Dating Thread 243

[VenturingOut80]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Oh and I did get one who told me I look very dominant and that he wants to lick my feet while I tell him how bad he’s been.

Each to their own but no no no

SamW
I had a huge, ranty message from this man who's 67 for a start, & 300 miles away for second, which involved him calling me full of myself, up myself, who do I think I am etc (all for daring to not respond to his message, on the site where anybody can message anybody) It ended with him calling me a KAREN.

I sent him a slightly shorter one back, pointing out the 'Filter' section & that his message was filtered out, due to age & distance, as we are all perfectly entitled to do. No reflection on him as a person.

I then told him that I send many, many messages out myself, which are ignored, but I don't go on to send those men abusive messages because, unlike him, I'm not a child or a frickin idiot.

I then waited until he had read it (as you can do on there) & then blocked him.

Of course I could have just ignored him but he caught me on a bad day

I had one a few days ago who looked a bit odd - to be polite.
I ignored and he sent me another hello then a 3rd message saying that I’m beautiful and he really likes me.

To be polite I replied and said I’m really sorry but you’re not what I’m looking for but good luck.

He replied within seconds - Please I think I love you.

Deleted blocked and I’ve changed my locks 🤣🤣

SamW Haha, it's so hard not to reply sometimes isn't it, but 9/10 out of 10 I regret it as they then send abuse or weird stuff like that

Mr Analogue has just requested my email address. With it being my birthday tomorrow I am highly suspicious 😂. I don't know if I should be expecting a cheesy e-card or something else entirely. I don't know where to set my expectations at all. At least I'll know where to aim for when it's his birthday in December. I am optimistically forecasting that we'll still be seeing each other then!

He wanted to actually spend my birthday with me tomorrow but I am incredibly busy with both my course and the toddler so unfortunately no can do. We're celebrating on Saturday instead 🎉

Chats still going on with Ms NewFriend. Talking about our sport and how we can take it forward without Husbands who were the pace setters and organisers for our respective families. Learning curves might be steep.
Not sure when we will meet.

Back with an update. Mr Beard and I are an item. He's amazing. I can't believe my luck (he says the same about me, lol). Sadly he works abroad on contracts so will be away until after xmas after next week. He's already making plans for us when he's back though. A lovely weekend away to look forward to :)
He makes me laugh, he's affectionate, he's intelligent, considerate. And did I mention he's really fit? They are out there folks, it's possible!

I don't think either of us expected to find 'this' on Tinder. We had been dancing around the 'are we a thing or not' conversation for a few days. Last night he brought it up (as he's conscious he's going away I think). He wanted to know if I was thinking we'd call a halt when he leaves. I said absolutely not, his response was 'thank f*ck for that, I was dreading you saying it's been fun but cheerio' 😂

aww @VenturingOut80 so pleased for you!!!

Lovely to hear @VenturingOut80 😊

Welldone @VenturingOut80

Happy birthday @Itssnotunusual hope you are having a nice day

Hi, Just caught up. Bloody hell - what’s in the water?!

I have had my time out and a lovely profile reviewing (thanks again @NervesOfCotton), so I am back on the apps for a few weeks. I go round in circles trying to know what I want and realised I have no idea!

Had a few chats, some you just know aren’t going anywhere, but had a first date on Tuesday and it was nice. We talked and got on, but I am not 100%, so accepted the second date. Will call him Mr Beer. He is a great communicator, we message daily and he makes me laugh.

There is also Mr Blue, who I have a first date planned.

Some great updates going on atm.
Whatever's in the water, please send it my way. Because I'm having no luck.

Just got super liked by a man in his 60s, up the nostrils photo, looked like he needs as good wash. And his bio says he'll be working in my part of the country for a couple of months and is looking for multiple women for threesomes etc 🤮

Sadly, the rest of my likes on tinder aren't much better. Or if they are, then they are too far away.
One week left of my subscription then I'm deleting it for good. After nearly 7years being single, I don't think Mr Right exists for me.

Really good to read the positive updates, it gives me hope it’s not a lost cause.

Nothing for me at mo. The positive chat I had going is fizzling out. He seems to have a SOH that is based on piss taking which is probably ok with people he knows well but comes across quite rude when we’ve never met and it’s putting me off.

I paid for a months subscription for Ourtime and it’s been a waste of money. The same ones coming up over and over again and just either lying about their age or they’ve had a hard life.

Lovely to read all the positive updates. So sad to hear the not so good ones as well.

Pleased to say Mr Phones and I are still getting on really well. He is mega keen on me, which I am trying to not find overwhelming. I do feel the same way. I've been love bombed before but this doesn't feel like that. We've had 4 dates in a week, 2 pub dates and 2 walks. I've been unwell all week so not up for doing too much which is annoying. We've had discussions around all kinds of things, deep chats, and he's away on a lads weekend now. Plan to see him next week. I am definitely withholding some of myself because I'm scared of getting hurt, and I've told him that.
I've deleted the apps, not chatting to anyone else. I don't know if that's too soon (been a week) but if he's what I want, why should I carry on looking?

Just got super liked by a man in his 60s, up the nostrils photo, looked like he needs as good wash. And his bio says he'll be working in my part of the country for a couple of months and is looking for multiple women for threesomes etc 🤮

Ah that’s gross @NellyTheCake
some men are so blatantly disgusting on OLD and they don’t even hide it. It’s like they basically want sex workers but they don’t want to pay for it, but realistically who will sign up for a NSA threesome with this man for free.

Maybe it’s me but I’m just so fed up with men who think it’s ok to call you sexy gorgeous stunning etc in every bloody message.

Real example from today -

Him - morning how’s it going? You working today?

Me - yes working from home. TGIF it’s been a long week after my holiday.

Him - Ooh WFH. Are you wearing something sexy?

Me - (despite cringing I try and make light) Too cold for that lol. Got my big fluffy dressing gown and slippers on.

Him - wow bet you look like a sexy yeti

Sigh - I can’t spend my life having these painful exchanges

SamW Sexy yeti

I hate it when it's at the end of every sentence.

Hi babe
How are you babe?
You doing anything nice babe?
Lovely weather babe
Sounds good babe.
Etc.

I once had one like that & then he sent a normal sentence, then quickly sent 'Sorry I forgot the 'babe'. So I said 'You know, you don't have to call me babe every 5 seconds, I didn't read that last message & think 'He hasn't called me babe! How dare he!' & I just got a 'lol babe' back.

Teacher used to call me “Darling “ a lot, I quite liked that actually.

NoDatingFor0ldMen Before you met for the first time?

I don't mind it a bit once we meet. Mr Handsy was a bit much, I did love that Cockney accent of his, but 90% of his sentences finished with 'Babe, love, darling, sweetheart'

@NervesOfCotton

Have to admit sexy yeti is a new one on me 🤣

It’s probably me being a right grinch but I’ve never been a babe/darling/sweetheart sort of girl.

If we’ve met and it’s used sparingly then that’s cool but like you say every bloody message - enough!!

SamW It has to be said by the right man, for me. Any random then no, somebody you are dating using it every now & then, only for me, well I like that

Also, I might call somebody a sexy yeti later & see what they reply with. Probably something like 'You bet I am your sexy man-beast'

umm, yes actually,
we chatted for a while before meeting & had a few calls etc,

SamW98
Think I'm a miserable grinch as well. It makes me cringe when all they can say is 'you look sexy', 'you have great legs', 'your (sic) beautiful'
There's loads in my profile they could ask about instead. And if challenged on why they're just commenting on appearance, then I get told it's a compliment.
Well, yes, but...

Sexy yeti is funny though 😄

Backagain2
"some men are so blatantly disgusting on OLD"
He was probably one of the worst I've seen. He'd made no attempt at a decent profile. His photo made my skin crawl. And he clearly hadn't bothered to read my profile.
I can't believe any woman would take up his offer.

My friend looked at 'Ourtime' but was not impressed.
Following on from comments on MN I went on the free part of Classic FM Dating Looking to find a woman friend, FWB or relationship. Def a few possibles for me. No idea how many men. I happened to find someone IRL so didn't pursue. Try the free side first. I live country area midlands quite a few others. Not all cities.