WhatsApp

[LeilaM42]

I send someone a WhatsApp message 1 day ago and he’s not opened the message but I can see he’s been online. Is it possible he’s not got the message or is he ignoring me ?

well I’ve just had another look and it says seen at 01.56

Absolutely don't. Just be strong. You're better than this shit. Be glad you didn't cave and text. Onwards and upwards!

Thank you

Or he has turned it off for everyone or just the OP. You can turn it for individual contacts

He's a player. He met someone else on Saturday

Don't feel an idiot OP. Many of us have been there and many more will!!

Well it's now Monday late evening so if you haven't heard back from him by now you definitely are wasting your time even thinking of him. There are plenty of men out there who I am sure would love to get to know you so pls give them a chance.

If he wanted to message you, he would. He's a man. When they like someone they make it very clear. He's ignoring you because he's not that into you. Don't double message and try to move on for your own sanity.

'If he wanted to, he would' is always the answer to these dilemmas.

Is that yesterday?

Sunday at 01.56

Yeah, he's ignoring you I'm afraid. Delete and move on.

What? You said earlier he has been online?

I messaged him at 00.50 Saturday morning. Now saying under his name seen on Sunday at 01.56

None of that matters. He hasn't messaged you.

MOVE ON

Read back your comments. You aren’t making sense. First you said message had 2 grey ticks but he had been online. Then you said he hadn’t been. Now you’re saying he has been and has seen the message.

Plus this.

If he's ghosted you or is in the process, you texting "did you get my WhatsApp?" just doesn't make you any more appealing. It just comes across as needy and attached

A healthy love life isn't achieved by amending your behaviour according to how you'll 'come across'. If he's ghosting you, OP, and you ask him what you need to ask him, it won't make any difference, AKA, it won't do any harm. If he's not ghosting you, then one 'Did you get my message? Just checking everything's ok?' doesn't make you into some needy, desperate type.

Be yourself. If you need to ask him something, ask it. If he takes it as being 'too needy', then he's not for you. But if you won't be who you are for fear of how you come across, how is anybody ever going to know enough about the real you to know whether they want to have a relationship with you or not?

the reason everyone’s replying is we have all been there !!!!
and have the bruises

Please listen to the majority. You sound really desperate. If he was that into you then he'd be in constant contact. Move on.

This is completely true. I empathise so much. OP we just don't want you to get hung up on this fella! Stay strong and you will find someone worthy of your lovely attentions.

So he’s been online at 8 this morning I think that tells me what I want to know.
Thank you for all the replies !

Yeah. Ugh how pathetic of him!

We don't know the reasons for this but I agree that majority of us responding to you have been in this position.

Good job for not texting again.

And when he decides to come back you need to actually reason he doesn’t get to pick you up and down.

As I said before consider your attachment style. Do some googling or read the book by Amir Levine.

What a coward. He could easily reply to you and just be up front and say he had a good time with you but for XYZ reason, he doesn't want to pursue it. If he does EVER get back to you when he's drunk or/alone, please don't respond.

Also the fact you last (only time?) met was a few weeks ago tells you all you need to know!!!

If he was into you he'd have arranged another date ASAP!

Please please please don't be tempted to text him. You may have thought you had chemistry, he didn't.

He wants you to go away quietly ... until ... he gets bored or has no one else to talk to.

Sorry OP dating can be soul destroying but you must set your standards high! You know what you're worth and you're worth more than this prat!