Dating Thread 243

[VenturingOut80]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@bethatgirl Welcome! You're doing really well, I didn't do even one date yet, so that's really good you don't waste time

I know what you're talking about when dates go poof but it's almost always about them and their situation as @Slothmomma says they could be married

Hello! I've nipped across from the how to get over the trauma of online dating because for the first time in 4 years I've had a fantastic date!

I paid £4O to join Ourtime and instantly wondered what the hell id done ! I'm 51 - Then I saw him!
Messaged
He messaged back immediately

Been texting for a week
Met last night . Amazing date . He is a silver fox , proper hotty ! beautiful to look at , funny, empathetic, date was easy . Arranged another - first for me !

He's 2 hours away and our lifestyle is a bit different , he's incredibly fit and training for a marathon, I've been unwell so inactive though used to be a runner and cyclist though he made it quite clear he liked what he saw !

The distance may become an issue but for now I'm having fun. He's no ties and semi retired , I'm working but not ties as kids grown up .

Took a great deal of restraint not to just go back to his room and jump him 😂

Ooh happy to find this thread. Am currently in bed with my date (been dating for a little while.) He's sleeping while I'm on here. This is a fun and useful thread, thanks!

Had a date last night. One of my bumble speed dates.
Not my usual type at all. Slightly shorter than me. 7 years younger. Has a couple of young kids under 10. Works long hours.

I didn't want to go but I'm glad I did. Had a good couple of hours of chat. Unusual for me!! Can't say I fancied him but there's something about him I like.

So we're arranging a second date.

@NellyTheCake

Really glad to hear you’ve had a nice date. Hope the second goes well 😊

Long time lurker...but avid reader.

What happened to Pink Identity as was Mila?

She was the font of all knowledge I think she was a journalist or writing a book....giving out lot of advice and playing the agony aunt...

Anyone watch MMYD? that was mid life dating on speed....

Wow that sounds amazing! good luck you x

rather catty to comment on Mila.. I didn't always agree with her advice, but it seemed well intentioned if sometimes a little naive.

Hang on @Myfabby it is not catty at all it is simply my observation...she got content then disappeared...no one knows who is actually who.

That is the vibe I got from following and reading between the lines

Fair enough. It was the 'font of all knowledge' comment I felt was a bit ..

I thought she was genuine.

Has anyone tried Badoo? I’ve never heard of it but a friend said she joined and there’s quite a lot of men on there that she hasn’t seen on other sites.

Im at stage where I feel like I’ve seen every man on OLD about a million times on different sites and still having zero luck.

I went to do speed dating last night and who cane up first? Yep Steve from Kent - I actually recognise his blurred out photo now I’ve seen him so many times 🤣🤣

I've tried Badoo a couple of times. It takes a bit of getting used to. There's a lot on there who are just there for chatting, not dating. But it does sell itself a bit like that rather than just for dating.

Worth a look. It used to be free to use for a week (??) then you had to pay.

Steve from Kent 🔥🤫

Re Badoo, when I tried it, it felt extremely stressful because anyone could message you at any time

It also had that "live" function where certain people had mini broadcasts, almost like mini-influencers. Tons of people but it was a mess

Maybe it's different now and they changed it.

@Myfabby each to their own I felt she was a bit condescending but everyone interprets things differently....that's all I was saying.

I’m beginning to think the universe is pushing us together 🤣🤣

My update, things are pretty chill if not a tad boring. I don't chat to many guys like I used to, and it's better because I know I can't handle many matches at once.

One potential iron left a very nice first impression, sent a song, exchanged thoughts on favourite place to go out, and best of all, I picked him, so that's fun. I notice I'm a bit more invested when I make the 1st move and they react in a positive way.

So that's that.

😅🤭

Ok I’ve joined Badoo and within first 5 minutes I’ve had 40+ likes including my mates ex 😱

Wowza! Do keep us updated. Maybe this is better than Bumble Be Kind dross

Nevermind, guy I fancied just unmatched.

Why send me a song then? Men 😓

Just had a person I’ve never spoken to ‘rematch’ me on Bumble. We matched (I swiped right before reading his profile properly) and he extended the match. I didn’t message him and it expired. But now he’s appeared again as a rematch.

I’m confused as I thought people could only rematch if it was their turn to message? As we didn’t message at all surely it’s my turn to message so it shouldn’t be possible

I'd interpret this as a brush-off. Preserve your dignity and move on.
If you do message him again, on the off-chance that he's been busy or in a coma or his phone was stolen or he was orbiting the Earth with no signal (all the usual excuses), only do it once and then wipe him.

I had a guy once send me a video of him dancing on his own in his living room and ask me what I thought.
I literally had no words 😱😱

I didn’t message him in the end. My brief dip back into OLD has been enough to suffice me for the next six months at least! I’m keeping my account for a few more days just in case I stumble across the one I accidentally swiped left on, then I’ll bin.