather satisfying seeing the look on her face.

Tricky really, as mine now lives with us! Everyone else has passed away on their side of the family over the past two years and it is the done thing to have MIL living with us. She was living on her own abroad. She is amazingly healthy, completely fit and able, much more than me! She thinks that I am wonderful now, but only since they have no family left for her to stay with. I don’t put up with crap from her and both my kids are adults now, and they know exactly what she’s like, as they say she’s not really “nanny material”! Out of the 32 years I have been with her son, it’s only the past 10 years or so that she now praises me to all and sundry until she’s blue in the face!

Unfortunately for her, I have a very good long term memory and can remember all the times she has been truly poisonous to me, and I don’t forgive and forget!

Ooh, can I join in- I have some corkers!

My MIL once said that she thought lesbians gave older women living together ‘innocently’ a bad name. I nearly fell off my chair, I mean she’s pretty conservative and religious but that was a total shocker.

She said (of my 3rd son the first time she met him) “oh, that’s a shame, he’s got those Chinese slitty eyes like DH/her son”

When we moved to our current house (quite a step up from our old one), “well, you’re very vulnerable here because it’s rural but also on a main road so you never know who might come and target you”. This was said during dinner in front of my young children. We had to stop her clarifying what she meant when they asked her.

She said to my husband, “we (mil/Fil) used to be so proud of you when you were a microbiologist”. My DH had recently set up a successful self employed business in another field.

I could go on for ever!!

MIL has got SIL to communicate to my DP's step brother to say he's not welcome to see his Dad who has dementia. Whilst moaning to DP no one helps her. I'm so sick of their shit.

YESSSS WE CAN BE FRIENDS!!! 100% here for the comments. Come on lady’s!

Mine was a great lady, still miss her, but she did make me smile being a bit Hyacinth Bucket sometimes.
She only gave the children sponge fingers, not proper cake.When we had Christmas cake, I could see her point, but according to her it was 'too good' for the kids!

Mine said, at a family wedding in front of everyone, your children don't look very alike perhaps they've all got different fathers.

A thumbs-up post for them: Loved my mum-in-law. She was always positive, kind and helpful. She lived abroad, so didn’t see her too much. But after one visit to us, I was tempted to ask her to stay.

“You should get married! “Said mother in law to be
As your child will be born out of wedlock
her vicar then followed it up with
I don’t normally christen barstards but made an exception !!!
I am not a church goer myself and only did the whole christening thing to please her !
she and her daughters where always completely horrible to me ,
usually around attending their birthdays etc
I was painted as the problem etc turns out that my partner was keeping the dates of his family’s get togethers to himself then encouraged me to organise having friends to stay etc in same dates
after 25 years with her beloved son , NPD coercive controlling etc
I found out that not only had been seeing another woman the whole time( think second family)plus many others
he had also been defrauded me for years false IDS the lot and stole his /our daughter’s entire fund l had saved for her etc etc plus my several hundred thousand.
I now love that Church of England vicar who also refused three years ago, when my ex partner pressed me to get married , same vicar refused to perform a ceremony in the church as I was a divorcee
only married a year at 19
it makes me laugh out loud now to think of all the hours the awful woman had spent praying on her knees
I’m currently working the case with the police
I know it’s wrong but although thrilled to be rid of a lot of them along with my ex, wish I could see the look on my nearly ex mother-in-law’s face when she sees what her son has been arrested for .
broke but happy