Husband doesn’t want children

[Littlestar12]

Hello,

my partner of 12 years, husband for 4, has only just told me he doesn’t want any more children. We have one beautiful daughter who is nearly 2. I’ve always wanted a bigger family and he has only just told me this after I asked if we could start trying again. There is no compromise at all and he is certain he will not be having any more children. I feel absolutely devastated and unsure what to do. I’m wondering if anyone has been through anything similar? Does anyone have any advice? I’m not sure who to talk to xx

What a shit! So he has made your whole adult life to be a lie
Focus on your lovely children. Forget about him. They will make every day worth it.

Honestly I'm still in shock 9 months on!

He moved out the day it all came out in January but moved back in the May just before the baby was born.

I have absolutely no idea what to do, he says he wants to fight for the family but I'm not sure I will ever overcome the pain he has caused me 😔

How is he fighting for his family exactly? Not sure this is fixable op.

I don't think I could ever trust someone like that again. However, parenting single handed is not easy. Have you got a good support network? Your friends and family must be aware what's going on if he's been moving out, then moving back in.
Hopefully you've got some good help available

It's funny that you say "someone like that" because he was never that person and it's strange as I still see him as the person that would never do this to me and I don't see him as "someone like that" Maybe I am being in-denial!

I do have a very good support network around me. Unfortunately a lot of people are aware of his infidelity as the rumour came out quite widely in his workplace and spread quite quickly through our hometown 😔

My apologies, I missed your update.
What an utter scumbag.
I missed too the date.
He read initially as awful and isn't he just.
OP, you deserve better.
Don't waste your breathe on him.
I'm so sorry.
The dynamic was always off unfortunately.

What an absolute cunt he is OP.

What on earth changed his mind last September? Had she broken it off with him for a bit? Did she come round to tell you about the affair? Men are so weird the way they can compartmentalise people like this.

You sound like you want to bin him off at heart. Is your hesitation for the children?

💐

Bloody Nora OP sending hugs. Sadly I know a bit what this feels like.

I’m so sad to read your update. What a horrible thing to do. You deserve so much better OP.

I also didnt see the date and was about to respond with i bet he is planning to leave you.

he has behaved in an appalling manner. I get why you have taken him back, because newborns are hard. But now baby is older you need to remove these rose tinted glasses that are still seeing a man who isnt like that. He is a cheat and a liar. And you also said you do everything for him.

I feel like I have spent my whole life supporting him and doing everything to please him. I do everything for him at home and I’ve been his biggest supporter.
who is your biggest supporter?

My friend tricked her DH into having 2 DCs.
He absolutely loves them with all his heart.
An only child is a lonely child.

Real all OPs posts ....

Jesus that's terrible. What a horrible position he's put you in; selfish pig.

Personally, I would stay with him and get as much parenting out of him as you can while the kids are really young but behind the scenes be preparing to kick his ass to the curb when you hit the school years and everything should be a bit more manageable.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Your friend is a devious shit and as for an only child being a lonely child, utter nonsense!