What has a guy done that instantly made you lose interest?

[LusaBatoosa]

The ones that spring to mind:

• Thought Jordan Peterson 'had some interesting ideas.
• Used 'female' as a noun.
• Let me pay half. I always offered, but if you let me, there would be no second date.
• Really poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional mistake or lapse (we all make them), practicaly unintelligible messages.
• Said he 'wasn't a reader'
• Was a picky eater.
• Was teetotal.
• Was religious.
• Wore a chain.
• Didn't drink water.

The dating pool has pee in it and, on top of that, I'm fairly unreasonable. I'm very happy I met my husband. 🤣

Drank
Didn’t have a faith or moral code of conduct
Was a mummy’s boy
Didn’t go to university
Couldn’t speak French
Rented a flat
Brough a sports back pack on a date
Said they like Pierce Morgan
Didn’t like dogs
Wanted to have sex on a first date

Yup. Jordan Peterson is for ill educated racist transphobic misogynists with pseudo intellectual pretensions. It’s not even something I have any interest in debating. They can all gtfo.

Also, this meme made me laugh.

Again, not a criticism, but can you unpack what makes it unfun for you? Obviously you don't have to, but I would really value it if you would, as people may be thinking the same about me as a non-drinker, so it would help to know what they are thinking.

If it doesn't make you feel bad, what does it make you feel? Because half a bottle of wine doesn't reliably alter someone's behaviour - certainly not someone who is regular drinker - so it can't be that you only spending social time with people who are acting like they are tipsy/drunk......

Do you want to discuss the taste of the wine with them?

And if you were already in a relationship and the person then decided to stop drinking, would that be a deal-breaker for you?

@WunWun Right, that's very helpful! It is a minefield.

Isn’t that what most people do, take on others ideas, everything has been thought about and suggested by other people before it becomes the norm, fashionable or the latest fad surely

And this lol ^

My ex would have little toddler tantrums. He would kick his feet and flail his wrists and yell if something went wrong. It was so gross, I had to look away.

Is this all the same bloke?

Wow I’d say your list is VU

I actually don’t judge people on most things apart from if they’re a dick or not or have dickish behaviour.

Someone being illiterate or not drinking alcohol wouldn’t bother me but if they were rude to waiters or think they were better then others.

If you were my date you would give me the ick straight away.

What was a turn off for me was a date who was anti-vax and a conspiracy theorist. What was annoying is that he ticked all of the other boxes.
Although I guess that would be included in dickish behaviour.

Think we dated the same onion parking man.

Was he from Chester 😂

Yes. I’ve been much happier since the divorce 😁

Boasted about his flash sports car. Sports cars are a total waste of money in my opinion; wouldn't want a relationship with anyone who pissed away money on fancy cars.

@LusaBatoosa , cheers!

What's wrong with being teetotal?

I kind of agree with the original list OP, but I'm teetotal and I think I'm alright?

🤢🤢🤢

Deal breakers for me are:

Smokers
Overweight
Underweight
Stingy
Rude to waiting staff
Asking for naughty pics or trying to steer the conversation towards sex before meeting..
Wants kids (had mine, done with that)
Is in a large amount of debt and doesn't know how to manage money.
Untidy
Poor personal hygiene
Picks teeth 🤢

I went on a date with a guy who turned up in a musty smelling t shirt and ripped jeans.
He had one of those velcro wallets with the chain attached to it.. he wanted to eat and I just wanted a drink. He ordered is food and totted up the bill and made me contribute towards my R Whites lemonade.
Cheeky fucker tried to go in for a kiss at the station... no thanks.
Asked for a second date .. I politely declined

-looked pissed off when I showed up and said ‘someone like you won’t want to go out with someone like me.’
-drank two drinks to every one of mine. Not a pint and a whisky, but had two pints, both rounds.
-kissed with a pointy rhythmic tongue, like a little wet cuckoo poking in and out of a clock
-said women only get worked up when ugly men harass them

You must be confused, this isn’t AIBU.

And people can have any dating criteria they like, it’s not required to be equitable. One’s criteria could be ‘only ginger Royals’, thus excluding 99.9999% of humanity. What’s it to you? 🤣🤣🤣

kissed with a pointy rhythmic tongue, like a little wet cuckoo poking in and out of a clock

😂

—said he would find it weird if his future GF earned more money than him during our first date
-following on, started gossiping about me when I got promoted and started earning more than him
-complaining about the price of everything
-insisting to split bill by exactly 50%, ie £12.61 or whatever. At that point I’d rather just pay for what I individually ordered
-said he can’t afford my theoretical “only fans”. I don’t have only fans, so not sure what his comment meant? Is he saying I’d be expensive or that I’m not worth paying for?
-stated he is “well endowed” in a completely irrelevant conversation
-saying he would invite me back to his but his parents are home

I’m sure you’re delightful. I just wouldn’t want to date you. There are lovely picky eaters and religious folk, as well (I’ve met quite a few), wouldn’t want to date them, either. 😊

Saying he thinks men “age better” than women (in context of why his marriage ended)

arranging first date (first meet up on OLD) around location that purely suited them with no thought to me

wanting a meal at a place that suited him on first date (first meet up) as it suited his schedule then asking me to pay half before I had a chance to offer (I would have but we didn’t even have the bill)

Saying “rather not say” on OLD in response to whether he wanted children then it turned out it was 100% no.

Jesus. 🫤

Watched a woman pass our table and follow her past with his eyes dropping to her bum before asking me to repeat what I was saying.