Another thread about sex - I've been asked if I would try something new.

[screwedup]

Anal sex.

Never done this. Terrified that it will hurt but I am curious iyswim.

Have any other ladies out there tried it?

I really need advise on this one before I go for it. Please help.

agree - sex is a 2 way thing - you both enjoy it. You dont do stuff because you want to impress or satisfy the other.

Some women do actually like anal sex though

i second scorpio

dressedup - that's nice that you are equals.
I think the things he has mentionned are things I would do if I had a bit more self confidence and someone in RL to talk to about it. My RL friends, other than said guy, would not want to talk about these things.

I think I have reached an age where I am obsessed with sex and think about it much more than I ever used to. Is that normal when you hit your mid 30's?

he must thin k all his christmasses have come at once.\don't continue this if you are getting so little from it One day you will meet someone where you don't need to ask if its ok because you will both know that it is,MN does not need a special section for nitty gritty sexual stuff

who said it does?

expat, I'm wit you on the no need for a sep section bit, but this post did make me chuckle a bit

'But there really a need on a parenting forum for a special place to discuss having a bloke cumming in your anus or to exhale whilst having a man penetrate your anus or the ins and out of how to perform fellatio'

emphasis mine!

I do want to be with him. He is passionate, sexy and makes me feel fab when we share sexual experiences. I feel totally comfortable with him just a bit bombarded with ideas.

So KY jelly for lube then?

I could happily have lived my whole life without knowing that fellow MNers indulged in tongue-up-the-arse sex.

the oral/anal route is stunningly efficient in passing on intestinal parasites like Giadiasis.

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Dittany: asking for advice and other people's experiences of sexual practices doesn't mean your relationship is necessarily unequal or that you are not in charge of your own sexuality. It means you have no experience of a particular thing and want to know how other people have found it, and best practice of doing it. The OP has stated more than once that she finds her fuckbuddy attractive and his ideas interesting: it doesn;t come across that he's threatening to dump her if she won't oblige. It's not abusive to ask someone if they would like to try a sexual practice that is new to them as long as you accept no for an answer. It also isn;t necessarily abusive and wrong if two people sometimes engage in a sex act that pleases one a lot more than the other, as long as it's not acutally coercive and they do plenty of stuff that pleases the other partner as well.

Dittany, everyone has to start somewhere. We are not all natural instinctive sexual experts the minute we turn 16, and so we sometimes want to know about things. If you don't like anal sex (or oral, or vibrators, or bondage) then obviously you shouldn't engage in the practice, but if you find the idea interesting yet want to know more about the best and most enjoyable way to do it, what's wrong with asking?

fantastic give it a try unless u do u will never know if u dont like it u dont need to do it again

Bang on, Meggle.

It seems to be the new black.

Or brown .

God does noone ever use the blimmin archives?

There's more sodding bumsex threads than baby pasta these days!

Has there ever been a thread in which a woman grumbles that she wants anal sex and her boyfriend/husband doesn't want to do it? It always seems a bit one way. Fnar fnar. Seriously though, do all men want it? Discuss. I know you will. Or if you won't, come and recommend me a book to read. Shameless hijack but I knew this thread would get all the action this evening.

It's like porn, nfk, some women will swear up hill and down dale that all men want it/want to see it.

But it's just not true.

You can't say 100% of any gender wants teh same things.

But do women ever seek it out without it being suggested to them?

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nkf - I know of at least 2 men who have no interest in anal so it doesn't follow that all men want it.