Argument 4 days ago..no contact but hasn't changed profile picture of us

[Littlemisslonley]

Sounds childish I know....

We had a huge argument 4 days ago over contact he's having with his female friend which I deem inappropriate sending her love hearts and saying stuff like "you look gorgeous darling" lots of voice notes and videos sent to each other. We argued he left and since then we have had no contact however he's not unfriended me on socials or changed his WhatsApp picture from a picture from us and it's driving me insane as to what this means?!

It sounds so childish writing it but I really don't know where I stand anymore with this

This whole changing picture, not communicating with you is game playing, and he is trying to play YOU. Really a pathetic type of man and not a relationship material. Don't give him the satisfaction of keeping you hooked. End it yourself or ask him outright wtf. Keep your chin up and don't plead/convince/explain - he will only use it against you.
I would not waste a minute or headspace for someone like that anymore. Feelings come and go but peace of mind is priceless.

Yeh, resist the temptation to reach out with some comment. Just block him.

Block him and buy yr daughter a new bike. Let him know that you are DONE. So done, you'll buy a new bike rather th
an see him for any reason.

This is a loser who was trying to cheat in plain sight. You could not do worse than this lechy gaslighting loser.

Thanks you guys. You've put me back into fuck him and his cheating in plain sight mood

I'll buy a new bike for DD. The rest of my bits can be replaced whenever I need them to be over time.... I'm going to focus on me and learning who I am instead on him and the mind fuckery he's causing

Thanks everyone

Out of sight out of mind OP. Sooner you get your stuff back and block him the sooner you will move on..

Your right I know you are and everyone else is too. Keep going to block him and then wavering like an idiot....

Lay in bed last night thinking of all the things he's done to break my trust and realised I should of left 8 months ago

Um, actually why shouldn't you go and get your stuff.

I should get my stuff. He should get the small amount I have here too but I don't feel like I should chase him for contact so if he doesn't contact me then guess I'll replace.... he's changed his profile picture but left us in a relationship on Facebook and we are still following each other on insta....weird!? I think I just want him to message as I wanna see what he has to say about it

I'm going through it atm with my kids and their dad's and situations he knows how low I am and he's left me like this....says alot

OP, why haven't you blocked him yet? It still sounds like you are waiting for him to contact or continue ghosting you, or maybe that you are looking for an excuse to go round. I did this once. An ex had some books of mine. I was despwrate to see him and use the books as an excuse, but I stood my ground and went cold turkey. Then one day he contacted me using the books as an excuse - could he drop them off? I told hm to post them. This guy shows you no respect, cheating in plain sight, ghosting you when you argue over it, then changing his picture to prove a point. Why on earth are you still waiting for him?

Great you've decided not to be needed about, but just go and get your stuff.
Turning up at his door and saying give me my things is not chasing contact! It's getting your stuff. It's a full stop at the end of a sentence.

Messed, not needed

You are giving this all of your energy. Do you like the chase or the drama?

If not, forget him. Block and move on.

Dump him. Text him and tell him that the relationship is over. Arrange for someone to go and pick up your stuff.

Take back control.

Contact him to arrange the collecting of your stuff & to give him his things, don't go indoors, don't engage in a conversation. You can then end the relationship. Stay strong 💪

Someone who cares about you doesn't give you the silent treatment, nor do they don't confuse you by saying things that cause you hurt.

It's illegal to physically hurt someone it mental abuse is rife.

Move on.

Sorry everyone I've been quiet went on a walk with my sis and dd today try and clear my head. I know your all right I should just get my stuff and block him don't know why part of me is still sat here waiting on contact from him...he doesn't care about me clearly probably spun it so I'm the one who has done wrong in his head

Why am I doing this why can't I just block him

Just message about the stuff and arrange a time for you to exchange. It sounds like the relationship is definitely over so I'm not sure what other kind of contact your expecting. Just keep it brief

The quicker you block him the better you'll feel! Watch that chip come off that shoulder and you'll feel a sense of relief ❤️

Time to glow girl! 🥰💖

This made me smile. Thank you. I know your right.... what a bloody mess hey...xx

The message

"When can I get my stuff and give yours back? You have DDs name bike and old bike plus her helmet and stuff in your loft that's mine. It's clear from your lack of any communication what this means and it's really awful after everything I'm the one who has to message you and be the bigger person when you know whats going on and that I am already on my knees. Noone in this world would put up with the things you've done and the mistrust you caused not to mention the hiding things and the fact you cannot communicate correctly. I gave everything and recieved lies mistrust inappropriate behaviour and hurt and I deserve so much better"

What's everyone's thoughts on this

Glad it made you smile ❤️ chuck them big girl pants on an tell him to go fuck himself 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I think your post gives him the upper hand.

“just say can I arrange a time to collect stuff from your house “ and then take a friend with you when you go

after all there’s nothing to discuss is there - he’s shown you his real character

I would of just asked for your DD stuff and whatever else you had there, there's no point trying to explain yaself because these men aren't shit and they will try and pin it all on you again 🙈

No man goes no contact for 4 days with someone he really wants to be with. Just block him and good riddance if I was you.

This reminds me of the episode Oprah did once and discussed what three dots at the end of a sentence in a text message meant. It was based on a woman trying to work out if she was in a hood relationship or not. Common sense would have told you she wasn’t but all she could think of was what the three dots might mean.