Found a mobile in DH's desk draw

[worried2jsb]

I was tidying up DH's home office when I found a mysterious mobile in the draw, I feel devastated. I managed to turn it on but it's got a passcode.

After all the times I've read about this on mumsnet I never thought it would happen to me but when I think about it he has been distant lately, seems distracted and he has been working late popping off to meeting later in the day etc.

DH doesnt know I've found it and he is out at the moment, does anyone have any words of advice or how to go about bringing it up?

Sorry that's really horrible. You need to stand your ground and not let him lie to you.

If it were me I'd be demanding the phone goes on loudspeaker and you call the number together.

And its his office drawer. I would only look in my husbands drawer if I specifically wanted something and I would ask him first.

Thinking of you op...
I found a phone under our bed a while ago. That sick feeling is unbearable..
Daft me didn't see straight away it was actually my own old phone! Felt a right tit! Luckily hadn't asked dh about it!

I once found 2 Valentine's Day cards (unwritten, unsealed) in our spares office.

I was ready to rumble.

Didn't mention it, Valentine's Day was only a day or two away so I thought I'd see how it panned out.

I received both of the cards. One was romantic, the other funny.

Sometimes it's nothing

Genuinely? [Hmm]

@worried2jsb I have just tried that Siri thing on my I phone and it said it didn’t know who it belongs to. So didn’t work on mine. Have you text him and told him you found the phone or just to find out what time he will be home?

Only if Siri is enabled on the iphone. She's turned off on mine.

Well bully for you.
In my house, if you've got a secret phone and are having an affair, it's tough shit on you if you get found out.

Iirc 'looking in a drawer' is not mentioned in the traditional marriage vows.

If he's in regular contact with someone else, would he not have taken the phone out with him?

I wouldn't confront him today, buy yourself time to figure things out. It's a big deal to accuse your DH of cheating, just because you've found a phone you didn't know about. I know you'll hardly sleep from worry, but wait and see if he's out tomorrow evening as per the message that came through?

I really hope there's an innocent explanation 🙁

And I'm also saying to buy yourself some time, so that he doesn't have time to deny it and then delete all evidence if it is the case that he's having an affair.

Agree. People always want to know ‘why were you looking?’ But I’d the person is cheating then tough fucking tits.

something is up here so who cares how the OP found out, just thank god she did.

Good luck @worried2jsb, everyone is here if you need support.

You can download WhatsApp onto a MacBook/iMac/iPad - that will be easier than taking the SIM card from the suspicious phone in and out of your present phone.

Just send a WhatsApp to the suspicious phone SIM card (presently installed on your phone) from whatever other computer device you use?

My first thought would be that if it was an affair phone, he'd be taking it out and about with him so he had more chance of using it undisturbed.

I’d pretend to be ill today and then follow him tomorrow and see who he’s meeting.

Good luck OP.

@Daffodil63

If he goes out tomorrow at 5.30 then you need to follow or get a friend to follow.

Asking a friend to follow him will put that friend in a very bad position

I'd ask him whose the phone was and to unlock it in front of me I think. I suspect his reaction will be quite telling.

Doesn't matter if he's having an affair she doesn't trust him...
If he is she should ditch him, she deserves better
If he isn't he should ditch her, he deserves better.

I don’t think you have anything to worry about and have probably jumped to the wrong conclusion.

Hopefully all is ok OP

Hide the phone (and the SIM card) and see what the reaction is.... 😁

It's nearly 4pm

Hope all is ok.

thanks again for the supportive messages

i wish i could but i cant hold out and ill speak to him ill casually ask him

wish me luck