Husband hasn’t come home!

[Worried00]

My husband went to play darts last night as he does every Wednesday. I’ve woken up at 4.30am and he isn’t home!!!
I’ve tried calling him and WhatsApping him- no answer and no reply. He hasn’t read my messages.
his darts team are his old work mates who I have no contact information for.
im worried sick. What do I do!? Do I call the police? Do I call hospitals !? Help, I feel sick

Why blaspheme?

Just for the fun of it, really

@mushroomushroom that gave me a chuckle. I was imagining the car in Stephen King's 'Christine'!

If only people knew how many are out there driving drunk, disqualified, uninsured, medically unfit every day !

@Pootle40 I was imagining the car from Mr Mercedes, also Stephen King! 😂

I know. People are so mad with the OP over that, it's so disproportionate. It's not like she took a 600 mile trip up the length of the country, or was going on motorways or anything!

She never said the marriage is over, she's asked him to pack a bag and go. That's her not wanting to deal with the dickhead with a hangover and getting some space. He chose to leave her and 2 young kids without transport despite having work and school, caused her a shit tonne of worry and got himself in such a state he can't go to work.

Was she instead supposed to tuck him up in bed with some aspirin and look after him today? No - pack some shit, get out and they can talk later when he's not hung over and had a chance to think about his actions.

I agree sorry

Same here.

There has to be a back-story because the OP is a bit unhinged otherwise.

Pack a bag - and then what? Leave forever?

It took him a long time to get that drunk. He could have called you at any point and said that he was having a drink and getting a lift home/staying at a friends.

Agree with this.

I remember my husband doing that to me, about twenty years ago now. I was up all night, worried sick. But we talked about it, like adults, and moved on from it. He didn’t do it again. When people have a drink, they sometimes act out of character. Communication is the most important thing here.

😂

@Worried00 I hope you're OK.
I lived with a man who regularly did this. Its awful.
I'm concerned that he was too drunk to contact you last night but sober enough to drive (your car) this morning.
Only you will know whether you believe what your husband is telling you, we can only surmise.
Trust your gut and do what is right for you is my suggestion 🌺

I'm glad he's home safely but how bloody ridiculous he is!
I'd be incandescent
He's probably oblivious to all panic and worry he's caused you, plus it was your car

Hmm see it would definitely be the beginning of the end for me. I wouldn’t believe a word of it. and the trust wouldn’t be there.

But, even without that, he had Ops car. knowing she wasn’t insured on his, he proceeded to get pissed knowing he couldn’t get the car home for today. When he had his first or second, he didn’t think to text her and mention he wouldn’t be able to drive home or was changing plans.

Even if it is true, it shows no regard for Op. But if I were her I would think he was cheating

Glad he's back and in one piece OP.
Right or wrongly, I would have reacted the same as You - takes a second for him to send one quick text for your piece of mind. Hope you're ok x

Unhinged to want to end a marriage because her husband went out, got pissed, disappeared overnight and left her and the kids without a car and no way to get to work and school?

Some people have very low standards.

I would want all the details before making any decisions but on the face of it it’s not good. Maybe the op’s husband didn’t even go to darts, hence why no one knew where he was.

Nowhere does OP say she intends to end her marriage!!!
She most likely doesn't want to even look at him right now,,, He could use some fresh air

@HowcanIhelp123 throwing your spouse out if the marital home because they've upset you is actually abusive behaviour. Can you imagine the howls of outrage if it was the other way round?

I presume you don't see the irony in your own post?

@artis1
No because kicking someone out of their own home is completely wrong unless you are breaking up for good.

If a woman was being kicked out of her own home posters would be losing their minds.

Driving uninsured is one of the biggest crimes. If you accidentally hit someone, even if it is their fault (a cyclist or pedestrian) and they are permanently injured, the insurance pays out millions to improve their quality of life through e.g. house changes for wheelchairs. It isn't just the car that is at risk. This is what the cheapest "third party" insurance covers. It's covering anyone you may injure, not the value of your own car.

Perhaps people take their marriage vows seriously, and work hard to try to make things work rather than ending a marriage after one incident like this? I would feel very differently if he had cheated, but on the basis of what the OP has said, there's nothing to suggest that he has.

I always wonder who are the husbands who actually leave their own home because they're told to pack a bag.

Nobody would ever be throwing me out of my own home.

I always wonder who are the husbands who actually leave their own home because they're told to pack a bag.

Nobody would ever be throwing me out of my own home.

OP has said he has done stuff like this in the past and presumably had decided to change his behaviour in order to stay in the relationship. It’s perfectly reasonable to consider ending a marriage if the trust between them has been broken by his selfish, drunken behaviour.