What has a guy done that instantly made you lose interest?

[LusaBatoosa]

The ones that spring to mind:

• Thought Jordan Peterson 'had some interesting ideas.
• Used 'female' as a noun.
• Let me pay half. I always offered, but if you let me, there would be no second date.
• Really poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional mistake or lapse (we all make them), practicaly unintelligible messages.
• Said he 'wasn't a reader'
• Was a picky eater.
• Was teetotal.
• Was religious.
• Wore a chain.
• Didn't drink water.

The dating pool has pee in it and, on top of that, I'm fairly unreasonable. I'm very happy I met my husband. 🤣

Bad shoes
White spit nodules in the corners of their mouth
Saying "please may I have"
Staring
Being overly well groomed
Skinny jeans
Eating sweets

I once went on a date with someone who periodically cracked some awful obvious 'punny' joke, then sat back, looking at me in silence. I realised that he assumed that it would take me a few minutes to get the joke, and he was waiting patiently while I gradually worked out the pun. Where do you start with someone who not only thinks that he's so much brighter than you but is actually stupid and a twat.

There wasn't another date.

Oooh yes I had this too. Except he kissed his mum on the lips and they used to talk in baby voices to eachother. "Nun ooo" instead of love you. I wish I was kidding

Said he was going to wear a yellow t shirt and black “slacks” on our first date. There wasn’t a second date particularly after he said I had big feet ( I don’t ) and that he’d tried to run his ex over

I have my tin hat on but really some of these are very picky. No wonder some women are still single. So everything is fine with new person bar he doesn’t drink. We have enough issues with alcohol without excluding people who don’t partake without excluding them

Dear God 😂

Can someone explain why female isn't a noun? I'm confused. The rest is fair enough!

Saying not implying! But I know of course this is not true! Maybe I was overstating my instinctive reaction for effect.

But I love to read, for someone not to enjoy it at all, I find sad. And it probably is a suggestion we are very different people.

I’m very happily married. However, everyone should be very picky about who they date. There is no imperative (moral or otherwise) to couple up. People can and should ‘exclude’ from their dating pool anyone and everyone who they don’t fancy for any reason at all, however ludicrous it may seem to you.

If that means they stay single, they stay single. No skin off anyone else’s nose.

Oh I think I get it - saying female in place of saying woman. Yes there is something off about that.

dailynexus.com/2021-07-24/stop-calling-women-females/

medium.com/@hollymeijohnson/the-problem-with-referring-to-women-as-females-4728f1f6c3cd

jezebel.com/the-problem-with-calling-women-females-1683808274

Breathe!

OP, given that you expect the man to pay for you, I am surprised that you seem sceptical towards Jordan Peterson.

Was his name Aaron?!!?

And good for them but 75% of women earn less than their partners and in general men still out earn women. No one is stopping you from paying if you want to.

I saw a man had pronouns in his dating profile, the conversation wouldn't even start.

A well meaning twat at best, or a nasty misogynist at worst who hides behind left-wing credentials in order to rejoice the fact that women are having difficulty maintaining their right to single sex services and spaces.

Facial hair.
Rude to waitstaff.
Boasting.
Complaining about how much anything costs, especially if it's something petty like parking charges.
Twee language (words like 'tummy', 'botty', 'comfy' 😬😬😬)
Wearing sandals/pyjamas/slippers.
Disapproving of women who drink/swear/are smutty. ('Ladylike' I am not.)

Oh, and voting Tory.

Told me he ‘didn’t believe in mental health’
As in, didn’t think mental health struggles were real.
Like poor mental health is something you believe in like the tooth fairy or Santa clause. He worked in health services too 🙈
I literally ended the date there and then.

That’s nice, dear. Let it all out. 🤣

Different blokes that were straight for the chop;

1. Forgot to take his wedding ring off.
2. Carried a quarter bottle of vodka in his jacket pocket 'because it's cheaper and they give short measures at the bar'.
3. Asked my salary because 'There are some women out there that just want a man in my position to keep them'.
4. Mashed his food up on his plate with clinking cutlery sounds, holding the knife and fork like drumsticks.
5. Clicked his fingers at the waitress.
6. Asked if I was going to dress up for him and not to forget 'the stockings and sussies'.
7. Said he needed to ask me a very important question. Put on a Newsnight interviewer style face, put his palms together, dipped his head slightly to look up into my eyes, took a deep breath and asked 'Have you ever (pause) gone out with a black man and, if not, would you?'.

What does that even mean?! 🫤

It's as though they think they're Ferengi traders.

I guffawed! 🤣