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Another thread about sex - I've been asked if I would try something new.

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screwedup · 04/03/2008 14:15

Anal sex.

Never done this. Terrified that it will hurt but I am curious iyswim.

Have any other ladies out there tried it?

I really need advise on this one before I go for it. Please help.

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screwedup · 04/03/2008 15:13

It is a bit like that dittany.

I won't divulge too much info but it is meant to be a 'fun' relationship, no strings.

He has all kinds of suggestions.

The first was to let him come in my mouth - which I did but had never let anyone else.

Then it was a threesome - which I didn't go for but said I would think about.

Now it's this.

And yes he is just using me for one thing but at the moment it suits me. Can't explain further.

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Flubdub · 04/03/2008 15:15

I always wonder, because of the (as we call it) Goo-age.

Screwed up, you arnt meant to have normal sex straight after. A lot of infections can be caught from the bacteria in you bottom. It probably will make him come though, but its up to you what you do afterwards.
Are you sure you want to do it? Im not convinced.

Flubdub · 04/03/2008 15:15

Is it a friend with benefits, kind of thing?

dittany · 04/03/2008 15:18

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Lulumama · 04/03/2008 15:22

screwedup, it sounds like you are uncomfortable with these things, a 3some is something that should not be entertained to keep your partner happy.. it sounds like he wants you to push the boundaries a lot further than you want to

a healthy relationship can of course be sexually adventurous, but both parties need to be happy with what happens

Flubdub · 04/03/2008 15:22

You should have said this earlier. You dont want to do it, dont do it. You dont sound very happy.

davidtennantsmistress · 04/03/2008 15:25

walk away from him & this now - honestly & trust me. you deserve someone who has the time love & respect you deserve.

do not do these things with him - if you're doing it to please him then it's a no win situation - you won't enjoy it.

do you have more feelings for him than he does you?

expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 15:34

Let's see, why don't we have an area where we can talk about sex all the time?

Maybe because this is parenting forum.

Yeah, that could be it!

Mumcentreplus · 04/03/2008 15:36

...did he let you cum in his mouth?...I'm not liking this at all!...of course it's you call babes but please don't do anything you don't want to...good sex is about trust too...can you trust him?

Mumcentreplus · 04/03/2008 15:37

Parents have sex yanno!...where you think all these babies come from!

VictorianSqualor · 04/03/2008 15:38

Don't do it.
All the way throguh the thread I was fine, was going to say, just be careful, cos if he is rather well-endowed it can hurt more.
But now I'd say no, it's the sort of thing you should do with someone who respects you, not someone who is using you.

Mumcentreplus · 04/03/2008 15:40

exactly Vicky...he has to respect you..

expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 15:41

Yes, and there are plenty of sex forums for them to discuss that on, Mumscentre.

Hence, why we don't need a 'sex' area here.

JeremyVile · 04/03/2008 15:42

Amen, Expat...

VictorianSqualor · 04/03/2008 15:42

The sex section is normally chat.

Mumcentreplus · 04/03/2008 15:42

yeah but they are full of pervs

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screwedup · 04/03/2008 15:44

I guess it is a friend with 'extras' as it was so well put.

I have thought about all of these things he has suggested but not done them with anyone in the past.

I'm not sure if I have feelings for him other than lust. I don't think so. I just find him very sexy.

We are both using each other in a way but he is far more experienced than me (I've had fewer partners and was in a very long relationship with someone who wasn't adventurous either.)

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expatinscotland · 04/03/2008 15:45

Sex, yes, fine, Victorian.

But there really a need on a parenting forum for a special place to discuss having a bloke cumming in your anus or to exhale whilst having a man penetrate your anus or the ins and out of how to perform fellatio?

These things are irrespective of a 'relationship' per se.

KerryMum · 04/03/2008 15:46

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VictorianSqualor · 04/03/2008 15:46

Not a special place, no.
Sometimes peopel need to ask the question, and feel MN is the best place to get answers, cool.
But we don't need a dedicated section for it.

davidtennantsmistress · 04/03/2008 15:46

relationships is ok for sex - after all it's part n parcel of a relationship isn't it.

still think that if I didn't trust the bloke 1000% to back off if I asked him to then I def wouldn't do it - no way.

and as for 3 somes - well, it's easier I think to have one with someone you're not in love with (the whole couldn't want someone I loved having sex with someone else thing) but then again I couldn't have sex with 2 random strangers.

bratnav · 04/03/2008 15:50

I would say IF and only IF you want to try it, then you need 2 types of lube the first time, one for your mouth (wine etc) and loads for your bottom.

Personally I enjoy it (but then thats me and I am a dirty slut ) but I really wouldn't recommend doing it just because someone wants you to, you WILL tense up and it WILL hurt.

HTH

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screwedup · 04/03/2008 15:55

Hadn't thought of a 3some in those terms Davidtennantsmistress. Thinking about it and actually doing it were streets apart in my mind.
I won't do anything I really don't want to do. I won't do things just to please him because I don't need to, we are not in a loving relationship.

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dressedupnowheretogo · 04/03/2008 15:56

i have a friend with benefits but we are equals in both experience and raunch wise and thats why we work

sometimes just coz someones sexy doesn't mean yo should do all this stuff espically if your not happy about it

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