Dating Thread 240 - Early Summer Lovin

[qqq82]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Garysmum

agree with mila
you are beating yourself up way too hard
fact is he exhibited some behaviours that made you anxious

so yes he’s charming and you had fun
but from what you said he exhibited some red flags and you sussed them

It’s always sad and upsetting when something ends , but don’t over self flaggalate

Well, I've had a rollercoaster of a week in terms of dating. As some of you predicted, the Tinder date I slept with did resurface and was promptly swatted away. I then went on a date with someone I had quite string reservations about based on his current life circumstances. Wasn't sure if I fancied him at first but went on a second date that went for hours and ended up really liking him. It had taken me by surprise . He seems a really sweet heart but I am obviously keeping my wits about me. Meanwhile and having good messaging with two others. It's hard when you have whittled or down to people that you really like the sound of. Anyway, I'm happy today and just trying to enjoy to experience. Hope you all had a lovely BH.

Hi all. So I was encouraged to go back OLD..was funny seeing old faces after years of being off..guess the same can be said for me!
we have L.an .old face i prev chatted to..was boring then..and still is!
Another L who is nice..but A is the one I’m having great chat with. I remember how hard it was..I’m sure it’s not this easy!

Best of luck with it. Especially Mr A

@PinkIdentity thank you. How are you getting on?

his current life circumstances.

what are these? And in which way did they affect your choice?

My current partner has a lot going on at the moment… MH and change of living circumstances main issues. I don’t think I would be dating him first time in these circumstances and fancied him much to be honest. But it’s an old relationship so I can oversee a lot of his current life circumstances

if you like the guy… keep dating him and see how you feel

Best Wishes

Hello threadies

I had a rather sexual date 3 I have to say
I went along thinking 🤔 I may , I may not , not too sure …
the sun was shining and had a few drinks and boom 💥
damm that HRT

hes more FWB material BUT i like him as a person , his touch was nice and it was hot
and no anxiety

Awesome Worsy… you seem like you enjoyed this date. Hopefully it’s a good healthy relationship as a proper FWB.
You can have fun and sex after B left your life

PinkIdentity

indeed
i am questioning if I’m moving too fast or reactively

but then a 3 orgasms , nice man , very nice flat and 20 mins drive away isn’t to be sniffed at !
and I feel safe with him and even from date 1 I felt he was decent

How’s its going at your end ? Can’t imagine a long weekend of supposed family joy cheered Mr Ex
tricky time

Worsy Terrific news!!!! So glad you are having some well deserved fun ' 🥰

Rant incoming:

Well I give up
Date from a week ago today has been in touch every day since , made out he was very keen on me, I made it clear I liked him too. Has he asked to see me again ? Has he fck!
I don't expect hearts and flowers and to be whisked off my feet but if I arranged the first date is it too much to ask for him to arrange the next one ? Or even ask when I'm next available?
He knew I was free this afternoon and I won't be free for nearly another week after tonight .
So I've come home in a massive huff and deleted his number .

I'm so sick of this shit

Well I just ventured on to Bumble and just couldn't go through with it. I really am not tough enough for this jungle.

@PinkIdentity re. His life circumstances, I can't say much as it's very outing but various things including previous partner cheating on him working the last year, acrimonious split, some MH issues resulting from that and also some money issues. Maybe I'm being naive but what I care about right now is what sort of a person he is and how I feel in his company. I'm not looking to rush in to anything serious or live in with someone etc so not overly bothered by all this right now as he is a breath of fresh air

You da man (woman 🤷‍♂️)

Oh man…he’s perfect FWB material so far…he’s decent, nice flat and gave you 3 orgasm WOMAN!!!! Excellent news indeed. DO NOT GO MENTAL OK? Just enjoy the ride and it’s nice to have a friend for you right now who can totally satisfy you

Mt Ex was away with family ( sister’s home). He’s been in a really bad way these days but he’s there in countryside and resting a lot which is brilliant. I will know more when I see him in 2 weeks time. One week at a time I guess. I saw him last week and we had wonderful time I must admit . But he’s quite unwell

@qqq82 …I don’t understand what is going on…perhaps he thinks you prefer to organise date yourself. I think if you like the guy you need to discuss with him about organising next date clearly. You are busy and so is he…so there has to be agreement and will to see each other
Vanilla…it’s ok to take time out. Don’t stress and come back when you are ready

Underwater…totally with you on this one. Sometimes you meet someone who is lovely and is undergoing a tough time. He must be in a lot of pain but I think you may be also a rush of fresh air for him too. Both of you win some on this situation. Keep seeing him and see how it feels. None of these things are his fault per se…they are consequences of someone doing him very wrong.
I hope you find a space you both find joy and good times too.

Quick update from me - Coffee date with iron I didn't think I'd have much in common with (gym bunny) didn't happen Sunday. I messaged him on morning to ask if going ahead. He took 2 hours to reply saying couldn't make it and could I do following day. I replied that I too now couldn't make it and next day fine. However then I didn't hear from him the following day and decided I wasn't chasing him again so just unmatched and deleted number.

Had a friend date with Mr music Monday evening - just a trip to cinema.

And seeing Thursdays date again Friday now he's back off holiday - dinner and drinks 😁

@PinkIdentity yes, he is in a lot of pain bless his heart and I do feel quite a lot of responsibility not to hurt him in any way. He's such a gentleman and I've not really had that before. I get a little heart-leap when he messages me... which he does quite frequently telling me how good it was to meet me and how he can't wait to see me again etc. NO guile with this one. We'll see what happens.

And seeing Thursdays date again Friday now he's back off holiday - dinner and drinks 😁

super Slothy!!! Don’t waste time with guys who are not really bothered. Best of luck on your next date with Mr???? …I like it you made friends with Mr Music too.

Loving all your posts… enjoy! There is no way to fake that little jolt you are feeling every time he pings you. That is wonderful 😍😍😍

Underwaterlife

oh lovely tread carefully (says she who totally didn’t )

Worsy…let bygones be bygones woman…you are now in different place and 3 orgasm later 😂😂😂

@PinkIdentity thank you

@Thisisworsethananticpated I will try. I'm still messaging 2 others so trying to keep my head level. Dating takes up so much headspace!!

Slothmomma

Thursday is the one you like ?
but also loving the good male company vibe you have going on

PinkIdentity
mental ! Moi 😂🥴 ?
to be fair after bumble gate my girlfriends are less than enthused about me dating . I got very triggered and very reactive with B . But it was mainly his fault tbh , and I should have pressed 🛑 earlier
im sorry Ex is so unwell right now
let’s hope this is a worse to get better scenario