Snoring - I’m so tired and angry that this is my life now

[TeenLifeMum]

Has anyone found a solution to snoring?

i love dh - he’s great in so so many ways but this morning I yelled and cried. I’m so bloody tired. Our dc are teens and so we’re beyond the waking in the night stage but I rarely get a full night of sleep because he’s started snoring. It used to only be when he had a cold but now it’s every night.

He’s been to the gp and saw someone in the ent team in April but still waiting for a referral date for the next step. He chased this morning after my meltdown. So he is trying. He’s using sprays etc and I’ve tried ear plugs but hated those.

I love him but want to kill him at the same time (not actually going to kill him).

I’m sad I don’t want to sleep with dh in the same bed and jealous of my dc with their own bedrooms. No spare rooms as we have 3dc in a 4 bed house.

I’m just so tired and struggling to accept this is my life now.

Do you have a dining room/ second living room that can be made as a bedroom for you or DH? Or just get a mattress in the living room for DH… it might be ugly but I’d rather sleep over an ugly living space. My DH is in a bedroom with my two boys - apparently it doesn’t bother them - and it is bliss… not being able to sleep is a form of torture. Put yourself first.

At least your DH had gone to the GP and trying sprays that’s a small win

I know you said you hate ear plugs, but I started a thread on the home/diy topic called 'Soundproofing'.... I'm not an earplug fan either- have very small ear canals... lots of people have recommended different types, and also white noise... I am going to try a couple of their suggestions, which are pretty inexpensive, and maybe, just maybe something might work

No - dining room opens to the kitchen. The living room is in constant use and dc have friends over lots as we live on the route home. We have a small study but we both often work from home so need that at the moment. No space for mattress and desk.

dd3 has a bed that pulls out and is happy to share with me but that doesn’t feel okay long term when she’s 13.

We both snore, usually at opposite times to the other. We have separate rooms now and are much nicer to each other now we are suffering from lack of sleep!

Losing weight can help with snoring for some .

Has any thing changed for him eg weight gain which may have caused it to ramp up? My DH snores so I feel your pain- we’ve had some success with a Bluetooth wrap around eye mask for me which I play brown noise through, he’s also using a mouth guard which seems to help a little.

Losing weight is often the answer, unless there's a specific ENT issue.

Do that for now.

Our solution was separate beds, this was 7 years ago and we are still together and still intimate. If we were still sharing a bed I would have left him by now as I was exhausted and so angry in the mornings from lack of sleep that I wouldn't talk to him. Could the office have space for a single pull out bed? That can be a seat in the day?

Do you have a link to the eye mask as all as it is sounds like something I could do with myself!

What was it about the ear plugs you hated? I use them and it’s a game changer.i use the little foam ones, even if he’s not snoring I sleep so much better with them as they muffle all noise. I also find them brilliant when I have guests. I’d give them another shot. He can’t help snoring, it’s not a choice, so yelling and crying at him isn’t fair really.

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I have to wear earplugs because my husband snores terribly. I've tried every type known to man, and the only ones that are effective enough and that are comfortable enough to forget I'm wearing are these:

Moldex Contours Natural Shape Adapting Earplugs Size Small - 20 Pairs https://amzn.eu/d/iUXRURo

They're small and very squishy they're the only ones I can get a good seal on in my tiny ear canals.

Replace one of your sofas with a sofa bed and one of you can sleep there.

An audiologist can make eat plugs that fit to your specific ears. You can also buy cushioned ear protectors. I used both in combo when I was on the maternity ward and slept brilliantly.

CPAP. This is the only reason I am still sharing a bed with my DH. His snoring is bad enough to be audible from the street.

With the machine, nothing at all, just a cool breeze on my face if I position myself correctly.

It‘s miserable. I do understand the murderous thoughts.

You've no choice but to change the sleeping arrangements or ekse you will start to hate him. Either two of your dc in together, or one of you in with one of your dc.

I wear earplugs and we have separate rooms. 😂 I feel your pain @TeenLifeMum sleeping with a snorer is torture.

Has he tried those nasal strips?

yeah I have this issue and am in sep room - he still freq wakes me. He is aware I think he needs to see GP but as it doesn't bother him he hasn't got round to it

C Pap machines are an absolute game changer. He might get one prescribed or you can buy them although they are expensive.

Threads like these remind me of the contentment of singledom.

I wear noise cancelling headphones. The help a lot. I've got expensive ones that are comfortable to wear while sleeping.

Garden room? Up to £15000, insulated. Get it plumbed, too.
A lot, but being locked in to a loan is better than being locked up in prison because you've killed him.

Agree with pp, you need to change sleeping arrangements, however temporary until it is resolved via GP/sleep specialist. A pull up bed in the kitchen or living room? I know your children have friends visiting but they’ll just have to stay out of the living room. Surely your health is more important?

Long shot but have you tried these, they worked miracles for my husband who was a mouth breather when asleep and the snoring was a nightmare! They just open up the nasal passages...