Another thread about sex - I've been asked if I would try something new.

[screwedup]

Anal sex.

Never done this. Terrified that it will hurt but I am curious iyswim.

Have any other ladies out there tried it?

I really need advise on this one before I go for it. Please help.

why would a woman do that? defo gay

they say they are straight, but believe it or not, there are also men who sleep with other men who claim they are not gay (and they're not rent boys, either). just men who sleep with other men.

I know.I have a gay mate and he hates them men most of all.

And while I am on soapbox,if a man asked me to shave my pubes or dress like a schoolgirl then paedo out you go

It's up to people what they want to try within the limits of the law whatever that might be. People just differ. Some people don't even do oral sex and some do all kinds of things.

Tis true.Still weird tho and whilst I accept that some women enjoy this I fear that many are compromised and thats wrong.

try it, you might like it.
i tried it, wasn't that impressed, didn't feel anything, except being very uncomfortable... but only do it if you want to, don't do it to please him, cause it's something you either love or hate, and some men think that if you've done it once you have to do it all the time. so think about it. let us know!!!! lol

The law on sexual matters changes. It was illegal to be gay until (I think) the 50s or 60s. The Wolfenden Report rings a bell. Brother /sister incest became illegal early in the 20th century.

I didn't mean that was my approach to morality. In fact my moral position is that in a relationship your moral duty is to please your partner but I doubt that's a particularly popular view point.

On the legal issue I just meant some activities are illegal and they're best avoided. If something is lawful between two consenting adults then that's up to them what they do. Whereas if someone says if you saw off my leg I'll be aroused you wouldn't because that's illegal etc.

And certainly the law changes. In my life time when you married you gave consent to have sex and you could not be raped within marriage for example and that changed. The Victorians couldn't imagine women might be gay so never banned that but male homosexuality was certainly illegal.

Just wanted to jump in and add a new slant to this thread...in tantric sex (which is fabulous and should be tried the orgasm is almost 'an aside' ie it is unnecessary.If it happens then ok,but it's not the end product. In western sex, the orgasm signals the end of the act, whereas in tantra it is almost a speed bump , and the sex goes on long after. Incidentally, tantric sex is also about worshiping the woman, not in a subserviant way, but the man holds the woman in such high esteem and reverance. And before anyone says it's all weird hippy stuff, it's not. I was curious, read up on it, and now put it into practice....it's FAB!!!! It's more about the 'meeting of minds', putting sex on a more spiritual level, taking time to explore and really...I mean really knowing your partners body.

Just wanted to say thanks for all the advise/comments.

I have decided that I have to try it once and then if I don't like it or it doesn't work then I won't do it again. Although not in a loving relationship with this guy I do trust him to listen and take it easy with me.

I guess I started this thread thinking (like some others) that it was a weird request but have now been educated and realise that there are lots of couples doing having anal sex.

(Will be a while before it happens though.)

Thanks again.

I must look up tantric sex too. That sounds interesting.

swte - i would like to try tantric sex, dont have the time .

I have had enough of arguing on this thread now - i am not going to be judged because i enjoy anal sex, and some other things that would clearly shock on here.

It just is an insult to my intelligence to suggest that i am unable to decide what is acceptable in my own relationship. I couldnt give a flying fuck what anyone else does. So long as no one gets hurt/upset etc.

Oh and as far as shaving "down there" goes, my DP really likes me to be shaved, for practical reasons, he is not a perve. However, i wont do it anymore because it itches like a bastard when it grows back. As he discovered recently, when i persuaded him to give it a try - lmao.

Lucyellensmum - I am not judging you and it was my question you were answering. You have been very helpful.

I agree on the shaving front. I am suffering at the moment because of re growth. I did it for me and not to please anyone else.

So is there a good book or website about tantric sex. I feel I need to broaden my horrizons. Not that I would have the time either but it won't hurt to look it up.

I know that screwed up just not sure why the thread turned into a moral debate, it is after all, your arse

God these threads are always funny.

In a Pee Wee Herman sort of way.

oh great, nice one expat, now whenever DP says to me "im going to fuck you up the arse" i will only be able to hear it in a pee wee herman silly voice you are determined to put me off woman!!

LOL...no that's not what I had in mind!!! I'll have a look later at my 'library of books' and see what I can recommend
Lucyellensmum...I totally agree. I also like a varied and sometimes 'off the wall' sex life - that's just me.
As for shaving...I seem to recall a scene from Sex and the City where Samantha likes to shave, but her boyfriend wants her to grow a 'full bush'. She tries, to please him, but hates it, and says to him...'for Christ Sakes...I am x years old, and far too old to waste time with you having to look for it amongst all the hair. So I'm shaving it all off again'. Or words to that effect. Couldn't agree more. Plus...nothing more offputting than hair in the mouth I find

le, just get it waxed somewhere. Then it doesn't itch and scratch. Go to someone who knows that they're doing.

Shaved for practical reasons? What practical reasons?

I thought that too? I had some shaved off recently for c section and its a bugger growing back.

In some cultures that's the norm - waxing or shaving.