What has a guy done that instantly made you lose interest?

[LusaBatoosa]

The ones that spring to mind:

• Thought Jordan Peterson 'had some interesting ideas.
• Used 'female' as a noun.
• Let me pay half. I always offered, but if you let me, there would be no second date.
• Really poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional mistake or lapse (we all make them), practicaly unintelligible messages.
• Said he 'wasn't a reader'
• Was a picky eater.
• Was teetotal.
• Was religious.
• Wore a chain.
• Didn't drink water.

The dating pool has pee in it and, on top of that, I'm fairly unreasonable. I'm very happy I met my husband. 🤣

I really hate the expectation men have to pay for everything on a first date. It’s grossly unfair, unless he massively out earns or there are extenuating personal circumstances. If I couldn’t afford half of even a cheap simple date I just wouldn’t go. And I’d go to Spoons quite happily!

Out of interest, why does a man paying for a date scream ‘misogyny’?

Referred to Birmingham as 'Brum Brum'

@Privatelyliving Agreed! I’d be put off if a bloke insisted on paying for me.

I don't mind offering to pay - this is fairly standard. I dislike refusing to go halves, if I say I prefer it.
I expect my words to be take at face value, and I dislike the man pays tradition.
But I haven't been on a date in some years and it would seem I'm in the minority. Oh well...

I'm staggered that being teetotal would be a deal-breaker for women lol..

I have so many anecdotes of men with alcohol issues.

I get if it’s personal preference even if I’d never do that, but I don’t think it screams misogyny. If a man offers to pay maybe that should be taken at face value too. Maybe he just wants to be generous and treat you.

Asked for a glass of milk and a cookie before bed.
We were in our late twenties btw.

For me, it is too steeped tradition to be considered just a gift. And that tradition is not based on equality.
If I offered to pay for the guy, would he accept?

By all means, buy me a nice thoughtful gift a few dates in, when he knows me well enough to get it right. 🙂

I am alcoholic in recovery. I have been sober for 4, years. I would never have a drink on a date doesn't make me boring .

My friends partner has been sober for 12 years - he’s one of the least boring men I know.

Got me in a headlock on his bed and whispered in my ear: “I could kill your now and no one knows where you are” - I think it was supposed to be a joke. Ha ha, I don’t think.

Had pet guinea pigs.

unexplainable but couldn’t get past it

Quite thoroughly explored this three months ago. RTFT.

Oooh, this was a fun thread! Wasn’t expecting it to be revived, but have no objections.

I didn’t date men with alcohol issues, either. It was fairly straightforward.

I don’t think anyone has said that people who don’t drink are boring.

Deal breakers

Making a fuss about paying. If I say I’d like to split it that’s because I would.

A gaming habit. Or any other very time consuming hobby.

Insolvency

A poor relationship with an ex with whom he has children

Very bad table manners

A lack of interest in the world / lack of basic general knowledge / poor conversation skills

No interest in any cultural life

An active interest in conspiracy theories

Very Religious

No ability to make me laugh

No interest in travel

Not deal breakers but he’d really have to be something:

Non drinker

Total non cook

Mildly or Moderately religious

Teetotal and vegan - one of my greatest pleasures in life is a beautifully cooked piece of meat or fish and sharing a bottle of wine with my partner. Religion, body odour, that weird negging thing some men do, and bad kissing.

Funny thread! The people who derailed it — you shouldn’t do that. It ruins things and is so annoying.
Mine:

• Has lots of female friends texting him all day
• Mum buys his pants/ does washing
• Negging
• Has to be centre of attention, me me me attitude
• Talks about what a ‘nice guy’ he is
• Disney dad

My list is

• tries too hard to impress from start
• no social life/few friends
• big drinker
• drugs
• slags off exes
• wears shorts other than on holiday
• crap tattoos
• tells you what a great bloke he is
• supports Spurs

This happened to a friend when we were teenagers - she met a posh public schoolboy (called Jasper) and ended up in bed with him.

Halfway through he inexplicably shouted “open your legs a bit wider sweetheart” in a Frank Butcher cockney accent. She found it so disturbing that for years she couldn’t say the words when telling the story - she could only write them on a bit of paper.

A grown adult referring to his parents as mummy and daddy is very off putting and weird 😂

Mum buys his pants

🤣🤣🤣

Sleazy
Over sexualised
Adds young women
Likes their pictures
Likes teen porn
Doesn't date women his own age

You get the picture

^^ instant ick, the attraction never returns