Another thread about sex - I've been asked if I would try something new.

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Anal sex.

Never done this. Terrified that it will hurt but I am curious iyswim.

Have any other ladies out there tried it?

I really need advise on this one before I go for it. Please help.

...perhaps the men I know have higher standards...they would not be happy to jerk-off on a regular basis!..lol

Depends on the age of the man actually but I'm sure most want to bring it to fruition if they can but there are a lot of sexual practices around. Some men (and I'm not into this) just want to kiss feet or be whipped or whatever. Vast range of differences in human sexuality and not all those practices are always linked to penetrative sex.

On making a case for anal sex..... I don't think you need to. Some people like it. Some don't. Why does one person like one thing and another doesn't? Who knows. Some people aren't into oral sex. Others (sees like half mumsnet at times) would be perfectly happy if their husband never went near them from one month to the next. Other are into more complex things.

On the interesting question of whether people should do things they don't like because their partner does it looks like I'm in a minority of one on that but I don't think even that position is wrong. We do things we don't like all the time for a partner even watching rugby or suffering an afternoon at his mother's.

Xenia it's asking too much to take it up tha jaxy imo!..yes you are right we all do things we don't like to please our partner like the things you mentioned.. but Anal sex is a deal breaker!..frig that!...I would quite happily jump on his balls with stilletos if he really wanted me to...but a dick up my arse...I think not..thank god my DH isn't into bum-love

I really cant understand why it is such a big issue - if you like it, do it, if you don't don't.

Xenia, you can make that a minority of 1.5, only half of me agrees, because i do do things for DP just for him, but only because im comfortable with it. I wouldnt take it up the bum just for him.

Been watching this thread and feel I now want to contribute (bit shy really). Lucyellensmum, I want to pat you on the back because everything you have said makes so so much sense and I understand all you have said and agree with it all 100%....well done and I feel for you when you are only trying to explain something that is strange and different to what others have experienced and they find it difficult to comprehend. I am so with you on this one....but each to their own
Now for a bit of history on me to let you all get a clearer picture. About 6 months ago my dh mentioned this to me and I was so upset with him for even thinking of it ...I thought he was gay and into strange stuff and all that, I was convinced it was an abnormal act and only for the freaky (not meaning to offend anybody, but I was so niave)......His timing was perfect but when he seen my reaction he was so upset and was only concerned for me..he is a wonderful, considerate husband and does everything for me and our 4 children putting himself last ALWAYS. In the bedroom he is the most unselfish lover I have ever had (not many to compare) but he always makes sure his needs are second to mine. He never ever put me under any pressure to resume sex after our babies where born and sometimes this was A VERY VERY long time!!!!!!! ...anyway... I trusted him totally and a few months after this initial conversation we spoke about it again, he got me a load of information and over time I came round to the idea, he was only educating me not grooming me I have to add. I was then intrigued and we took it really slowly he was so patient and kind and only considering me at all stages. I know he had a lot to gain but from what we had read so had I . Some of you may think he had more to gain than me but unless you have tried it, you will never understand. I trusted him and he stopped every time if I got scared or showed any sign of discomfort. When we eventually did succeed , I was so pleased for him but more grateful for him for introducing me to this new experience. We are very new to this and I love it love it love it...and really cannot believe it of me....so straight laced and all that......I am so pleased we have discovered another wonderful way to please each other and our sex life has got so much better..even when we dont have anal. It is such an intimate, loving act and unless you are in a relationship that is secure and full of trust I would never recommend it, only because there is more to gain from it in a loving relationship.

If you dont like the idea of it, that is fine but dont knock us that are so happy that we where introduced to it and I NEVER think of it as "taking it up the shitter"...we are just making love as we have doen for the past 20 years only it is a whole lot more fun

Now that's what I find intriguing...it is actually taking it up the shitter...no matter how you dress it up..lmao

JSo, I should also congratulate you on a fantastic post, you said what i was TRYING to say in all of mine, in one very eloquent paragraph. I think you have summed it up brilliantly, and your husband sounds wonderful - lucky you

He is Lucyellensmum, truly wonderful as I am sure your dh is too ...we are very lucky aren't we ....

We are indeed

This is becoming a bit of a bum sex lovers love in. {grin}

Well, seeing as that your anus and rectum were biologically designed for shitting, and your vagina for a man's penis and a baby's head, it's taking it up the shitter.

Sorry, but call a spade a spade.

Yes, but it does have ancient roots. People have done it for thousands of years.

(By the way it's against the law in some US states so just be careful what you do on holiday)

OMG!!! Expat!!!!!!!!!you are putting me off now

People have also sold sex for thousands of years, taken mind-altering drugs, killed one another, practiced infantacide, etc.

Sorry but nooooooooooooooooo

If dh suggested this I would kill him

a)Not what bums are made for therefore painful

b)I think any man that wants to shove his dick up you arse is Gay

ugh

I did go out with a bi-sexual man who felt that way, Chocolate.

He was very suspect of 'straight' men who wanted to butt fuck a woman - found them the sadistic type influenced by porn and therefore lacking imagination or latently bi-curious.

I have had both piles and an anal fisure so have had hands shoved up there and it KILLED.

The thought of it makes my stomach turn over so no chance of being turned on.I have been asked on occasion by past boyfriends who were dumped on spot.Perverts.Its so wrong

I think it causes such a strong reasction because I think the huge increase in numbers of men wanting it from women comes from the proliferation of the misogynistic porn industry, same as more men finding pubic hair on women gross, preferring women with surgically enhanced, abnormally large breasts, etc.

And to the 'don't knock it till you try it brigade': do you feel the same way about golden showers, shitting on someone, pegging, blokes cumming on your face, hot candle wax and other such practices others might say the same to you about?

Whats pegging?

I've been incredibly aroused, WiiMii. I have a high libido, love sex and have had many partners. I've had sex drunk, high, sober, on top of a car in a lay by off the motorway and other public places, etc.

Never had the urge to try that shit, no pun intended .

A woman screwing a man in the bum with a strap on, CP.