Dating Thread 243

[VenturingOut80]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Oddly I had plenty of dates from Ourtime, but all of the women I met from there said I was the cream on the top from there!
A few showed me other matches & conversations from various sites including there and I have to say it made me feel a lot better about myself.

I'm happy to see some of you seem to have connected with nice partners & really hope it continues to go well.
I'm also sad for those of you that have had either no luck or initial good turn bad 😒

4 months in MrsW & I are going strong and still loving every moment together, she obviously thinks it's for good as I'm her +1 for a family wedding in 2025 😊We also continue to make each other laugh (often inappropriately) and the passion is obvious to our friends.

❤️❤️❤️❤️ this!

Had some decent dates from OurTime, but quite few timewaters on there as well.

LittleFloatingGhost Managed to miss your update, how's it going with Mr Beer? Lovely news for you

I know what you mean by not knowing what you want, sometimes I'm not sure what to call what I want, because I don't want anybody to move in or be around my kids, but I also want more than an every now & then casual thing!

Mr R is still so lovely, the other day he picked me up from an appointment I had near him just to drive me all the way home and it’s about a 20 mile journey each way between his city and my town .

I was super tired and wasn’t up for going out at all that evening and I’d have just got the train, so initially told him not to bother. But he said he wasn’t going anywhere else and he’d be happy to see me even it was just for the duration of the car journey.

@NervesOfCotton yeah I can imagine it’s a delicate balance and I can understand why you’d not want a new guy around your children . My friend was seeing a man for 2 years before she introduced him to the kids.

Sporadic messaging from the luke warm iron - he messaged yesterday at 5 asking how my day was. I replied and asked about his and he replied - this evening saying he'd been out. I'm getting the "he's just not that into you" vibe

In other news have matched with and chatting with two new irons - one seems more promising than other initially

But .. but .. but, my one that got away has swiped me tonight 😱 been 4 years but still made me get a bit fluttery 🙈

That is exciting @Slothmomma don't let him get away this time, as for MR Lukewarm perhaos chemistry in person is different

Slothmomma Aww the one who got away

My one chat left on Bumble was a bit like that, pulling teeth, so I unmatched him. When you leave the match open, hear nothing for 24 hours & then just get 'Yes lol' in answer to whatever you said the day before, & then they disappear again, it's so disheartening isn't it!

I started a new chat last night, he lives nearby, he sent a big enthusiastic 'I'd love to talk with you' message, then sent a 2nd one & literally the next second had deleted his account.

I've never had it happen that quickly before! I can feel my 'happy to be swiping-ness' that I've had for the last few weeks, slowly starting to slip!

Backagain Aww, warm & fuzzy update! That's a really nice thing he did & I'm so glad to read it's going so well for you
Those are the 'Little things' that count aren't they.

I don't want a man to meet my kids at all. I mean, I suppose if I met somebody perfect I could change my mind, but I want to keep who I'm dating kind of just for me, & my kids & myself is something else.

I don't want a man to meet my kids at all. I mean, I suppose if I met somebody perfect I could change my mind, but I want to keep who I'm dating kind of just for me, & my kids & myself is something else.

I'm guessing younger children with you. Teens are different.
DD who is 17 going on 38, (She''ll be a hell of a MIL one day)
"Mum Are you dating someone? Where are you going in that outfit? Where did you meet?"
I have a surprise for her!
When I tell her that I have dated 2 women, the explosion will be hear 10 miles away.

janinejones Aww you are so right! Your DD sounds lovely

Mine are 7 & 10, the eldest has Sen so it's just a little more complicated re new people.

@NervesOfCotton Thanks, she is sweet; mostly!
I am going to tell them both when they are home together. Boy was away this weekend on a course.
Next week I am going to meet with Ms NewFriend. We are messaging for hours.
Good luck with your time management/child-care as well.

I'm not really interested in anyone meeting my kids. It may happen eventually but only to make them popping over easier or picking me up etc but I don't want anyone involved in their lives as such. I was with Mr Mason 7 months and never introduced them

I was with teacher about 5 months or so, never met her kids.

Hi - has anyone paid for Hinge? I haven’t but I am considering it. Is it worth it?

I don’t really like Hinge tbh. I’ve never had a single match on there in the whole time I’ve been on it.

@SamW98 really? It’s the Only only one I am using, but a bit frustrated at the limited daily likes.

I've never paid for an app but hinge would be my least likely to pay for as just not many people on there and even less that I ever swipe on

Hinge was tumbleweed for me.

LittleFloatingGhost

hinge is ok in London I guess or a large city as a bit ‘cooler’ so maybe in an area with high population density

I’ve never NOT paid for an app tbh

you get barely any likes and can see who likes you when you pay

LittleFloatingGhost I've never been on Hinge. How's it going with Mr Beer?

I gave up on OkCupid & even leaving was a nightmare, had to email them 3 times before they finally sorted it.

Hi All, hope you enjoyed the same good weather that we had. I was at a stately home by myself and got talking to people. Exchanged mail addresses (my gmail spam one) with a lady. We are both thinking about volunteering there after Christmas. She gave me a very nice smile. Hmmmm!

@Janinejones you're brave - I don't think I could ever meet someone organically now. I'm too scared of looking like a fool! At least on OLD you know they are in fact looking for a date.

@VenturingOut80 I hadn't gone out 'on-the-pull', I wanted to look at a stately home because a garden feature interested me. Two ladies were looking at same feature as I was. We got chatting about volunteering because part of the house was not open. Younger one my ageish seemed to like me, neither of us wearing wedding rings. We exchanged addresses.

If we become friends that would be nice. Maybe we never meet again. It was still a pleasant hour with them walking and talking together.

Sounds like a lovely day @Janinejones. So important to do things we enjoy and invest time in ourselves.

@Janinejones how do you sense a woman is into you? Is it the same way you would sense it from a man or something different?