DH moving out

[Kelliesmile]

Dont really know what answers i will get but i feel so alone right now.
A bit of background incase you haven't seen any of my previous posts.
DH quit his job before Christmas (which is nothing new he quits jobs alot) and has been a lazy so and so ever since. I've been picking up overtime just to pay the bills, rent etc and I am absolutely shattered. Then to come home to a messy house just makes my blood boil which then makes me start moaning! (I have tried to ignore it and say nothing also)
For the last 3 weeks I've been telling him how unhappy I am and that I feel things are not working, he said he will make more effort but he hasn't.
Today we got into another row over the same old stuff (crisps and chocolate wrappers left on the settee, pots in the sink when there wasnt any when i left, tea and milk spilt all over the side etc)
So another row and he came into my face called me a F@#%*!g c@%& and said he hated me!
I said if that's how he felt then he needed to pack some stuff and go.
He made a call then said he was leaving tomorrow, taking all his things and never wants to see me ever again. I instantly felt a huge relief and even went to the corner shop and got some boxes for him.
As the evening went on we were civil, although he was saying its my fault because I nag all the time but I just ignored him.
Before I came to bed 3 hours ago, he said I had 24 hours to sort my shit out and ask to talk and he would stay.
WTF is that about 🤷‍♀️ so for the last 3 hours I've been in bed with a huge mix of emotions and I have to be up in 5 hours for yet another day of work.
I know us splitting is the right thing to do in the long run cause clearly neither of us are happy but it still hurts. I'm not perfect, but I will put my hands up amd accept some responsibility for this marriage break down where he is just passing the blame.
Hes already took his ring off, changed his fb status to single and told his family and friends its over.
So why say ive 24 hours to change and chat?
Any advice would be appreciated

I forgot to say on my last post I'm afraid he has 'loser' written all over him.

Hope you are doing okay. Keep remembering that initial feeling of relief you had. Thats everything. As pp's have said his tears are only for him, he is losing his home, his meal ticket, his cook and cleaner. You are gaining peace.

How did it go OP?

Stay strong OP and get this loser out of your life!

Hope he is gone and you can celebrate with a big glass of champagne in your abusive cocklodger-free home tonight

Just looked at your previous threads and I remembered some of them. Can't believe you are still with this guy to be honest. Doesn't drive, has no savings or job, has kids from previous relationship and wanted to move back to his parents' hometown. That and food wrappers on the sofa. Please tell me he is gone.

You will find that with the reduction in bills (food, utilities, council tax etc) that you may not need to work so many extra shifts once he has gone. There will be a lot less housework and stress as well! File for divorce asap - you can do this on line. If you can avoid sharing pensions, sounds like it may be to your benefit. Change your nominated beneficiaries on pensions and anything else that can pay out to your DC and don't forget to make a will as soon as you have sorted things out legally.

Good luck with this - cling on to that sense of relief you felt.

Thankyou all so much for your support.
Your the ones who's helped me through this.
He's gone 🙂
He was quite snappy with me during the packing process but then did the nicey nice act when his brother arrived!
I did cry when he left but im not sure if that was me being upset, anger or just glad tbh
I've just had a nice walk to clear my head and feel alot better.
I'm off to work soon but looking forward to getting home later this evening to no stress.
I just hope I don't start getting messages or phone calls from him.
Thankyou all once again.
P.S I got the keys back before he left x

I hope the door DID hit his arse on his way out..

Well done! 💐

Love this thread, well done OP

Congratulations on the start of your whole new life. You've just given yourself the gift of happiness, I'm really happy for you!

You are amazing OP, well done! If you start to feel even the slightest bit sorry for him, remember him calling you a FC in your face. Onward and upward for you now

Great news! Enjoy your tidy house OP, good riddance 🍷

If this man child wants to make your marriage work then he needs to shut up and let his actions do the talking

If he wants you back and you are going to give in - do not allow him to move back in! Insist he gets a job and holds onto that job for as long as you deem necessary - make sure he pays his way

however he is unlikely to change and thank god you have no kids!

set your standards higher next time

Well done OP on getting your life back. Next stop solicitors and for a divorce, then you can block him for good!

Well done, OP. You might still want to get the locks changed, just in case.

Well done 💐

OP,

Well done.

However, I doubt you have seen the last of this loser.

Get your lock changed.

Until you do, keep a key in the door at all times.

He will not like this turn of events especially when realty hits.

He has used you for a long time.

He won't like losing his meal ticket.

A new key will give you control.

Be prepared for pleas and promises with threats as well.

Well done OP 💐

@Kelliesmile well in lass, all power to your elbow and keep it up :)

Get the locks changed, OP. Good luck with your new life.

Brilliant news and do keep coming for support while you adjust. Take care.

Well done op. Just think, when you get home from work tonight the house will be just as clean and tidy as when you left it. None of his rubbish and dirty dishes all over the place, with an expectation that you will magic them all away for him🎉

Well done OP, get those locks changed!

Congratulations on your first day of freedom, OP.
You are made of strong stuff. Well done for sticking to your guns xx

Well done Just remember his nastiness this morning, that is the real him. Block him on everything, in fact change your mobile number x