Adultwork account found

[Lilliebelle]

I found a adultwork account on my husbands phone I came across it through his saved passwords when I logged in I found messages dated back last year! There where two one wasn’t replied to the other was and they were discussing booking a 30 min slot asked if she did early times she’s replied what day is best for you and then that was it nothing else was exchanged! I’ve confronted him about what I found and he’s just denying that it’s him he’s never seen the account or knows anything about it! ‘It’s not me’
i want to believe him but I think I’d be stupid if I did the user name and password that was saved to his phone wasn’t actually correct when I tried to log in it said wrong details so I put his email address in and it sent a email with a user name and password reminder over and that is how I got access to the account, so his email address his registered only other details on the account is his DOB which is correct the password is not something he would usually use but it has a number in it that I use for passwords that he is aware of I just feel devastated and what’s making it worse is that he’s denying it all and it’s making me second guess myself he gave me his email password because he’s saying he’s been hacked so I wanted to see if there is any other emails from them like the account set up date etc but I can’t find anything on there other than the 2 messages there is nothing in there but they are dated back a year ago I looked at one of the ladies he messaged and searched her on the internet and she’s lives locally to us 😢i came across a different site where men have left reviews! I’ve begged him to just admit it he won’t I just won’t someone that doesn’t know me to tell me if this could be a hack or if he’s just lying to me and I’m falling for it !!! 😢

Of course he’s lying to you. He’s booking prostitutes and not even bright enough to use a different phone.

So sorry, he is definitely lying to you.

Get copies of what you have seen, take them to a solicitor and make plans to send him some divorce papers and then leave him.

Oh, and please get STD tested.

I'm sorry that you are in this situation x

Of course he's lying op, and I think you know that. Don't let him gaslight you into thinking otherwise - you have black and white proof !

I love the way 'I've been hacked' apparently means incredibly complex behaviour when people get caught. Someone has:

• used his email to make an account in his name
• used a password linked to him but not an existing password
• used it to contact prostitutes
• then gained access to his phone and saved the details on there

Riiiight.

It’s not a hack. What a coincidence that the hacker contacted a sex worker so close to where you live… and that’s it. And for what purpose?
sorry OP. You know he’s lying 🙁

He is lying.
You need to have an STD check ASAP.

Why did you go looking in the first place? Did you have suspicions? If so, remember that when he is lying to your face as he is now

These men often say their phone has been hacked.

He’s lying through his teeth.

I already knew I just don’t want it to be true I don’t know how these things work how will I ever know if he’s actually gone through with this?? the conversation ended no exchange of number no address from what I can see he hasn’t paid anything to the website In purchases but has its so long ago all recent activity was blank !!! Im not sure I’ve just had a feeling wouldn’t have ever imagined it would be this !! I can’t see any other site that he may of been using but he doesn’t save all his passwords there was only a few he Just obviously missed that one 😢

Oh I'm so sorry OP. In your shoes it wouldn't matter if he had never gone through with it, the intention was there. Maybe he got cold feet this time. Next time he probably won't. I second what other(s) have said. Evidence to solicitors and divorce papers. You can't live your life worrying your husband is shagging prostitutes.

He will have paid cash. Could even have got that via cashback at the supermarket.
He probably phoned to confirm times and days.

Sorry op, I'd find it hard to believe that he just emailed then left it

Sorry lovely. Yeah he's a big liar. Why would he be hacked, all details tie up.

I’ve told him I don’t believe him at all and that I would need proof that it wasn’t him if he’s been ‘hacked’ which I obviously can’t get he’s happily given me his phone to look through card details phone records etc but I don’t even know what I’m looking for anyway I just don’t know what to think of it all I feel like I’m going crazy 😭

Op, stop engaging with him about this hacking nonsense. It's utterly absurd and he's just trying to gaslight you. He was not hacked, it didn't fucking happen.

You husband is a cheat. Get rid.

Even if he didn't go through with actually seeing a prostitute, he definitely created an account. He didn't need an account to just look at pictures so he created an account to communicate with a prostitute. He's lying about it not being him. He's pathetic.

He's a low down, dirty, lying bugger.

Just as you would wipe shit off your shoe, you need to wipe him out of your life.

OP, I'm so sorry. But he hasn't been hacked.

Hackers do not set up adultwork accounts on peoples phones and save the passwords. Or send messages on it. The fact its on his phone means its been accessed on his phone. Its not an account thats been setup on some random persons pc using his details. And even if that had been the case he'd of been made aware of it!
He is outright lying to you. I mean he can't even think of an excuse, just a generic 'it wasn't me'.

He had every intention of cheating on you by visiting and setting an account up. And i'm sorry to say he very likely did. Its hardly the sort of site you stubble across accidently on your phone. He searched it out, registered, and messaged women on there. I imagine he has deleted as much evidence as he could, but he forgot the password was saved on HIS phone.

This is very likely the tip of the iceburg. Look up the script OP. He is starting it with the deny deny deny. Once he can't deny anymore - if you manage to find another shred of something he may switch to he was depressed, he was unhappy, it was a mistake, he didn't go through with it......

And if he is lying about actually registering via his own bloody phone, he'll have no issues lying about everything else.

You must be devestated, but if I were you, I'd start preparing yourself for what is inevitably going to come next.

He's probably deleted everything as best as he can but unfortunately this one exchange was never deleted for whatever reason. He'd have called her rather than messaged to make the arrangements.
He could have been arranging visits with WGs last week, last month, but covered his tracks.

What made you suspicious?

It's possibly he left some evidence either deliberately or subconsciously so that you would raise conflict and make it easier to split up.

To speak to most of the sex workers on the site you don’t need an account. He likely wanted to book someone who only allows bookings through the site or wanted to view cams/ galleries.

Get an STD test, while the great majority of sw on the site use protection and get tested regularly there are some who don’t.

I had a similar experience with my DP, and he tried the same line. However i did not fall off a christmas tree and told him just that,

From the history you have described its possible that he just looked but not necessarily purchased
(my DP was just browsing, there was no accounts linked to his email and the adds were just in his search history, He denied it for 24 hours until i calmly explained he had typed in Escorts local to us in the search bar and to stop with his bull shit)

I almost left him over it, but decided to give him another chance as :

1. it was just the once, I checked his whole google search history
2. in the end he told me the truth, it was after a night of drinking when I was out of town, curiosity got the better of him.
3. He gave me his bank statements for the week in the run up to the date and there was NO large purchases (so no cash back options) and no cash withdrawals.
4. I checked his call and text log for any unidentified numbers.

It has however left me anxious that he might do it again in the future and actually go through with it this time which is really playing on my mind.

Trust me, they are NEVER hacked and its NEVER a pop up!

I have to trust that he respects me enough to know that this is something I will not tolerate again, and that he loves me enough to not go down this path, even if it is just looking

On a side note, if he had searched my history he would have also found adult work on there due to me googling what it was a couple of years ago based on a similar thread to this and curiosity got the better of me too and I looked at several local adds to see if i recognised any of them.

I'm not defending his actions, but is is possible he was just looking......

Lol yeah someone hacked his phone to book a prostitute xD just happened to use his dare if birth too to create the account. Pffft. Give over.

If the considered booking didn't swing it, his dishonesty and gaslighting would have me calling it a day.

‘Just looking’…

yeah I look up local gigolos all the time. Totally normal behaviour!

the bar for men is so low.

It's the gas lighting and making you feel like your crazy that would tip me over the edge too.