What has a guy done that instantly made you lose interest?

[LusaBatoosa]

The ones that spring to mind:

• Thought Jordan Peterson 'had some interesting ideas.
• Used 'female' as a noun.
• Let me pay half. I always offered, but if you let me, there would be no second date.
• Really poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional mistake or lapse (we all make them), practicaly unintelligible messages.
• Said he 'wasn't a reader'
• Was a picky eater.
• Was teetotal.
• Was religious.
• Wore a chain.
• Didn't drink water.

The dating pool has pee in it and, on top of that, I'm fairly unreasonable. I'm very happy I met my husband. 🤣

How scary! Huge 🚩. It was a forewarning. He knew what he was doing!

I'm a Catholic. It might have been his own personal misogyny but it might not have, it might just be that he believed the marriage would have a far better chance of succeeding for life if his wife shared his Catholic Faith. I'm a woman, and a revert; if I was dating and looking for a possible future husband now, I would want them to share my Catholic Faith too and to a very deep, supernatural level . This is for my personal reasons but it's also an objective truth that couples who share the same spiritual/religious beliefs tend to have more stable, successful, faithful marriages, so that could well have been his reason too, and it's a valid one. The RCC prefers that both spouses be Catholics but there's no requirement for both to be, nor for the non-Catholic to convert, so long as they agree that any children will be reared as Catholics.

@Blubbled I'm not sure if this post was intended for me? I can see the point you're making but in fact the guy in my post went on to get married three times, divorced twice, so I don't think sharing a faith helped a lot.

Oh, this is gold.

😂

I remember one guy who during sex kept saying “open your pussy wide for my cock, open wide”. Needless to say, we only had sex once. I felt like it was some dentist/gynae hybrid nightmare

This is like that seen in friends!

Different men

Ordered a white roll with cheddar cheese, ham and mayonnaise then ate it in front of me when we stopped for coffee. The mayo was the straw for me.

Kept asking me why I'd give money to them and not look after my own when I gave some change to a person begging.

Arrived and removed his jacket to reveal enormous sweat patches.

About to go for a short walk on the pier - did a full body stretching routine.

That scene in Friends, I mean. Sorry, was dictating it!

What's wrong with having a cheese and ham sandwich?

Took the receipt after a dinner date to give to his dad to put through his books against tax 🤮

I assume it's this bit in the PP's post: The mayo was the straw for me.

I mean, doesn't bother me but that's the point of this post? It's the things that have turned different people off.

I went on a date with a bloke who insisted on paying the bill and then said ‘I’ll put it in my company card and claim it back on expenses’ and then used the words ‘happy days’

Needless to say there wasn’t a second date

He asked me what I did for a living and I told him, to which he replied "did you just make that up?" (I was an editorial assistant at the time... pretty not made up)

My DP is tea-total and it bothers me not a jot and I always insist on paying half!
My no-go items are:

• Turning up late
• Smelling yucky (or incredibly strong of aftershave)
• Standing me up - really for any reason at all in the first months. I don't want to bother trying to work out if he is lying or not so I assume in the first 6 months that if I get stood up then he is flaky and not for me!
• Unemployed people
• People who can't spell / string a sentence together
• People who don't read

@GoryBory a non-reader doesn't work for me because in my experience they don't understand the need to sit in silence for a few hours to read a book frequently. They almost always ask stupid questions about my book, express opinions on my reading matter (I like Sci Fi / Fantasy, murders, action, nothing too heavy). I spend a good bit of my spare time reading and I want someone who understands this as a hobby and is happy to enjoy some peaceful time with me (he doesn't have to read at the same time, but he does need to understand the need to read and leave me to it!)

Men who wear signet rings 😂

Chunky gold chains
Vests
Smoking/vaping

Specifically on OLD

Pronouns
Vaccine status
No drama

told me he had slept with a man, it didn't do it for him
liked nipple clips
absolute turn off for me

@SpringleDingle

Standing me up - really for any reason at all in the first months. I don't want to bother trying to work out if he is lying or not so I assume in the first 6 months that if I get stood up then he is flaky and not for me!

I simply don't believe that after, say 5 months, you would dump a great man who you had fallen for and made you deliriously happy, simply because he had to cancel a date with you at short notice because his dad had been rushed into hospital or something similar. No one would dump someone in those circumstances unless they were insane!

Few of us would have ever had serious relationships if we had that criteria!

I started answering this

But the list is long

Memorable one. He wore kermit green pants.

After texting me to ask if he could get in bed with me.

Nailed shut.

Sigh.

Clicking his fingers at waiting staff

@Fairylightfurore wow. Complete lack of (currently acceptable) social skills.

LusaBatoosa
They didn’t have to do anything. There’s plenty of women who are happy to pay half (or go for a walk and a coffee). They can date them

Agree. Im not paying to date a man. If he asks me out then he pays. If I ask him, I pay. & I'd never date a broke or cheap man. I'm not broke. That's it. I couldn't care less what anyone else does.

Dealbreakers

Stinginess
Weed smokers. Inevitably boringly talking on & on about weed, how chilled it makes them etc. If they've no weed they can't enjoy themselves. & they make you stink of weed too. No thanks.

Men who talk badly about women - the Andrew Tate disciple type. I wouldn't even debate with them. It's a goodbye from me

Men who drink a lot sicken me. As do Netflix n Chill types, I can't believe women go for them but I suppose some must do.

Oh I've met some stinkers!

1. Told me he used to throw cats off the local tower block as a teenager.

2. Showed me his weapons collection.

3. Spent our date chatting up the waitress and ignoring me. He'd begged me for ages to go out!

4. Told me my older sister was a better bet as she was 'easier'

5. Went round to his house for a bit of fun. All was going well, his house was nice, a little blokey but nice and clean, spotless even, well it was until I went to the bathroom and the toilet was the smelliest, dirtiest hole I've ever laid eyes on. I can still taste that smell. I gaged and ran.

6. Whistled at people when he wanted something

7. Said girls couldn't be gamers

8. Said no woman would ever come close to replacing his mother as his no.1

Gah. It's not always men but when it is, it's men!

One insisted on paying after I'd told him I always go halves. I didn't like that.He was a bit older and said it was because he'd been in the army and was an officer and a gentleman, that he must pay.

After I didn't see him again, he messaged saying he'd like a woman who would join him in attending events etc. It just came across as really desperate. I mean, some women like a night out regardless of who they're with, but I wouldn't enjoy an evening spent with someone I didn't like and seemed to virtually have his tongue hanging out.

Oh that was the notorious one who, in bed, said 'how do you keep the figure of a fifteen year old girl' (?!) and 'this is one for the wank bank.'