Dating Thread 242 - Mid-Summer daters

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Stepcount I hope everything fitted into your car.
I'm the retriever or my DD from Uni as I have a bigger car than her Dad (he brought a convertible 🙄, DD noticed and said she thought he should have got a car which can take her to and back from Uni and got a convertible later on) but getting her back in June was a very tight squeeze😂
I think not accepting Mr V's offer was the right thing to do.

Please continue to use us for musing purposes, its so hard to know what to do for the best when you split from someone for no real reason.
I hope you continue to practice self care during these next few weeks🩷

Pear ring /any thoughts? Have a green silicone ring-size washer and thinking of wearing it for a lark and seeing if anyone clocks it 😄

@VanillaSox the ads for these have been popping up on my socials but I don't really see the point - I rarely see anyone out I fancy and would want to approach me (and wearing it would take away the easy get out of "sorry, I have a partner") or in rare case I like the look of someone I get chatting to them somehow anyway to eastblish if single etc

I understand all your words but I don’t understand the sentence 🤣. What is this ring and what is the meaning of it?

Hi! It was recommended that I join you all here after a couple of threads!

im newly separated and dipping my toe into the game! Complicated by the fact I live abroad and it’s hard to flirt in a second language. I’m also, for now, slowly going one at a time.

number 1 - Mr Grandad!? - liked him a lot but after an incredible lunch date was interrupted by him needing to go “look after his grandad”, I bumped in to him and his next date on my run just after.

number 2 - Mr Boat - gave up after he didn’t show much interest and was overly instagrammy.

so now onto number 3 - The Argentine -

We had an incredibly hot date with incredible chemistry, I like him a LOT. He works in sports and has an Adonis body but made me feel like the most beautiful woman alive! But the day after our date last week I went traveling (and I’m away for a month!) he’s texted me once a day since, quité innocent conversation, but I’m nervous about how to play it now… any advice!?

A few weeks ago I was out with a friend in a bar near here house (about 49 minutes away from me). I got chatting to a man outside and we kept coming back and talking to each other throughout the evening.
Another (male) friend said to me that this guy was constantly looking over at me.

I was going to go over and say goodbye to him but we ordered an Uber and ended up leaving in a rush.

Anyway fast forward a few weeks and I joined FB dating this week and guess who is on there? And we’ve just matched and he remembers me so let’s see if this one is any better as we’ve already seen each other in RL.

Hello everyone! Dipping in to read all your new posts. I’m really sorry Stepcount, you really worked at that relationship and I know it wasn’t always the easiest thing.
My news…MrEx and I decided not to see each other by early June. He’s still in awful state and although he’s been offered meds and recommended not to work, he’s dealing with stuff as good as he can. We send each other the odd WhatsApp but it’s clearly done with from my side.
I started looking a bit a month ago but being very selective and talking only with 2 or 3 people. I have met someone I really like. We have been dating every single day this week and it’s just really easy communication and very fluid. I don’t remember when was the last time this happened. It’s lovely and he’s into health and gym just like me which is a massive plus and he does not drink alcohol either. He’s 6’3 and quite handsome. We are taking it slowly and have not DTD yet but he’s told his son about me 😊 and it just feels right.
It is early days and I want to be cautious. We’ll call him MrAthletic.
I can’t even believe this is happening but I feel strangely peaceful. Not maniac like with Mr Ex… we are trying to spend as much time together as we can but we still have holidays here and there with kids and family commitments
Lovely to see Howlongy, Slothy and Worsy around. I’m reading everything!!!

ps I’m dying to DTD… 😈 and he is too but we are trying to create first the intimacy and talk all the time about who we are and what we want which is marvellous. He’s ok letting me take the lead and will wait whatever time I need to feel ok with the lot. If nothing else, he’s a gentleman 😍

That sounds like a good start Sam, like you say the meeting for the first time is already done 😊

@SamW98 …absolutely brilliant stuff. Hopefully a date with him beckons!

Hello Vanilla!!! never heard of the rings but it’s a great idea

PinkIdentity

lovely to see you back and bounced back with a new man ! Xxx

Aw @PinkIdentity fantastic to hear from you again, I thought about you a few times. Absolutely delighted to hear things are good with you, sounds exciting, keep us updated x

Well firstly, remember that as a foreigner you are automatically exciting, different etc so I wouldn’t worry about not being perfect in the language.

Mr Argentine sounds like he’s playing it cool for now while you’re away. A lot can happen in a month. Since you’ve only had one date I wouldn’t expect either of you to cling onto that, I would be expecting that you’re both talking to and meeting other people. So I guess he wants to keep something there for when you’re back, but very wisely doesn’t want to commit. And I personally think he’s correct to keep it light until you’re back and can see each other again.

Firstly, I’m curious, does the journey time rise to 50 minutes in a light rush hour? 😁

And that sounds such a good way to meet. You’ve done in person, so you’ve seen each others physique and from all angles etc, you know he’s shown some interest, you’ve heard each others voices (really important imho) and…..now you’ve seen his profile stuff! It’s the ideal way to meet really.

@PinkIdentity that sounds so lovely, especially the feeling peaceful part. Nice stuff.

Ha ha typo supposed to say 40 minutes

He’s messaged me with his number so gonna send him a WhatsApp in a bit.

It’s like cutting out the first date lol. We’ve already had a chat seen each other in the wild so to speak and know there was an attraction so it’s much less awkward.

Welcome back @PinkIdentity sorry to hear mr ex is still struggling but glad you're doing ok, optimistic and have something making you happy.

Welcome to the thread @CarolineKnappSchappeyShipwright

Ooooh exciting @SamW98 - one found in the wild 😄

I have a date Friday night. Not sure what to expect as haven't chatted much as only matched a couple of nights ago bur I am intrigued. Hes a little older than me but very attractive to me so 🤞😄

@Slothmomma not chatting much before a date is better I think - otherwise you can create a false sense of intimacy only to find there’s nothing there in the flesh.

@GoingToBeLessRubbishAtLife yeah I agree - 2 of ny favourite irons were quick meets without much chat before and we had fab dates so here's hoping 😀

Welcome back @PinkIdentity , and how lovely to hear that you've met someone who makes you happy, although obviously it's sad about Mr Ex.
P.S I've name changed but been on here a while, if I mention Ozzies on bikes you may know who I am! 😂

So nice to hear from you. What’s going on on Justlass world?😘😘

thank you lovely Worsy, by the way, chap I got talking to told me he dated a Russian lady who wanted full commitment or nothing …I think I read of another poster here describing something similar!
How are things with you Worsy? Have you met B these last months or have you gone into another arrangements?

Thank you Slothy. What’s up in your world?

GTBLR…I don’t know who you are but I’m sure we chatted in your former name. Thanks for the welcome back and welcome back yourself

Thanks LuckyLy! How are things with you? I’d like to know how things are for you too 😘

Im taking things slowly. We had a marvellous afternoon with walk and dinner at mine, bit of telly and massive rummage petting session… we haven’t DTD …yet…but I’m not really seeing him for a while as he goes away on holidays and I’m away when he’s back…let’s see how we communicate in this period of suddenly not seeing each other. He’s a really decent chap and I fancy him silly 🙃