Adultwork account found

[Lilliebelle]

I found a adultwork account on my husbands phone I came across it through his saved passwords when I logged in I found messages dated back last year! There where two one wasn’t replied to the other was and they were discussing booking a 30 min slot asked if she did early times she’s replied what day is best for you and then that was it nothing else was exchanged! I’ve confronted him about what I found and he’s just denying that it’s him he’s never seen the account or knows anything about it! ‘It’s not me’
i want to believe him but I think I’d be stupid if I did the user name and password that was saved to his phone wasn’t actually correct when I tried to log in it said wrong details so I put his email address in and it sent a email with a user name and password reminder over and that is how I got access to the account, so his email address his registered only other details on the account is his DOB which is correct the password is not something he would usually use but it has a number in it that I use for passwords that he is aware of I just feel devastated and what’s making it worse is that he’s denying it all and it’s making me second guess myself he gave me his email password because he’s saying he’s been hacked so I wanted to see if there is any other emails from them like the account set up date etc but I can’t find anything on there other than the 2 messages there is nothing in there but they are dated back a year ago I looked at one of the ladies he messaged and searched her on the internet and she’s lives locally to us 😢i came across a different site where men have left reviews! I’ve begged him to just admit it he won’t I just won’t someone that doesn’t know me to tell me if this could be a hack or if he’s just lying to me and I’m falling for it !!! 😢

If you do stay with him and have sexual contact with him again, bear in mind that if he uses trans prostitutes, it's even riskier std- wise.

I read the reviews out of curiosity on the trans section of UK punting ....

First off the punters will often do oral sex on the trans prostitute. From both trans and non trans prostitute reviews, it's clear that the majority of oral sex is OWO (oral without - condom). Doing oral sex on a penis is a bit Risker for STDs than doing oral sex on a vulva etc. (Which some punters do actually do on prostitutes). So he's more likely to get something orally if he had sexual contact with trans prostitutes.

Secondly the trans reviews mentioned several times that they have sex (are penetrated) as well as penetrating the prostitutes. This may be with a condom or not. The reason the trans prostitutes were having anal sex without condoms was that they are mostly taking ",Prep" for hiv prevention. Of course this does not prevent other STDs from unprotected anal sex - both giving and receiving.

In one case the reviewer was shocked and perturbed that the trans prostitute starting having anal sex with him (penetrating him) with no condom. I can't remember if he stopped it or not.

Just keep this in mind about men who use trans prostitutes as well as female ones.
Oh and theyve always looked nit never a tally done it. Except numerous posters on here, when they had the opportunity, found out they hadn't just looked.

The cheaters mantra is 'only admit to what you've been definitively caught doing .... And even then lie and gaslight if you can".

*theyve always looked but never actually done it.

I do think him denying it is because he doesn’t want people to know what he’s done ( I don’t particularly want people to know myself) ! he knows I have screen shots of the emails he’s sent so I have the proof I took screen shots of everything!!! I told him I’d post it on my Facebook so people can give me their opinion on the matter has he’s been hacked he has nothing to hide it didn’t go down to well telling me it will push him over the edge obviously I wouldn’t do that I’m just trying to get him to admit to what he’s done but he won’t! He’s given me everything I’ve asked for regarding passwords bank statements like he has nothing to hide so yeah he’s doing a good job of making me second guess myself I’ll give him that !! I just don’t want this to be true and I don’t know what else I can do it’s making me overthink everything from the last year it’s making me sound crazy 😭 our relationship isn’t perfect but looking back at the dates that them messages where sent we were absolutely fine!! we do argue alot so I was thinking he done it after a argument but it wasn’t I was in work on a night shift which is another coincidence I bet 😭

The login history was blank I went through the whole site before I confronted him about it the only thing that is on there are the emails to two people one didn’t reply they date back to last July

I told him I’d post it on my Facebook so people can give me their opinion on the matter has he’s been hacked he has nothing to hide it didn’t go down to well telling me it will push him over the edge obviously

Lol, you're a shrewd, take no shit lady.

It would push him over the edge - because he knows it looks nothing like he's been hacked, and people wouldn't believe he's been hacked .... Correctly.

Oh and that is a suicide threat, isn't it. How original.

We'll have cheater/punter bingo by the end of the day;

Poor mental health
Depression
Addiction
Suicidal
Some BS that twists it around and blames the spouse/partner
Terrible childhood
Keep it quiet or I'll lose my job, the kids shouldn't know etc etc

Isn't it strange how few punters and cheaters are suicidal while they're shagging around (or trying to).behind their partner's back. Only when they're caught and there might be consequences.

I’m just trying to get him to admit to what he’s done but he won’t!

There are women who have never ever got an admission from their cheating partner and are years or decades down the line, in new relationships etc.

Some had to find evidence, sometimes years later, to confirm it. One was so convincing that she truly didnt realise the ow (his now wife) was the ow until she found something years later.

Some people won't ever admit it. That's just the way they are.

He's not worried about you being pushed over the edge finding out he uses chicks with dicks and pays for sex is he.

I mean that's quite upsetting to find out isnt it?

but looking back at the dates that them messages where sent we were absolutely fine!! we do argue alot so I was thinking he done it after a argument but it wasn’t I was in work on a night shift which is another coincidence I bet 😭

A normal person doesn't look up and message prostitutes when they're arguing in their marriage/relationship.
Don't even go there.

Yeah there's a thread started by a lady who's clearly been cheated on by her h with sex workers...she outlined the affect on her mental health and happiness (to the point of suicidal thoughts)

But these guys don't gaf about anyone but themselves, before or after ..... The words vary but the song is always "it's all about me".

He told me he was depressed last night didn’t know how to tell me before 😭

Even the thought of my supposedly heterosexual partner looking up trans prostitutes would give me a permanent ick turn off.

That he's turned on by and interested in men dresses up as women with chest implants and an intact dick and balls. Ive seen porn with trans "women" and their male genitals are flapping all over the place, during intercourse; very prominent & conspicuous. These men could not be heterosexual.

The punters that use them refer to them as "girls" and laughably talk about "she did a,b and c" e.g. "she" put a condom on, "she" got me to go down on her (penis)". It's surreal.

That level of delusional, biological sex denying, fetishy shit .... That type of sexuality; is not for me, in any way, shapr or form. I get into relationships with heterosexual men; not men who fancy, fantasise about and fuck other men (presented as women) with an intact dick and balls but who call themselves heterosexual.

🤑

How coincidental that he didn't feel the need to tell you or know how to tell you before he was caught at this shit.

How coincidental that it's also a top answer in cheater/punters bingo.

Funny how depression causes all sorts of behaviour in people, but looking up and messaging tranny prostitutes is not among those behaviours listed in any info on it.

I dunno about you but when I'm depressed I couldn't be less interested in sex.

Loss of sex drive is one of the defining feature of depression.

It'll be "sex addiction" next.

Then it'll be that he feels "ignored" by and unimportant to you.

Because random prossies pine who exchange minimal, functional messages to meet up and then meet up (with you one of a constant turnover of punters) and fuck and hide their total indifference to this stranger and lack of enthusiasm for the sex acts to a greater or lesser degree .... That's an excellent substitute for feeling "neglected" by your life partner.

Prostitutes don't supply emotional needs, they supply sexual ones (not that they're "needs", they're wants).

Well if he's depressed he needs to see the dr doesn't he? he can get an STI check arranged too.

Makes me so cross because patients you see with depression are unable to cope with life and so unhappy. They don't have the ability to think oh I'm depressed i'll have a gander on adult work and see what's about locally to me.

He's literally thrown a wrecking ball into your life together & is now fabricating mental illness as an excuse.

No one sets someone up for an adult site and if they were using a fake email and it just so happened to be your husbands all the other details would not be correct. Let's not let him act dumb

If he's messaging tranny prostitutes; no woman is going to be able to meet his inclinations/fetishes.

And if it was only female prostitutes, it's still the case that no one woman would be able to meet his inclinations & desires.

This is what I don’t understand he has very little sex drive these are the causes of our arguments amoungst other things because it makes me feel like it’s me there is something wrong with me because it changed.. I do think he has low testosterone but he will not get it checked out with a dr this has been going on longer than a year he’s constantly tired and every time I bring it up how It makes me feel he says ‘I’m just making a argument’ ‘we are not as young as we use to be’ ‘there is nothing wrong we are fine ‘ I try to understand but it makes me feel like shit especially when he knows it could be something he can see a Gp for ! I’ve told him to leave me if I’m the problem he says I’m not but I’m second guessing that aswell now 😭

So your sex life is dissatisfactory for you .... Another reason to separate, without even getting in to his messaging (if that's all it really is) of prostitutes.

He sounds like he can't be arsed shagging his long term partner any more, but is interested in shagging different prostituted women and transvestite/trans sexual "women".

That's not a partner any normal heterosexual woman is going to be able to be happy and have a good relationship with.

Do you have kids op, are they grown up?

Seriously, it sounds like you need to cut your losses and exit this relationship.

Hrs going to gas light and manipulate and head fuck you indefinitely. The bottom line is that he's not interested in/motivated by having sex with his long-term partner any more (presuming he was at some point) and he's looking elsewhere for sexual titillation and satisfaction. The fact that it's prostitutes, and the fact that it's tranny prostitutes..... As I said, no one real woman is going to suit him.

Hrs just going to use you or the next woman as a front.

@Azerothi "The op doesn't sound quite as naive as you do. Your boyfriend has done an excellent job of pulling the wool over your eyes"

I'm not sure what you mean by this; the history showed every single add he had looked at on ONE night, not a single log in page, not a single message sent. And NO phone-calls/texts, that coupled with it being 3am in the morning and no cash withdrawals and no purchases on his banking makes me inclined to believe he was "just looking"

I stated i'm not defending his behaviour, I ALMOST left him over it and it took months of talking for us to get through it.

I felt, like the OP obviously does, that the intention was there and that alone repulsed me, but he gave me full disclosure and we have worked through it, a drunken mistake that has left me untrusting of him. I am not naive at all

OP, as devastating as it is, please heed the advice on this thread.

If you can stomach it, the UK Punting website is quite an eye-opener as to what men are up to these days, many of whom are married/ in relationships.

Going by what I've read on there in the past, they go to great lengths to hide their 'extra curricular activities'.

You're husband may well have since got himself a burner phone which is hidden, now he knows you're onto him. Cash payments, bank account you don't know about... Who knows.

We don't live forever. Do you want to love like this?

*your
*live

Apologies for the typo's

Very like the way they come out with 'I didn't mean it, it was a mistake' AFTERWARDS. Well yeah, it was a mistake before you did whatever it was, why didn't that occur to you?