Snoring - I’m so tired and angry that this is my life now

[TeenLifeMum]

Has anyone found a solution to snoring?

i love dh - he’s great in so so many ways but this morning I yelled and cried. I’m so bloody tired. Our dc are teens and so we’re beyond the waking in the night stage but I rarely get a full night of sleep because he’s started snoring. It used to only be when he had a cold but now it’s every night.

He’s been to the gp and saw someone in the ent team in April but still waiting for a referral date for the next step. He chased this morning after my meltdown. So he is trying. He’s using sprays etc and I’ve tried ear plugs but hated those.

I love him but want to kill him at the same time (not actually going to kill him).

I’m sad I don’t want to sleep with dh in the same bed and jealous of my dc with their own bedrooms. No spare rooms as we have 3dc in a 4 bed house.

I’m just so tired and struggling to accept this is my life now.

@Wonkasworld i slept brilliantly… dh didn’t but then I learned he let the dog snuggle with him on the sofa and that kept him awake. I’m thinking I’ll sleep on the sofa tonight in our new world of musical beds, so we share it.

He’s had prednisolone spray at some point for the polyps. He’s also had steroid tablets which worked but made him feel really sick. The thing that makes me think it’s not sleep apnea is the fact he’s not tired. Our friend is on cpap but was falling asleep at the wheel.

Aww, well just make sure you make the sofa as comfy as you can xx

This x100. I will never understand it.

Bless both of you.

Has he by chance tried antihistamines? I'm the snorer in my family and it turned out I have a dust mite allergy and deformed sinuses. I've had an allergy test and op ( private on my husband's insurance, otherwise it does take ages) and have a spray. I use the nose strips when I get a cold and do inhalations, and altogether it makes a difference.

Good luck!

You could take these

https://shop.pharmacy2u.co.uk/nytol-one-a-night-50mg/prd-3gli?gclid=CjwKCAjwp8OpBhAFEiwAG7NaEuFIDMkmc0R5AI1NCXZggI88UcD_CmL2QwheXX_lfyz3JhmpXUEidxoCzUAQAvD_BwE

Hope he gets his surgery soon

Just carry on with musical beds for now and give each other lots of hugs.

DH and I are both serious snorers with very opposite sleeping preferences, so we each have our own room. Bliss and marital harmony.

@Casperroonie yes we both take lots of antihistamines - he’s allergic to grass, cats and dust which triggered the polyps. Dd3 invited me to have a sleep over in her bed (it’s a king size and she is a very still sleeper so I know I’ll get sleep there).

I’m definitely not putting myself last on the list of priorities. Twins sharing a room and the arguments that triggers affects me negatively too. I’m not being altruistic there. Dd1 is about to sit gcse mocks and is working really hard so I don’t want to rock the boat there either because her GCSEs are more important at this point, plus, playing the long game… if she does well and ends up at the uni she wants I’ll have a spare bedroom during term time 😂

honestly, in every way dh and I parent and share the mental load equally as we both work full time in stressful jobs (I do thrive in stressful environments but sleep makes a massive difference).

night all!

The diphenhydramine I posted about is an antihistamine. Just drowsy causing, purchasable from most pharmacies .

Obviously speak to your doctor if you have any queries out there people but helped me sleep and not be allergic to the dog

My DH snores like an old buffalo, and tbh we have had separate bedrooms now for some 15-16 years. Since our DC were at junior school. I don't think I would still be married to him otherwise.

For the first 10 years we were living together, he was OK, then he hit 35-36 years old, and started to snore.

It got heavy and loud quite rapidly. He wasn't overweight either, he just suddenly started snoring, and as I said, he got loud quickly! We didn't have a spare bedroom, and it drove me batshit. I had such horrifically broken and fractured sleep, and it was making me angry and fatigued and upset.

I started sleeping on the couch, but our DC got up at 7am ish and got themselves breakfast and put the TV on... so I never got a lie-in.

I would be resentful that I was ALWAYS woken up at 7.00-7.30am even at weekends, during school holidays, and days I wasn't at work! Meanwhile DH snored away, and slept blissfully until 10am. Sometimes I would deliberately knock and bang about at 8.30am near the bedroom to wake him up. I was so deeply resentful! I thought 'why should YOU get a fucking lie in?!' He would NOT seek help, and he just said 'I can't help it can I?!'

Anyway, so we moved house when the DC were about 10-12, and had an extra bedroom. My own room..... Bliss. It's just lush. Such blissful unbroken sleep, and my own little sanctuary. I could never go back. If and DH and I split, or he died, if I ever got with another man, I would never share a bedroom with him. Probably would not even move in with him tbh!

Sorry @TeenLifeMum tl;dr and not helpful to you! There is really no other answer apart from separate bedrooms!

Just posting to say I totally empathise. My DH snores (apparently I do too) but he always falls asleep first so my snoring doesn’t bother him. We are very fortunate to have a spare room which has become mine. I always wake up at about 2 anyway and even if I’m silent, my DH is aware and it disturbs him.

I hope you find a solution very soon, being sleep deprived makes me extremely upset!

@AlexaCanYouHearMe but why did he never go on the sofa?

I’m single. Sometimes I wake myself up snoring. Thankfully, my Pomeranian who sleeps on the bed, hardly snores at all.