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Guy I’m seeing has invited me to wedding abroad

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Flutterbye22 · 02/05/2023 14:55

Hello all,

I’ve recently started seeing a new guy, and he’s invited me to his friend’s wedding in Greece as his plus 1. I said yes, but I’m now starting to regret it. I was under the impression he would be covering quite a bit of it, but he’s now expecting me to go 50/50 on everything. It’s in a couple of weeks time, so not much notice at all! Im feeling stressed about it all and regretting saying yes.

For reference, I’ve paid £350 for my own flights, bought an outfit, paying for airport hotel for us both, paid £50 for an excursion and he’s now asking for half of the cost of the hire car (which I could do without tbh!!) I’m really happy just chilling at the Airbnb and getting a taxi here and there 😬

he had originally asked for 50/50 on Airbnb too but I explained I can’t afford it right now.

I usually have to plan in advance for holidays.

thoughts?? I’m not sure whether to go anymore but it’s all paid for - we’ve had a bit of an argument about it all.

OP posts:
Nolosomi · 04/05/2023 08:34

@GoodChat not with a small minded pedant, no.

Nolosomi · 04/05/2023 08:42

@Christmascracker0 actually they still do have to sacrifice their career - I’m self employed and there’s no way I could keep all my clients and bring up my kids. Childcare where I live was too costly and I can’t just leave a job midway through to collect my kids from school. I could only restart my career when my children were in year 7 - I’m in a slightly niche field of work so it wasn’t easy.

Christmascracker0 · 04/05/2023 10:46

@Nolosomi just because you did does not mean women HAVE to sacrifice their career.

It’s fine if you want to, but we need to stop pushing this notion that women should be expected to sacrifice their careers while men’s careers thrive. It’s 2023 ffs.

Nolosomi · 04/05/2023 13:00

@Christmascracker0 I honestly did not have a choice. It wasn’t a ‘want’ situation.

annoyedwife2023 · 04/05/2023 13:15

If he’s invited you as a guest, to an event he’s already attending, he shouldn’t be asking you to go 50/50. Only the flights and the outfit should have been covered by you. What would he have done if you had declined his invitation? He would have had to pay for the Airbnb & hire car himself.

Original poster
Flutterbye22 · 04/05/2023 13:24

annoyedwife2023 · 04/05/2023 13:15

If he’s invited you as a guest, to an event he’s already attending, he shouldn’t be asking you to go 50/50. Only the flights and the outfit should have been covered by you. What would he have done if you had declined his invitation? He would have had to pay for the Airbnb & hire car himself.

Exaaaaactly.

I think he got carried away turning this into a holiday tbh and because he knew I was coming I could subsidise it.

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GoodChat · 04/05/2023 16:35

Nolosomi · 04/05/2023 08:34

@GoodChat not with a small minded pedant, no.

It's very clear you don't know what those words mean

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