What is wrong with men?

[Nottodayplease36]

I have been OLD since January (I took a break for a few months because I got sick of it) and I just can’t believe the amount of strange annoying men I have encountered.

I’ve been out with four different men, all very keen at the beginning. Three of them I have been on multiple dates with (3/4) so I don’t think I don’t look like my photos or anything.

They have all messaged me after the first date telling me that they had a great time. I’ve been careful not to chase/double text etc but always replied when they text me. At the beginning I’m getting “good morning” texts, them arranging dates etc. Yet every single one has just ghosted without any real notice and I just don’t get it.

I’m told I am quite funny, I’ve got my shit together, good job, own house etc. I’ve not slept with any of them but happily kissed, when they have suggested going away for the weekend I’ve said I would happily once I get to know them etc.

I’m starting to feel like there is no point. I would love just to meet a nice normal guy. Are other people having these sort of experiences? I’ve literally not got past 5 weeks🙈

This looks like exactly the same behaviour as the OP is complaining about, but is going to date number 12 rather than date 4/5.

those men should start a “what’s wrong with women “ thread of their own

I’m a woman. She’s giving out dating advice but her username implies it’s not been entirely successful…

They’re playing a numbers game and you should be too. I think women take OLD a lot more seriously than men and this is where a lot of the disappointment comes from. Men are up for a shag and if it leads to a relationship then great; women want a relationship and if that leads to sex then great. Treat dates as a nice time with someone you’d not have met otherwise, not like you’re interviewing for Mr Right. Keep early dates short - a coffee or a walk, date lots at once, don’t message/talk too much before meeting, know that a good date is only a good date - not the beginning of a serious relationship (if you’re lucky and it hits you both right it might be but you won’t know for the first few dates).

Blimey Namddf are you a woman and have you online dated in the last few years?

It’s like you have NO idea how vastly different women’s experiences from online dating are to men’s.

You and me both!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall when he was asking me what he calls his "control questions" 😂

I think it was general stuff like: Do you want kids? (he didn't, and I was too old)... Do you like your job? (he was fed up of hippies) etc