Dating Thread 243

[VenturingOut80]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@NervesOfCotton

Sorry to hear a nice date ended up like that. Nothing worse than a bad kisser

@capabilityfrowns

What a shame. Just write it off as a good night out and a nice memory. Unfortunately there’s too many players out there.

I won’t be doing speed dating tonight as I’m watching football with my son but if anyone gets Steve let us know 🤣🤣

Today's crap message wasn’t even a sleazy one - it was just ⚒️

Now I make no secret of the fact I’m a West Ham fan but come on 🤷‍♀️

Sorry to hear about your date @NervesOfCotton

@capabilityfrowns I just don't understand the whole ghosting thing. I'd rather just be told I don't want to be seen again, whether there's a reason or not, just so you're not hanging around waiting for a message. I don't get it at all. You never have to see that person again, so just tell them 🤷‍♀️. If a convo has fizzled out then fair enough, but to arrange something then not respond is just rubbish.

In the meantime I'm getting messages from very old overweight men in hi vis who stare down the camera with serial killer vibes .

One has sent 20 messages now which I've never replied to and still he's not taking the bloody hint .

God it's grim . I won't be returning to Ourtime that's for sure

Ourtime is shockingly bad. Never seen so many serial killer vibes in one place.

Ive had to block a few on there who wouldn’t take no for an answer. One who looked like Santa messaged me non stop asking if I was interested - every freaking day. Another just kept saying hello and waving then messaged at midnight asking why I wasn’t in bed yet.

Im counting the days til my subscription runs out

I had one 69 5’3 very overweight one begging for a chance - I replied I’m looking for a tall black man maximum age 56 thinking he’d get hint as it’s complete opposite to him and he said ‘that’s close try me anyway’

Errr no thanks

Well after a ghosting for 2 days I messaged and for the inevitable I think you're a great lass enjoyed your company but distance too far .

I knew it was coming . Just said thanks - letting me know would have helped but good luck .

He was a looker so probably a player .

He just wanted a shag . Glad I left when I did now !

I was on OurTime for a about 6 months, certainly didn’t get any bunny boiler vibes, but lots of pet pictures on there IIRC, lots of pictures of cats and westies,

🤣🤣
Love your reply to him.

I almost want to try Ourtime now, just to see how bad it is.

@capabilityfrowns at least you know now. Tough, but better to know.

Yeah - took me to say something tho . Never mind !

I’m done with the dating apps as they just don’t work for me. All the men want to go from 0-100 in two meetings. I just want to get to know them slowly as a person and see if we are suitable for more. I am thinking about going to nightclubs and parties on eventbrite as the room will be full of people. I will just give any man a chance now. As I don’t fancy men anymore. I just want some make friends and see if I can get to like them through friendship. Does this sound like a decent idea?

At least I left him with a stiffy 😂. He asked me to stay over with him and I said no .

Well done me !

The lack of self awareness some of these guys have is something else 😂

"All the men want to go from 0-100 in two meetings. I just want to get to know them slowly as a person and see if we are suitable for more."

@Spain1986 you're not wrong. It's a bit much to go from 0 to 100 in two meetings and pretend it's normal.

Getting to know someone slowly as a person makes sense rather than jump into a relationship 0 to 100.

I gave up on bumble speed dating this evening. It was so boring. Only one tried to engage in some quick chat.
After Colin from who know where, decided to spend the 3 mins typing out his life story, I'd had enough.

And there was another that refused to chat unless I gave my name. Happy to give my name but not when it's demanded 4 times.

Ooh NellyTheCake That's crap.

Brilliant for me tonight! Some of them had me giggling
I've got 8 matches & I had to delete another 3 for smoking. Here goes!

NervesOfCotton
Well done! I hope some of them lead to dates.

Speed dating has to be fun.
My funniest, from a while back, was the one who started with "can I order a taxi for 8pm"
I played along with it. And then, sadly, he was too far away.

Hmm well 20 mins down & I've got 5 left.

'I'm thinking I'd like to start with meeting for some casual sex. You up for that?' Nope.

& 'I didn't ask that question, not sure what you are talking about, bit strange'.
(The question is on his profile)

Haha NellyTheCake That's my kind of humour too. We were talking about sexy warewolves as I'm a massive Twilight fan & so are 2 of my matches.

@NervesOfCotton I wonder if other women have put up with his awful kissing & groping just because he seems like a lovely guy & there's not much out there. He probably thinks he's hot stuff with his rough technique.

As for your Bumble bloke, it's sad for anyone to be so lonely, but desperation is deeply unattractive.

seishonagon Yes I imagine so. It's confusing because you think back on the date with a smile & then remember the ending. I felt embarrassed walking past the spot where he parked his car, earlier, in case any of my neighbours saw him trying to swallow me

Speed dating down to 3. One hasn't come back since the ending, one has simply said 'Oh. You are still here'. Er, yeah, you matched with me?!

& the 3rd seems pretty dam perfect so far.

For Christ sake. Woken at 5.30 by a bloody dick pic!!!!!

From my date the other night. I didn't block him as we sent those 'We aren't for each other' nice texts so didn't think there was a need & I've not heard a thing since.

I've just told him where to go, deleted everything & he's blocked now. God I'm fuming!
My kids pick up my phone to give to me when I get a message (& they are often up stupidly early) & the messages show on the screen & they'l say 'Its a message from nanny' or whatever. Also my son uses my phone to do his times tables, imagine if that popped up!

I'm so angry.

Urgh a digital flasher too 🤬

You've clearly had a lucky escape there @NervesOfCotton as he clearly gets off on violating women 🤬