disgusting joke getting me down

[andysbelly]

My partner has this habbit of sticking his fingers down his jeans and then making me sniff them. When he first did it I just told him nicely that I didn't like it and didnt find it funny but since then he does it even worse. Its not as bad if its just the front but sometimes he sticks his fingers in his bum and then holds them over my face and it makes me sick almost. Yesterday it ended in a huge row because he stuck his shitty fingers in my mouth (or tried to but he ended up hurting my mouth trying to prise it open) and I kicked him in the groin (actually meant to kick him in the leg) and he started going off about how petty I was being and if I kicked him again he'd kick me back etc.

I'm not a clean freak but it really does make me feel sick and now I feel a bit down because its like he doesn't care what I think, that he can do whatever he wants to me.

Does anyone elses DH do this? he says his mates do it to their girlfriends and none of them kick off like me.

Putting his fingers up his bum and then prising your mouth open to make you lick them while you struggle is an assault IMO.

He sounds like a vile shite and I hope you can find the strength to get rid of him, for your son as well as you.

Is this for real??

At the very least he is not respecting you! And that is not something he can 'learn'. At the worst, he is distrubed.

Get Rid Of Him. You do not want this man having any influence over your children

What an upsetting OP.

No one should treat you in such a humilliating, upsetting, unkind way. Please don't let this sorry excuse for a man bully you again.

I hope you find a way to either get rid of him, or make him understand that you are to be treated with respect.

andysbelly - get rid of him for the sake of your son and yourself.

I come from a family where me and my mum are the only women - I have lots and lots of male relatives and many of them I have lived with. I am extremely broad minded with toilet humour etc and will take part in their jokes. BUT I can categorically promise you that none of them would EVER EVER try to force shitty hands into someone's mouth. No women are willingly taking part in this kind of "joke". I will accept that some women would not mind and may take part OCCASIONALLY if the bloke has a bit of sweaty bollck on his hands and invites (NOT FORCES) them to sniff (NOT LICK) it.

Get rid!

AB I fear this is the beginning of a lifetime of abuse for you - it starts with little things like this - get yourself and you DS OUT OF THERE

If his mates do the same thing then they are just as revolting, pathetic, but, sadly, dangerous as he is.

This isn't a "joke", it isn't "a bit of fun", it isn't about you being "uptight" or having "no sense of humour".

What he's doing (and has done in the past) is assault, which, you'd think, would be bad enough, but somehow, when an element of huiliation and debasement is added in makes it all the more frightening IMO .... NOT that I'm saying a "simple" assault is ever acceptable, but when someone behaves in such a contemptuous way as well it really does prove once and for all that they literally hate you.

For God's sake, get rid of the c**t ...... I can assure you, as can everyone else who's posted, that this is not normal behaviour in any accepted shape or form (it is not the same as sniggering about a fart for example as quite a few men do) and that the vast majority of normal, ordinary men would be horrified by this.

If you are still in any doubt at all about whether or not you should be with a man like this, then his disgusting power trips have already started to work upon your self esteem because no-one should have to put up with this.

humiliation

This is his idea of a joke? It sounds ssexual to me - does he get off on your smelling parts of him?
I don;t think for a minute any of his friends do this to their girls, it's vile and frankly creepy.

thats horrible and he is using force and that is not right!!!

Yawn......

Are you okay andysbelly?

Seeing all of these posts all saying the same strong message must be a bit weird. We are all here to support you though so I hope you're alright.

jalopy.........

Oh, how vile. What everyone else has said, really. Please leave him.

what I would say is that he has a skewed vision of reality

if you are not careful - he will cause you to see the world his way

i do think you should leave him too

he is a total tosser and an abusive one at that. Get rid. He behaviour is deplorable. Thye do not grow out of it. My dh makes sexual jokes/comments about me in company (including my mother)and he is in his 50's . It is crude and immature and you have my total sympathy. Tell him to eff off.

he certainly seems to have other qualities though, such a catch!

what he is doing is what i believe to be called giving a 'pooh tash' my little sisters boyfirend used to do it! i know tis disgusting for him to do it but i cant help giggling how gross! 15 yr old boys give pooh tash's!

giggling? ffs!

I'm with Hecate...

I wouldn't tolerate this behaviour from my SDs (13 and younger!) and I am quite certain that, even at their age, they have far, far higher standards than to wipe snot on other peoples coats. that's quite gross...

As for the fingers..... that's just beyond gross.

Seriously, I would show him this thread and all the replies.... I'd like to say 'tell his mother' but she patently didn't teach him any better.

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh to you, just that you should not have to be putting up with this from your partner!

So why exactly are you with him?

The op hasn't been back for ages...
Really, its been a long time since they were
On
Lots of people are saying ditch him.
Last day of half term in my area too...

There was a thread a while ago, almost exactly the same grammar and structure and strangely enough her "DP" was supposed to be doing something or other pretty grim too.

Can't remember what it was now (have been wracking my meagre offering of brain - can anyone else remember it?), but I can't believe you have all fallen for this, er, utter sh*t!