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Dating a man who has supervised contact centre visitation... red flag?

183 replies

DilemmaEmma2 · 02/10/2023 13:12

Just that really.
Would a man who has contact centre visitation strike up a red flag to you?
Would you do your utmost to find out as much as possible about it?

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DilemmaEmma2 · 28/11/2023 20:16

NosamLDN · 28/11/2023 18:27

The red flag is only raised if you know the reason behind it all. I was physically abused by an ex partner (female and she is almost half my size ), maybe it's not him. You are best to know the reason behind it

It's 100% him.

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Thisisworsethananticpated · 28/11/2023 20:28

Ah he found a new victim fast

we know why she will accept him ….
low self esteem
poor role modelling
shit role models
maybe neglect
yada etc text book

Imperfectp3rf3ction · 28/11/2023 20:52

GilbertMarkham · 02/10/2023 13:19

Oh don't worry, it'll be because his ex is a lying, psycho bitch.

Poor guy.

^^ second this. She's just so devastated to lose this fine catch that she convinced psychiatrists, carcass and a judge to use her kids as that's all that could hurt him.. bless his heart

WandaWonder · 28/11/2023 21:01

DilemmaEmma2 · 02/10/2023 13:22

Further context as not to drop feed too late into the post..

My ex is the one having supervised visitation.

He has recently moved in with a new partner and HER 2 children.

I'm wondering why all sorts of red flags aren't ringing for her and how on earth can she allow a man who has supervised visits to have unsupervised access to her children.....

Of course, I'm the lying, psycho bitch who is preventing him from seeing his child.....

Well you had a child with him so he must have something going for him

Burntouted · 29/11/2023 02:05

It usually means one or both parents are abusive and can't get along. .this abuse could include the child.

When one parent may be in protection and doesn't want the other to know where they reside.

It's never good when two parents need to have supervised meet up at court appointed place.

Don't get involved.

altmember · 29/11/2023 08:25

He pulled the wool over your eyes long enough for you to have a child with him without realising what he's really like, so I don't think you're in a position to be too critical of another woman falling for his charms. He's probably still on his best behaviour with her at this stage.

Hopefully there's a way you can alert her via the authorities (i.e. get social services or police to contact her and push a Clare's law report her way) without it actually being obvious it's come from you.

Original poster
DilemmaEmma2 · 29/11/2023 08:46

altmember · 29/11/2023 08:25

He pulled the wool over your eyes long enough for you to have a child with him without realising what he's really like, so I don't think you're in a position to be too critical of another woman falling for his charms. He's probably still on his best behaviour with her at this stage.

Hopefully there's a way you can alert her via the authorities (i.e. get social services or police to contact her and push a Clare's law report her way) without it actually being obvious it's come from you.

I don't think in any of my posts I've been critical of her. I simply asked for opinions.

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volunteersruz · 29/11/2023 09:11

@DilemmaEmma2 well done to you for reporting him to the appropriate people, i'm not sure people have read all your updates but i advise they do otherwise this thread will just go round in circles!!!

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