I wish I was married

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I`m 36 never seem to have much luck relationship wise.

Most of my friends are settled but i can never find a wife and well time is running out for me.

There are no single women in my area and internet dating just doesn't work.

Anyone got any advice ?

Well, assuming this is genuine, you sound very clinical. Wife=money=private healthcare. It’s just weird.

Have you ever had a significant relationship? How long did it last and how did it end I wonder.

What sort of person do you consider yourself to be?

I just find it funny when people say oh join sports clubs, evening classes etc as they never work.

Well, I'm going against the grain here but I don't think OP's reasons are terrible. Not everyone believes in true love forevermore. Personally I'd be happy enough with someone who felt like a good friend - if I was looking for a partner, which I'm not (happily single).

That said OP there is hardly a magic formula. You usually meet people either by happenstance, or at a joint hobby/work, or on dating apps. So you need to keep dating/meeting new people until you find the right person for you.

And there's nothing wrong with feeling the passing of time. Just because you can have children at 70 doesn't mean you should want to.

i`m just saying they are possible outcomes.

I have had a couple, lasted 2/3 years each. Not going to disclose how they ended.

i`m a good person

…what’s with all the < br /> stuff?

Thank you for seeing some of my points.

I personally wouldn't want to have kids now as 36 is abit old and when they reach their mid 30s i would be in my 70s.

If i had wanted kids i would have wanted to have them when i was in my mid/late 20`s.

My parents are older my dad is 72 my mum is 69 and I feel having kids older is abit irresponsible on a personal level.

No idea.

I don't think 36 is geriatric to have kids, the average age for a first child for men is 30-35. And that's for a first child, never mind subsequent children.

That said if 36 is too old for you, or if you just don't want children, that is an opinion you're entitled to and it's perfectly fine. However you should be open about it to potential partners.

Try and join groups and activities you're interested in to maximise the number of people you interact with, so you have the best chance to meet the right person.

You can never find a wife? 😂Have you tried lost property at your local train station? The yellow pages perhaps? Ads in the post offices window?

How would you word it ?

You need to find someone you get on with and enjoy being with before you start hoisting them up the aisle.

Do you come from a traditional background? As pp asked what's your relationship background?

And what on earth is the formatting??

I guess my background is traditional from the point of view i`m white, my parents have been married just under 50 years, grew up in a rural conservative area.

They often work for many people.

I've read your first few posts and you appear to be focused on the monetary value a marriage brings. At no point before I married my husband did I think about any of this. I married out of love, I wanted someone to share my life with, it wasn't a practical arrangement where I'd be better off and have someone to sit with at a family dinner so I'd feel less awkward. Your thinking just seems odd. No "I'd really just like to find someone to love and spend my life with", instead "well I can borrow 400k for a mortgage instead of 200k woohoo!"

They do work! Not necessarily in the way you think, e.g. dating someone at the pottery/dance/cooking/music etc class but by creating new social circles at those classes and meeting someone that way!
Also, marriage is a partnership, yes but not necessarily in a financial way! Me and my husband are very happy together but he is very much the wage earner, I have a job but it doesn't help the household much at all!
Work on your social life and maybe something will happen.

Well i would like to meet someone to spend my life with.

If they do work do you have any proof ?

Well i would like to meet someone to spend my life with

What are you looking for in a partner? What would you like to do together/talk about together? How would you like to spend your time with your partner?

Well what kind of proof would you like? 😂
I can tell you about people I know and how they met but unless you met them in real life how would you know it's true or not?
Are you a sociable person or do you struggle with that?

Well you've dodged the bullet this long... why the sudden need for unhappiness?

Have you got photos? Maybe you could get some feedback on your appearance and fashion sense

Somehow I don't think looks and fashion sense are the prime issues here.

Nope 😂😂😂

If you struggle to establish meaningful long term relationships (I’m assuming you’ve experience ONS and short term stuff more like bf/gf rather than partnership), then I’d advice counselling first.

Clearly something in the way you are/are behaving is putting people off (or you’re pushing them away ec…). It could well be that you actually dint really want a marriage. It’s just what is supposed to happen instead.

But I would run a mile from a man who wants marriage just to share the living cost and get better hols.
Because that would also mean they would be likely to run away at the first hurdle (eg illness, children, redundancy etc….)

Op you give good objective reasons for marriage but do you not want love, companionship, romance, fun, growing old together? I wonder if you seem intense when you meet someone and with an aim of marriage - rather than fun and seeing where things go.

I wouldn't run a mile at the first sign of trouble.