Name changed for this as I’m embarrassed and totally lost.
By way of background over the past few years, starting with lockdown, DH and I got into an awful habit of having a drink every night. It just became the norm. Working from home, no school runs, no hobbies or usual work travel, it seemed to relieve the boredom and we had a laugh to be honest.
It has got out of hand though and a glass of wine or two every night, and frequent weekday hangovers just became the norm.
About a month ago we had a huge chat about it and both agreed we needed to make a change.
For the last 3 weeks I have been doing so well. Only having a drink on a Friday night, getting to bed on time, up early with the kids and exercising again. I’m losing weight already and feel great.
Cut to this morning.
He says we need to talk, he loves me to bits but the drinking has to stop.
I was genuinely flabbergasted and said all of the above about the last 3 weeks, and he doesn’t believe me! Last night for example, he thinks I sneakily had a drink and he could smell it on me.
When I protested he said that he knows what he’s been seeing, and I’m clearly not ready to address it or talk about it yet!
I swear with every bone in my body I haven’t been sneaking anything.
I was so so proud of how things are going.
I don’t want to turn this back around on him as he’s not really addressed the daily drinking issue yet he’s just cut back a lot.
But I don’t know how to move the conversation forward either, when we are at a complete stalemate and he wants me to admit something that isn’t true
Please no judgements or harsh comments.
Feeling extremely fragile today.
I’ll take any criticism or feedback at all about the last few years, but how do I convince someone who’s made their mind up that it’s not true? He’s saying our relationship is in trouble if I don’t tell the truth (which I agree with!) but I am telling the truth!
Advice so desperately needed please.