Thankyou I'm gonna change my locks and tell him it's over unless he can sort his life out and even then I'm not sure I would want it. I just want a happy stress free life.
@brendasays
I hope you're feeling even a little bit less panicked after all the good advice you've received, even though I'm sure you're still shocked. I also hope you've secured your home so he can't get in - that you've not gone to work until that's done. If you have an internal chain on your front door ensure you use it every time you open the door. Do you have a Ring security doorbell? Maybe you can consider installing one. Check with your landlord if you can install one (or check your lease) and also advise them he's no longer living at your address, in case he approaches them.
Do not rely on him returning your original keys - it's so easy to copy most keys.
If you can also put his stuff outside in boxes or bin liners - it doesn't sound as though he had much. Message him, as others have said, to come and pick them up ASAP and that it's his responsibility to do so. You will not deliver them anywhere. Give him an end date for collection.
Ensure you screenshot any message he sends you in case you need an audit trail to show the bailiffs, etc.
Absolutely you should consider this relationship over, whatever he says, including him trying to get back in by saying he'll sort his life out. This man has brought serious trouble to your door and I cannot see how you could ever trust him again. Without trust and respect in a relationship you have nothing worth saving.
I'm sure you will be fine - talk to friends in real life as well as here for support.
There are times when loving someone is not enough - this is one of them. But your main focus is absolutely 100% protecting yourself and your future, which does not include him.
I'm sure that another time you won't let someone railroad you in doing something you're not happy about - including moving into your private space. Good luck and strength to you OP. 🌹