Is it me or is everyone splitting up?

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Or at least that's how it seems.
In the last few weeks I've known 6 couples to split up, all long term relationships, all with kids and a mortgage etc.
Some of the couples were people I genuinely thought would be together forever although nobody knows the ins and outs of someone's relationship.

Are you early 40s? It seems to be a time a lot of people reassess their relationships.

Yes, I'm 42

You're into the transfer window.

agree …, I think people recovered from the covid situation now it’s the cost of living all pressure and yes agree that 40’s is the window !!

I don't think of anyone being together forever these days. In fact, it might be cynical but I increasingly see big weddings as something people will regret paying for a few year down the line.

Ah yes me and lots of people I know. All long term relationships also. We’ve even said at least we’re all in it together.

No.
It's you.
Think about everyone you know - colleagues, neighbours, friends, dcs' friends parents, family, etc etc. I bet that is massively more than 6 couples.
Therefore, no, everyone isn't splitting up.

I am, and I’m in that age group.

I don’t know anyone who is splitting up. I and most of my friends are moving towards 40 though so maybe we have that to come?

Yes it’s definitely you, what are you doing to everyone?

Or people could remember their vows and stick out the rough with the smooth - it's not all plain sailing, but so many couples I know have broken up because one person thinks the grass is greener.
It rarely is!

I’m 43 and yes there is a lot of separations going on. Covid, col, lots of stress and pressure, mid life crisis and a younger model.

I have recently, and I’m early 40s
but feel like I know more people where things are crap but cost of living crisis is keeping them there

People are getting stronger and smarter. No one wants to take anybody's bulshit any more.

It's a phase of life. Some years you feel like you're going to a wedding every weekend then kids stuff. Splits/divorces are also like buses. Funerals to follow. Depressing but natural phases I suppose.

I'm the same age and I've noticed it a lot in the last few years. DH and I married 5 years ago and a lot of couples who were at our wedding aren't together anymore. Quite a few have had babies with new partners and some have remarried in that time too.

Our engagement was also when we were on holiday with two other couples around 8 years ago, and neither of the other two couples are together anymore (one before our wedding and one after). We have jokingly said that our relationship seems to be a curse for people around us.

True. I got divorced recently and when I went home, this summer, to visit some family and friend, most of them did not know, so I told them. Every, single person I spoke to told me that they had been thinking about divorce but could not take the step, for different reasons. Every, single person! In fact I realized, when I came back, that I spent more time listening to other people complain about their crappy marriage then talking about my divorce.

I am in a weird limbo-ish feeling right now (I’m also 42!)

Hitting 40, putting up with less shit, being generally grumpier 😂

One minute I love him and the next minute I’m planning mine and the kids’ escape 🤷🏻‍♀️

😂😂😂

Also, lack of money would probably make it really difficult to split right now anyway.

Normal for your age group. I was 44 when I got divorced. Most of my divorced friends were between 40 and 45

Pretty sure it's something to do with Mercury in retrograde or whatever.

Two of my friends 40 & 41 are divorcing their husbands. They've decided they don't want to put up with the shit anymore.

Im separated but i knew the grass wouldnt be greener. The ground was scorced everywhere, i just chose my hard.

I agree with this.

We’re well and truly into the internet age, where information is so much more readily available than before, e.g, Mumsnet.

Eyes have been opened and people are done with the BS, especially women.