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disgusting joke getting me down

110 replies

andysbelly · 18/02/2008 13:35

My partner has this habbit of sticking his fingers down his jeans and then making me sniff them. When he first did it I just told him nicely that I didn't like it and didnt find it funny but since then he does it even worse. Its not as bad if its just the front but sometimes he sticks his fingers in his bum and then holds them over my face and it makes me sick almost. Yesterday it ended in a huge row because he stuck his shitty fingers in my mouth (or tried to but he ended up hurting my mouth trying to prise it open) and I kicked him in the groin (actually meant to kick him in the leg) and he started going off about how petty I was being and if I kicked him again he'd kick me back etc.

I'm not a clean freak but it really does make me feel sick and now I feel a bit down because its like he doesn't care what I think, that he can do whatever he wants to me.

Does anyone elses DH do this? he says his mates do it to their girlfriends and none of them kick off like me.

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 18/02/2008 14:09

That should actually say:-

Abusive men like him actually like women with very little sense of self esteem and worth anyway as such women can be manipulated by them more easily.

pelafina · 18/02/2008 14:09

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Wolfgirl · 18/02/2008 14:09

Attila cocklodge

lemonstartree · 18/02/2008 14:09

Yuk. Fould vile abusive arsewipe. Get Rid. Fast

warthog · 18/02/2008 14:10

i don't often feel shocked, but

dtmfa

AttilaTheMeerkat · 18/02/2008 14:11

Hi Wolfgirl

Thanks for pointing that out.

I type too fast - it should say cocklodger (thank you Viz)

pagwatch · 18/02/2008 14:13

Umm
I am really really confused as to what on earth would possess anyone to be with a 'man' who behaved like this
What on earth makes you even question whether this is acceptable or not?
More importantly i would be mortified at the prospect of any son of mine being in the compant of someone who felt that that was ok behaviour whether he did it in front of him or not.
Seriously. get away from this idiot now.
( I have a 14 year old son -and actually an 11 year old with special needs too. Neither of them would regard this as anything otherthan revolting and childish )

Wolfgirl · 18/02/2008 14:13

your'e welcome, altho didnt realise it was mistake, just a funny cock name.

SheikYerbouti · 18/02/2008 14:16

Ew, how disgusting

GET RID NOW, BEFORE THE NOB-JOCKEY DOES SOMETHING WORSE

KaySamuels · 18/02/2008 14:19

Hi pelafina no it didn't come through and I didn't want to haress you!

KaySamuels · 18/02/2008 14:20

that should say harass

VictorianSqualor · 18/02/2008 14:23

Yuck, yuck and double yuck.
It is abuse, as others have said.
If you searched domestic abuse on google one of the most common words after violence will eb humiliation. This is wrong, get out before he turns really nasty.

pelafina · 18/02/2008 14:23

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theboob · 18/02/2008 14:24

get rid he sounds vile
if i was you i would really clean the loo with his tooth brush

SheikYerbouti · 18/02/2008 14:25

My 3 year old son is more mature

dump the cockhead now, I tells ya.

You deserve better

Nbg · 18/02/2008 14:31

"Nob jockey"

ROFPMSL!!!!

ratbunny · 18/02/2008 14:33

sounds like a bully to me.

It's no longer a 'joke' if you tell him not to do it and he carries on

for you that he does this.

poshwellies · 18/02/2008 14:34

What kind of w*nker feels its normal to sit there with his fingers up his arse then has a idea to wipe it over his partners mouth!!!????-I'm still in bloody shock here.

Jackstini · 18/02/2008 14:43

Can't put this too plainly.
GET. OUT. NOW.
He is a complete fuckwit - I have never heard of anyone doing this, whatever their age.
It is not normal, it is wrong, abusive (physically and mentally) and completely disrespectful and uncalled for.
What is your domestic situation - your house or his or joint?
I think you knew before you posted that this was unacceptable hope you get the support you need to do what you have to.

Alambil · 18/02/2008 14:45

0808 2000 247 - ring them. Discuss your options. Leave.

This will NOT stop.

This will NOT get better.

This WILL get worse; leave .... asap.

lucyellensmum · 18/02/2008 14:53

I second what everyone here says. I am a totally broad minded person, but this man does not sound normal!! He sounds like a bully and tbh this behaviour is likely to be the tip of the iceberg. By allowing this man to stay you are re-enforcing his humiliation of you and comfirming to him that you think you deserve this treatment in some way.

KICK HIM THE FUCK OUT - IM SORRY BUT THIS IS AS BAD (AND IM SOMEWAYS WOSRSE)AS IF HE HAD PUNCHED YOU IN THE FACE.

He says his friends do this to their girlfriends? I DON'T think so - maybe you should bring it up in conversation one night. But then if it were me, i wouldnt be spending another night with the piece of shit scum.

warthog · 18/02/2008 15:23

andysbelly, are you living with him?

OverMyDeadBody · 18/02/2008 17:00

Good God! He's humiliating you and showing no respect towards you. Why are you with him?!?!?

This is not normal behaviour. I'd leave him asap before it gets worse. Why bother wasting time with such a twunt?

micegg · 18/02/2008 17:03

Are you serious?

donnie · 18/02/2008 17:03

bin him off right now. He is a total wanker and you know it. He won't change either.

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