What does Lots of ducks to feed mean here???

[cluelessbingo]

I met a guy on online dating. He asked where I lived. I told him my whereabouts. He then responded saying 'lots of ducks to feed there.'
Does anyone knows what he means by this?

lots of ducks to feed there.

= lots of fucks to deed (ie do the deed) there
= people there are easy.

That's just me guessing, and maybe my imagination has run away with itself!

OP, have you read “Cassandra In Reverse” ? Good book- it does deal with this - a good fit would be easier; he’s already work, simply through incompatible communication styles.

Ah, I like your update. He’s saying what he means, that’s all, it was an observation about a park near where you live, no hidden meaning.

quite refreshing, really. Sometimes I wonder if mumsnet makes us all a little paranoid 🤣

have a good date, OP

Aw he sounds nice! He probably wrote the ducks thing in a covid fever and is cringing himself inside out now for that comment.

He sounds very sweet indeed.

Amazing update OP I'm so pleased for you 😁

He sounds sweet

He does sound sweet and like he likes you. He's worried he's not making a good impression and he wants to. It's good he knows you don't always get idioms. For now I'd draw a line under this, if you like him take him at face value and see how it goes.

All sounds well OP! And he sounds sweet. It was an odd and random thing to say, he's explained himself nicely - I think you'll be looking back and laughing at this together before long.

I just had a little image of a duck with a little ribbon round its neck at a wedding 🥰

Great update! Better buy some duck food 😃

But the ducks line wasn't an idiom. He meant it completely literally. I don't even think it was an unusual thing to say. MN collectively, and insanely, decided it was a weird sex idiom. One of the most bonkers threads I've ever read.

@gannett
I feel like 95% of people would have clicked on this thread and gone ‘huh, I would assume he just likes ducks’ and wonder if they have missed something, shrugged and gone on to other threads. The other 5% posted.

Honestly, the ducks comment was throwaway, innocent and quite literal.

You live near parks with wild fowl. People walk around there and feed ducks. Perhaps not you personally and I agree about giving them bread but it is an established thing do on a walk. Some people who are keen on animals buy seed for them which they view as healthy for the ducks so it isn't seen as a blanket 'bad' activity even for those who would not give them processed white bread.

It is quite a playful, innocent reference if anything as children and families often feed ducks. No sex involved and no strange intention attached to this comment. I have done a lot of online dating and feel pretty confident of this.

There isn't a well known sexual innuendo involving feeding ducks, so no, he is very, very unlikely to be referring to one. Nobody here as said they use a niche one if it exists.

He has blamed his covid brain out of politeness or embarrassment as a little comment with no agenda has caused some confusion. Nobody's fault and you brought it back in the end but I honestly think you can put this to rest. There was no sexual innuendo or strangeness. People thought they were being funny or without realising just how unsure you were about how to take this. I hope the date goes well.

Well you are just dreadful at guessing!

🦆

Nothing to add but really wish you luck with either this chap or any others. You sound really nice.

'Feeding the ducks' is a sex reference isn't it?

Thank you everyone.

The date is this weekend. I'm excited about it, but he hasn't responded since yesterday, so no plans have been made.

Just want to double-check (genuinely need advise):
He says he has COVID. I've asked how he's feeling but he hasn't responded. The way my brain works is to not check-in or follow-up until he responds. Is this ok?
What would one typically do? Check in? Try to show some care? Try to establish whether he's recovered enough to meet and suggest we can reschedule if it helps?
Thank you.

If you've asked how he's feeling already, leave it now and wait until he replies.

Exciting!

What do you think it means then?

I think that's honestly up to you, regardless of how your brain works OP. Each person could take it differently. I know that I personally appreciate people checking in with me if they know I've been unwell or there has been something with my DC. Whereas you will find some people may find it overbearing. I'd like to think if he is as nice as he seems, he would be happy either way, given you could be giving him space when he is unwell. Hope all goes well this weekend :)

Also I wouldn't worry that plans aren't confirmed as such yet. Maybe he is waiting to make sure he is feeling well enough and doesn't want to risk making you ill. Whereas he might be afraid if he confirms plans then cancels that you might think less of him.

Exactly

I would leave it until the day before the date now.

You have kindly shown concern but remember that you've not met yet so even if he feels awful, there's nothing you can do and he may just need to rest.

If it gets to the day before the date and you havent heard anything then I would text, ask how he is, check whether he is still on for the date tomorrow and maybe a quick, friendly line about how the rest of your week has been.

If in doubt, I would personally err towards less contact than more in the very early stages, especially before you've met.

Not very helpful to the op after the event though! Where were all you sensible people the other night when she asked! 😁