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disgusting joke getting me down

110 replies

andysbelly · 18/02/2008 13:35

My partner has this habbit of sticking his fingers down his jeans and then making me sniff them. When he first did it I just told him nicely that I didn't like it and didnt find it funny but since then he does it even worse. Its not as bad if its just the front but sometimes he sticks his fingers in his bum and then holds them over my face and it makes me sick almost. Yesterday it ended in a huge row because he stuck his shitty fingers in my mouth (or tried to but he ended up hurting my mouth trying to prise it open) and I kicked him in the groin (actually meant to kick him in the leg) and he started going off about how petty I was being and if I kicked him again he'd kick me back etc.

I'm not a clean freak but it really does make me feel sick and now I feel a bit down because its like he doesn't care what I think, that he can do whatever he wants to me.

Does anyone elses DH do this? he says his mates do it to their girlfriends and none of them kick off like me.

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MrsMattie · 18/02/2008 13:36

Is this a joke? How old is he?

OrmIrian · 18/02/2008 13:36

God no! That is vile. You were quite right to kick him where it hurts

MamaG · 18/02/2008 13:36

ugh that is absolutely disgusting

belgo · 18/02/2008 13:37

yuck

Karen999 · 18/02/2008 13:37

Are you kidding? If DP did this I would chop his fingers off!!

If he's not getting the hint, leave a used sanitary towel under his pillow....

fryalot · 18/02/2008 13:37

He tried to prise your mouth open so he could stick his shitty fingers in it?

He's a disgusting, immature twat and I'm surprised you haven't kicked him in the nuts a few more times

Disenchanted · 18/02/2008 13:37

Im sorry but WHAT THE FUCK??!

He tried to stick his shitty fingers in your mouth??

OMG he would've got alot more than a foot to the balls if my DH did that to me,

and he would get his marching orders!!

stirlingmum · 18/02/2008 13:37

I am sorry, but this is juvenile behaviour. Is he over 16?
So sorry you have to put up with this.

belgo · 18/02/2008 13:38

and no, my dh, nor any of my previous boyfriends have ever done this.

Carmenere · 18/02/2008 13:38

Does he live with his parents?

WingsofanAngel · 18/02/2008 13:38

Do the same back to him see if he likes it.

No my Dh doesn't do this.

How old is he ?

cornsilk · 18/02/2008 13:38

That's really horrible. He sounds like a bit of an idiot.

WaynettaSlob · 18/02/2008 13:39

he sounds like a total nob, and from your other post on MN it sounds like you aren't really enjoying being with him so I'd kick him into touch if I were you.

yorkshirepudding · 18/02/2008 13:39

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andysbelly · 18/02/2008 13:39

I told him I wouldn't be the only one that found it gross and unfunny. He is 29 but quite immature anyway, he's wiped a bogey on my coat before when we were out for the night and it made me so self concious all night and really spoilt it.

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princessosyth · 18/02/2008 13:39

Sounds awful! Does he treat you like this in any other way?

NotDoingTheHousework · 18/02/2008 13:39

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FairyMum · 18/02/2008 13:40

I would find it great fun. Just one of those things which would make me laugh over and over again.

Surely this is a joke? My 3 year-old would find it disgusting FGS

hecate · 18/02/2008 13:40

Is this a joke?

No. I am quite sure nobody over the age of 12 does this.

And when you object he physically manhandles you and when you try to fight him off he threatens you with violence and makes you the bad guy?

He is a twat. A great big stupid twat.

I suggest you tell him so.

Why on earth you want to be with someone so stupid I don't know. I assume he must be fabulous in many other ways and is only a dickhead in this respect.

I suggest in that case you tell him each time he does it, you will have a sex ban of a month. Let's see how keen he is for you to smell his shit then.

Honestly though, I really cannot believe this is real. No offence to you if it is, it is just such a stupid thing to do that I find it hard to believe a grown man could do it.

TheFallenMadonna · 18/02/2008 13:40

You've posted about him before haven't you?

I'm assuming he has some good points

skyatnight · 18/02/2008 13:40

Tell him you will call the police if he does it again! Does nasty, degrading physical abuse count as GBH?

Saturn74 · 18/02/2008 13:40

What YorkshirePudding said.

hecate · 18/02/2008 13:41

Since he loves poo and mucus so much, might I make a few menu suggestions.........

WaynettaSlob · 18/02/2008 13:41

why are you with him??

moljam · 18/02/2008 13:41

omg!what an idiot.sorry if overreaction but wouldnt want to be near or be associated with someone like that.even my 6 year(and 2 year old for that matter)ds knows that isnt acceptable behaviour.