@PinkIdentity I don't know how I would proceed if someone had MH issues. Often this leads to one partner giving support but not having their needs met. I think all relationships are unbalanced for periods of time - people get ill, have stressful periods etc but when its an undefined period with no change/end in sight that makes it harder. If you have been together years that might be slightly different and people really do make sacrifices but in a dating scenario or one without long term commitment, I think it's important to be aware that you don't owe MrEx anything. I'm the kind of person who gives because I like to give even if it's to my detriment.
@VanillaSox I would struggle if someone tried to read things into my texts that I didn't intend. My messages might sometimes be a bit gushy, sometimes brusque but they are not a reflection of my feelings for a person.
@Underwaterlife I think you have done the best thing.
This leads me on to my latest saga with the so-called blocker. Having deleted the convo but not blocked him (too lazy), I then receive another few messages as if nothing had ever happened. To be fair, I am aware blocker does switch his phone off sometimes which looks like being blocked to me.
I enjoy blocker's company sufficiently that I agreed to meet again. Decent open conversation about some aspects was unexpectedly interrupted. Met more of his friends who chatted with me for ages. I am sure he is seeing at least one other person. The trouble is so am I (a few).
I don't ever intend to live with someone full time again. I am happy and independent. I also don't need monogamy. But I do need to know where I stand - I would never date someone and just be a dirty secret. I want to a part of someone's life and they can be a part of mine.
I have followed the advice not to get too invested in people, be open minded and date a few people and play it really cool. And I think it's confused me. I've held back so much, I'm not sure what I think of anybody. Nobody is getting the best of me and I'm not getting the best of them.
I need to move on from this mess. Part of me says ditch everyone and hide. Part of me says ditch blocker and the others I am not sure of, leaving a couple of irons who I don't know well enough to decide about.
There is something about spending time with blocker, which makes it so enjoyable. ( Definitely not just about DTD). As a minimum I want to identify that as that will help me in the future. But the poor plan making (and I'm guilty of that too) along with everything else (including me playing it super cool) has muddied the waters.
So I am not going to initiate contact with blocker and if the plan we made for next week doesn't happen as a result, then I think that tells me enough. Hopefully distance will clarify things on both sides and were anything to continue, a honest conversation is required about both of us seeing other people. It's annoying that the open conversation was interrupted!