Adultwork account found

[Lilliebelle]

I found a adultwork account on my husbands phone I came across it through his saved passwords when I logged in I found messages dated back last year! There where two one wasn’t replied to the other was and they were discussing booking a 30 min slot asked if she did early times she’s replied what day is best for you and then that was it nothing else was exchanged! I’ve confronted him about what I found and he’s just denying that it’s him he’s never seen the account or knows anything about it! ‘It’s not me’
i want to believe him but I think I’d be stupid if I did the user name and password that was saved to his phone wasn’t actually correct when I tried to log in it said wrong details so I put his email address in and it sent a email with a user name and password reminder over and that is how I got access to the account, so his email address his registered only other details on the account is his DOB which is correct the password is not something he would usually use but it has a number in it that I use for passwords that he is aware of I just feel devastated and what’s making it worse is that he’s denying it all and it’s making me second guess myself he gave me his email password because he’s saying he’s been hacked so I wanted to see if there is any other emails from them like the account set up date etc but I can’t find anything on there other than the 2 messages there is nothing in there but they are dated back a year ago I looked at one of the ladies he messaged and searched her on the internet and she’s lives locally to us 😢i came across a different site where men have left reviews! I’ve begged him to just admit it he won’t I just won’t someone that doesn’t know me to tell me if this could be a hack or if he’s just lying to me and I’m falling for it !!! 😢

Why does it matter if he went through with it? The fact that he was trying and has lied to your face is reason enough to get rid of him.
Btw, yes, he went through with it. Count on it.
For goodness sake, run like your hair is on fire.

@XChrome this is a Zombie thread. Hopefully the OP ran 11 months ago.

Thanks Emma. I should have looked at the date of the OP.

I'm forever being caught out by zombie threads!

Hiya i read ur all full message so sorry to here this, yes 100% he is chatting pure ball shit to u my darling. If u could find out the name of the woman./ woman's I may be able to help you. Investigate. Take care x

thank you for all that have replied sorry I haven’t replied myself if I’m honest I’ve just tried to ignore it .. for all that are wondering I did take him back and tbh I do regret it trauma bond is a horrible thing and having a life with someone it’s hard to walk away I do hope that someday I have the power to leave I’m hoping that someday I’ll wake him and hate him so much that I can just walk out and never look back !!! I found another email address he used for websites like adult work and more he’s used a different user name I suppose he didn’t want to use his everyday email address as he knew what he was doing was wrong, I didn’t find any evidence that he actually met or paid for anything I found a review that stated he requested a meeting but didn’t check she was available first, no cards where attached to the accounts or any payments from his bank. He gave me access to these after I asked for proof !! Blamed depression for his actions and boredom as we worked around each other at the time !! Sometimes I wonder whether it’s a porn addiction as I know he has watched that in the past !!! But he did say it was just curiosity but I suppose I will never know the real reason maybe I’m just not good enough !! Not that our relationship is amazing I’ve tried to leave many times but I find myself always coming back!

Look I would forgive him.

OP.
I'm going to be extremely honest and open.
I'm late picking up this post but I hope you have taken on board everything that everyone else has given you advice with.
As much as i absolutely don't want to be aware of a marriage collapse i need to assure you that Adultwork is a fully licensed and registered escorts site, i absolutely know this because my partner was and is a part of this lifestyle, we make very decent extra money from this and take every available precaution for safety in public situations she presents herself in. Please don't judge us, i manage and monitor every booking and she has the final decision before we make the next step but the point is, the site is secure monitored by regulators and moderators and is 100% safe, in short ot means it cannot be bypassed and hacked. An account needs to be age verified and this requires credit/debit card details so if your husband has a live account it means he has created it and made a booking enquiry, a booking enquiry requires payment, you can't just send a message, credits need to be purchased to contact the agents with actual money.. Again with the credit/debit card used to sign up initially so there's no danger of a different card being used and sharing an account so if absolutely nothing else, your husband had at least once made an actual enquiry about a booking. Off site though it's not uncommon to exchange phone numbers with agents for easier contact and repeat bookings and finalising meets so this is entirely possible and removes any further requirements for the site.
I won't go into details of how much agents charge but i imagine you'd have noticed very obvious extra finances leaving your bank if he had arranged and gone ahead with a meet since these are conducted as cash only, no online service for face to face is available but pics and videos can be bought by way of credits that are again purchased with actual money using the aforementioned credit/debit card.
My absolute sympathy to you and i hope you managed to resolve this traumatic issue in some way.

thank you for the reply but I can say I made a account myself when I found his to see how it works and I was not asked to verify my age or add any bank details ??? I know that he did exchange numbers on the site and receive phone calls there is no bank evidence that he make any payments to the site or any cash withdrawals at the time off !! No credits in the account or even a bank card attached to the account

Don't know what @Genesis01 the pimp is trying to pull that lot of bullshit for, but I can assure you it's bullshit. AW don't require any payment in order to contact sex workers because that would make them pimps (like Genesis01 is) or in legal terms "Controlling prostitution". They don't make it mandatory to age verify either, you can have an account without verifying as long as you don't buy credits (which are used to buy movies, galleries and webcam sessions.)

Anyway that's irrelevant to your situation OP. You are where you are, with a man who contacts sex workers AND, insultingly, thinks you're thick enough to accept his bullshit of "But I was HACKED!!"

You mention you've tried to leave before but have been drawn back - why do you think that is? What has stopped you making the break for good?

Obviously he’s lying to you , ask him why he needs a prostitute and what’s missing in his sex life you never know it might work out good for both of you

hi
my 70year old husband likes 'escorts' younger than ur daughter by 16 years.
he is a repulsive sack of shit, using women as urinals for his stinky rancid bodily waste.

Well that escalated!

ask him why he needs a prostitute and what’s missing in his sex life

It's other women.

Other women's bodies.

You can't fix that in a sex life.

There's nothing missing in their sex life for most men who use prostitutes.

They just want to fuck other women.

They often want to fuck younger women than their partner & than they can get in real life.

They often want to fuck "better looking" women than their partner & than they can get in real life.

Nothing missing that any woman/wife can provide.

They just want to fuck women who are not their wife/partner ..... and feel entitled to, behind her back/in a compartmentalized "parallel universe" they think they are entitled to.

Hope this helps you get past your naivety and ignorance.

Im only surmising from the dates and the problems I've had, that the escort he may have contacted at that time could have been ME. I received a message from a guy wanting to book a 30 minutes slot but was worried because he had family living near me. He also said he has never done this before. I immediately refused the booking telling him I dont see guys in my location. Most travel at least 20 minutes by car to visit me. He said ok and that was that.
Since then I've had an aweful experience with a local woman who has made my life hell calling me all sorts of dirt on the street. I'm a nice person and a good neighbour and very discreet with only 4 visits maximum per day.
I ended up with very bad mental health problems because she hounded me and tried to get me evicted. It was aweful.
So for the woman who made my life a misery, i have made this message to give you some peace of mind. Even though you've made my life an absolute misery telling all the neighbours who now shout whore at me. Your husband hasn't been with any escorts. Maybe you should both talk honestly with each other and find out what's going on in the marriage for him to look for sex elsewhere? Maybe it's something you can both work on? Most guys tell me it's because there's a breakdown in communication or she's gone through the change and doesn't want sex anymore. I dont hold grudges. You made me very ill and I'm now seeking a mental health team to help me. Maybe you lashing out at a atranger was easier than facing the problem within your marriage?

It’s amazing how many men have had their phones hacked at EXACTLY the moment their partners find evidence of sec worker contact on it… 🤔

How would you think it was yourself ?? You don’t even know my location?? Your problems are not connected to me I’m afraid !!

if the ‘hacked’ doesn’t work its then the ‘depression’

@Paranthus what an utterly bizarre post. How on earth did you reach that conclusion?!

@Lilliebelle how are things now? Did you get any closer to the truth?

'because my partner was and is a part of this lifestyle, we make very decent extra money from this and take every available precaution for safety in public situations she presents herself in. Please don't judge us, i manage and monitor every booking and she has the final decision before we make the next step'

But we will judge you as you 'manage her bookings'.

Just get a better job and stop pimping out your poor dp 🤮

'Most guys tell me it's because there's a breakdown in communication or she's gone through the change and doesn't want sex anymore'

Yes their wife doesn't understand them of course 🤣

nope all the accounts/profiles I found but nothing to prove that anything went through no messages that went further no card payments no withdrawals etc

I'm sorry to hear that. You must feel in limbo.