Now that I lost weight , he wants me to gain it back

[Lebruitetlodeur]

I want to say , that firstly English isn't my first language.

I have been using the weight loss of mumsnet category a lot help me, I lost the weight and now that I did he is mad because of it. I asked multiple times "why" he just says "I miss your curves".

When my partner of 7 years, I was already overweight, so I didn't change or anything. Then last July, a year ago nearly, I put gave birth. Lost the baby weight but was still overweight.

He then started saying things about my weight, how he wanted a skinniet wife who wears bodycons and "looks good in them". Because I had a couple. He gave me an ultimatum "You lose the weight or your baby will be fatherless". It's painful for me because I am fatherless. So I did everything I could, and lost the weight. Wore his stupid clothes he wanted so bad, hear shit like " I am so proud to have a hot wife".

Then 2 weeks ago, he said I have to put on the weight again, because he doesn't find me as attractive with all the loose skin, my smaller breasts. That when he asked me to get skinnier he envisaged something else. A wife that can wear bikinis on the beach but that I'd look ridiculous with all the loose skin. Either I put on weight, either he leaves me and his daughter.

Any advice??

@Lebruitetlodeur - do you want your child to grow up thinking it is OK for a partner to treat them they way this excuse for a man treats you? What is worse for your child - to have a father they only see part of the time, or to learn that it is ‘normal’ to allow your life partner to bully you by giving you the silent treatment into dropping whatever it is you are disagreeing about?

And is someone who would threaten your child’s well-being (by threatening to leave his child fatherless) as a way to shut you up really a good father?

Yegads, you're right! (I think!) it showed up in my "Last hour" thread and I never checked the dates (that'll teach me).

I thought MN closed threads that hadn't been posted on for a few months to prevent cloth eyed posters like me from reviving them?

No they never close threads!