Dating Thread 243

[VenturingOut80]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Just gone through my 200.+ likes and there’s 2 who are vaguely ok so quantity certainly doesn’t mean quality

I never understand why men from Aberdeen message me in Essex - it’s a bit far for a coffee

If you think you've found someone decent, it's hard not to get your hopes up, and disappointing when they just disappear. Still, if they're not interested, better that they move on than string you along as a 'place-holder'/ intermittent ego-boost. It's the ones who 'check in' with you every so often that you have to watch out for.

I'm actually bracing myself for a return to OLD after a couple of years off. Reading this thread brings it all back 😧😬😮😲😱
I can only do it in short bursts.

So I have a date tonight. Not your 'Conventional' date I suppose. We are meeting for coffee (then a chance to leave if we aren't feeling it) or otherwise we are going in to the cinema (Coffee shop at the front) There's a film on we both wanted to see so I just thought if it goes wrong then at least I've finally seen that film

Ah thanks guys. It has been an experience so far!

So what does DTD stand for? And why are the dates called irons?

I can only manage short bursts too. My last stint was about 3 days

bethatgirl DTD is Do the deed.
Iron, I always thought it was like 'How many irons do you have stoking the fire' but I may be wrong

Ok I know I’m not the most patient in the world but Badoo doing my head in already 🤣🤣

@NervesOfCotton thank you. Makes sense now!

@NervesOfCotton

Good luck for tonight 🤞

Thank you SamW. I've got ready too early now I'm sat here overthinking

Good luck @NervesOfCotton 😊
Hope it goes well!

I'm back on OLD after a couple of weeks dating Mr Phones. He was lovely but just so serious. I'm not ready for a big relationship and I made this clear at the start but it felt like he wasn't listening to me. I broke it off with him at the weekend and I do miss him. But there was just something that wasn't right, he wasn't quite confident enough for me (anyone else find confidence sexy?)

I'm back on free versions of bumble and hinge. No irons on hinge. Couple on bumble... But they are breadcrumbing me so I'm gonna have to delete them!

As an aside, there’s an awful lot of men in the 33-40 category who are very clearly lying about their age. Or at least, if they’re not, they’ve had an extremely tough paper round.

Lol, that’s me !

Yeah I even challenged one guy about it 😂He looked mid to late 40s. I probably shouldn’t have but It was just absurd claiming he was 33.

good luck on your date @NervesOfCotton 🎉

Ha ha - wait til you see what us more mature ladies are being offered up in the over 50’s age group.

Some of them claiming to be about 55 make my dad look like a spring chicken and he’s 81 🤣

Good luck for tonight @NervesOfCotton

Confidence, not arrogance, can definitely be sexy @Thewildthingsliveatmyhouse Sorry to hear that it didn't work out with Mr Phones

Thank you everybody. Now on my way! I'm soooo nervous & I don't know why. Probably because of how the last 2 turned out.

The age chat is making me laugh, I sent a screenshot to my mum the other day & said 'Apparently this guys 42'. She came back with 'He was 42 when the photo was taken, 30 years ago I recon'.

I’m going to have to have a peek now!

I saw one profile that said ‘I’m not really 35, but I identify as a 35 year old’

Good luck @NervesOfCotton!

Well no communication today from hotty - not wishing to appear desperate (because I aren't ) I've left it .

Let's see what happens . He seemed keen . But I've created a monster before by being too complimentary . If he doesn't get in touch again no biggie . I'm happy and I've lost nothing!

Good luck nerves !

Well my successful date hasn't made any attempt at conversation today so I nipped onto the website . I wish I hadn't .

Jesus Mary and Joseph.

So, lovely date, lovely guy, lovely conversation. Coffee & the chat flowed unbelievably well. Warm & fuzzy feeling, very happy, & then he dropped me home (well, near to home)

Took his seatbelt off, leaned over & shoved his tongue down my throat. Hard. & groped my boobs. Hard. for 20 mins. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. Gross. The guy has never heard of using his lips for kissing, just his tongue.

Ugh. I shut the door saying 'Yuck! Yuck! Yuck!' To myself'.

How disappointing

Oh nerves that so disappointing but why didn't you say something and get out of the car ! You don't have to put up with this shit

I had a bit of a pash with yummy bloke but it was nice , which is probably why I'm more disappointed with no contact at all today !

I'm on tinder and paid for Ourtime and Ourtime is seriously, well , either funny or tragic depending on your disposition 😂

I'm still chatting to a guy on tinder . Just the one.

What sites you on ?

capabilityfrowns You know when you really want the kiss to go well & you kind of think something like 'Maybe if I use my lips & show him how I like it, then he might follow my lead', well I did that for a bit, & then realised it was a lost cause & pulled away. (It probably wasn't 20 mins either just felt like it!)

I'm on Bumble & just a free one called Free dating.