WhatsApp

[LeilaM42]

I send someone a WhatsApp message 1 day ago and he’s not opened the message but I can see he’s been online. Is it possible he’s not got the message or is he ignoring me ?

If he has sent a video of him playing the guitar send something equally narcissistic

Genuinely I think he is interested he's just got distracted or not much of a chatter. Step away from the phone and leave it to him. And when he does message don't answer so quickly.

Don't double text. Especially if he hasn't responded or even read your last message. Let it go.

So he sent you a video of him playing the guitar and you replied to that (presumably telling him how great he was), then you asked how he was and how his day has been?

He's not making a lot of effort here is he?

None of this matters. He has a life - he might be busy. Obsessing over What's App ticks isn't healthy so, OP, turn off your phone for 24 hours and relax - book, TV, meet a friend, have a bath, whatever..... just live your own life.

You've messaged him. He's very likely seen it but chosen not to open it for whatever reason.
The ball is in his court. I def wouldn't be messaging again, leave it up to him now

Yes I agree with everyone, do not message him again.
In my opinion he probably will reply though.

I agonised over these things many times! If you can stand it, try not to message and leave it to him. If he’s interested he will be in touch.

Blue ticks mean it has been physically read, grey ticks mean delivered but not read and no ticks mean he hasn't been on watsap or he has the ticks disabled

Mine too - I’ve got reams of messages he hasn’t replied to!

He might be ignoring you and purposefully not opening the message so you can’t see he’s read it. That might be because he doesn’t have enough time or headspace to respond now and is waiting until he does or could be because he’s not interested.

Alternatively he might have just missed this message if for some reason he didn’t see the notification when you sent it, if he then only goes onto WhatsApp by clicking on the notifications he gets on his phone they will take him straight into that conversation rather than onto the list of chats and so he might genuinely not see you have sent a message despite being online. That happens to me all of the time as I don’t ever really think to go into WhatsApp to see if anything’s been sent that I’ve missed despite being terrible for absent-mindedly clearing notifications without reading what they are.

LeilaM42
So any suggestions as to what I could send him now ?

Erm, stop stalking him? If he wants to reply he will, if he doesn't then you're just going to make yourself look a bit of a chump if you persevere with mindless messaging.

@DixonD 😅

He could at this point be getting hit over the head with said guitar, maybe he's deleted your conversation.

His apparent decline in enthusiasm regarding responding may indicate he's not able to respond, that would be make first take on it.

It's hard to say whether it's on purpose or not but I would say don't add anything else.

Should he reply and you decide to respond, don't respond straight away, leave it a while before doing so.

If it becomes a recurring theme and you're continuously being left hanging, maybe leave it.

Sometimes I save messages that I want to take time to respond to until later.

My advice would be to stop obsessing, go and do something else. If he doesn't reply in the next 24 hours I'd give up on it.
Don't double up on messages.

Absolutely nothing.

He's not that in to you. Move on.

Trust me, don't bother. I had a similar situation last year. We are now 1 year and 4 months down the line and after many hot and cold moments I've now discovered this whole section of my life I've spent on him has been a waste. Honestly, I've never felt more shit about myself (even after 2 domestically abusive partners) and feel completely stupid that it took me this long to realise I meant absolutely nothing to him at all. I wouldn't wish my current feeling on anyone and I've only myself to blame for ever sending a further text the many times he didn't bother reading or replying. Let the loser go and find someone who is as invested in you as you are them.

Is he called Will 🤣🤣

He’s always answered pretty quickly but maybe he’s just not that interested I need to stop thinking of reasons he’s not answering

When a message comes through (unless you've changed notification settings) you get a notification on your phone showing you the text (used my mage as a guinea pig here, inprmise i have replied to her now haha), if its a long one you have to open it to read it all, but you can pull down to read it and it won't show the 2 blue ticks to tell other person you've read it.

I'm brutal for swiping a notification away and forgetting about it, I genuinely don't mean to (9 week old and a 16 month old so sometimes genuinely just get distracted) he might have done that? Leave if a few days, if thats the case he'll surely message you when he realises and he's interested.

I wouldn't send another text though if I were you, as others said... don't chase incase he is just being a twonk and ignoring you.

He'll come back if he's interested

Still hasn’t answered so think I have my answer now. I can’t believe how wrong I got it !

I wouldn't be surprised if he does come back with some excuse but ask yourself, would you leave a message from him unread for so long? If he was as keen as you are, he wouldn't have left you hanging...

thats not strictly true, the blue ticks show the message has been opened, if you have a bunch of chats in WA and someone sends you a message you will see the count of unread messages ( especially if the chat is on mute) with the blue dot next to unread message with a count, if the message was a one liner you can see read it on the message list without opening the message